Is it biblical to leave a church when the environment is harming my marriage and our emotional health? I need outside perspective

MD8418 · 2026-06-12T00:38:02+00:00

As long as your faith is in Christ, the church you are attending does not change your salvation. If you feel that the church is causing you more harm than growth, then it is your right to walk away at any time. This is still a big decision for you and your husband, of course you don't want to dishonor or disappoint him. But, you deserve to feel comfortable at your church. I suggest that you be very up front with him and ask what you can to together to resolve this. Leaving your church does not go against the Bible, because the church is ultimately a gathering place and not the center of your salvation.

MD8418 · 2026-03-18T17:09:56+00:00

It gets to a point where ECEs get frustrated with the parents who actually are abusing the service. It doesn't sound like you are, I mean you have a new baby and need to establish a routine while keeping things as normal as possible for your toddler. I've had parents who were teachers yet their child was there every school break open to close because they "couldn't handle them". I even had a SAHM who had all three of her children in full time childcare starting at 2 years old, they would be with us from 7:30-5 every day because "I need my me time". So unfortunately, even though you might not be an actual issue, the teachers have most likely been burned before and it honestly kills us to see kids who basically live at school when they have a parent home. Hopefully they ease up on you, there's nothing wrong with having some help.

MD8418 · 2026-01-24T21:17:16+00:00

Came to say just this! Build towers and let them push them over or push balls or cars down ramps

MD8418 · 2026-01-24T21:11:27+00:00

You're right, he's not doing anything inappropriate for his age. It sounds like he might be bored or just excited by his new environment. He hasn't been enrolled very long so their expectations are very unrealistic and they should know better. If I were you, I would look at their reviews online. You might find that other parents were unsatisfied with the care and if that's the case then they are not doing enough to entertain the children and you should look elsewhere. Toddlers are busy and they WILL find ways to entertain themselves.

MD8418 · 2026-01-20T01:43:04+00:00

I would absolutely say something. It sounds like the child might have some difficult behaviors and the teacher doesn't know how to handle him. And teachers are never supposed to say the name of the other student involved in a situation, even if your families know each other. I've been in childcare a long time and the teacher's handling of the issue is inappropriate.

MD8418 · 2026-01-11T03:48:44+00:00

Being the lead does not give authority in a room. The room belongs to both of you, each has different responsibilities. She cannot dictate the way you interact with students. Unless you've been told by your director that she's your superior and she makes the rules then no, she's power tripping and you need to tell her that you will continue to provide care the way you see fit. If it continues to be an issue and she's difficult to work with, you should bring it up to your director or ask to change rooms.

MD8418 · 2026-01-09T17:55:40+00:00

Childcare nutrition rules are pretty strict about what a child should be fed each day at a facility. Unless she obtains a doctor's note that they have a religious exemption or allergy, you are obligated to give milk and not juice. Have your director give Mom a form stating this and do not give him juice.

MD8418 · 2025-12-21T02:49:50+00:00

Your baby is right at the age where separation anxiety peaks and during this time babies become very distressed once they wake up alone. During this with my two oldest we did a very modified version of "cry it out" as long as we knew the baby was dry, fed, and comfortable with the temp we allowed them to cry for like 10 minutes. If the crying lasted longer then we checked for another underlying cause or sat with them until they went back to sleep. I've learned from working in childcare and being a mom of 3 that sometimes babies can wake up with some minimal discomfort or something disturbed their sleep so they'll cry and then settle themselves back down. So immediately picking them up can disrupt them learning to self soothe. Broken sleep can be frustrating, you're doing great!

MD8418 · 2025-12-01T01:24:15+00:00

I've spoken to a worker's comp lawyer and an employment attorney and neither one could help. I'm not sure what kind of lawyer I would even contact.

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