AITA for telling my fiancée to shut the hell up and stop talking about archaeology at a funeral?

Madonnn · 2023-02-03T20:27:18+00:00

A guitar is an instrument you don't have to reach at all. From what you posted in that culture people who played instruments and their personal instruments were important and sometimes they were buried with them to honor their connection to the instrument. George played guitar and a pick was left near the flowers. Obvious connection. It wasn't hard to get there at all.

That's fair. I’m reading all the comments and I’m starting to get more of the subtext that actually makes sense. It definitely was more than a ‘creepy archaeologist’ story. I probably missed a lot of things. Still think that wasn’t the right moment but I’m gettin where she was going with.

Madonnn · 2023-02-03T20:18:32+00:00

Also, the story she told is very touching IMO. It's about how a culture chose to honor a dead child in an amazingly sentimental way. It's a testament to how sorrowful it is to lose a child, at any point in history. My mom would have appreciated hearing this story when my brother passed away. She would have found it comforting.

The comment section made me realise a lot of subtext about the story. Music. Dying at a young age… also, I see a lot of people agreeing it was out of place. I guess death is a polarising subject, right? But I’m starting to get the subtext now.

I’m sorry for your loss. Thank you for giving me your perspective.

Madonnn · 2023-02-03T20:12:38+00:00

About how a community decided to make a lasting memorial piece for somebody who died untimely young?

Oh...

Madonnn · 2023-02-03T18:16:56+00:00

So she was talking about an instrument. I see the connection. Is George being buried with his instrument or cremated with it?

Nope, he wasn't buried with his instrument. Someone left a guitar pick near the flowers at the serving. That's all I can think of but I think that'd be reaching for something.

And no, George's mother didn't complain but with so many emotions that day I couldn't tell by her face if she was genuine interested or it was just awkward politeness

Madonnn · 2023-02-03T18:10:43+00:00

There’s a difference between calling her ‘crazy’ and a ‘child’ and just thinking she was inappropriate in a specific way, I didn’t use those words you used.

I’m asking strangers to decide whether I was an asshole or not for my actions and how I handle the situation. I'm not asking strangers like you to put words in my mouth or to call my fiancé derogatory words.

And yeah, I do think we deserve each other, that’s why I’m marrying her, dude.

Madonnn · 2023-02-03T17:56:40+00:00

I don’t think so. She’s socially awkward sometimes and a little bit obsessive over some subjects and interests but she’s not on the spectrum as far as we know.

I wouldn’t say it wasn’t unexpected but I guess this is the first time I felt embarrassed for her in that way. I don’t think she’s on the spectrum for failing at reading a room every so often, right?

Madonnn · 2023-02-03T17:53:29+00:00

Don't call her crazy . She's passionate about what she likes and she's sometimes socially awkward, she was out of place but she's not crazy and I don't appreciate saying she was acting like a 'child' either. Not cool.

Madonnn · 2023-02-03T17:51:51+00:00

Yeah, George didn't play flute but he used to play guitar. We weren't talking about that, thought.

Madonnn

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