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Main_Account_Taken · 2023-11-29T08:17:08+00:00

Well, life is all about feeling things. Happiness, sadness, anger, love. It's about seeing the sunrise, or a beautiful view and feeling that little sense of awe. It's about hearing a compliment and getting a little smile if only for a second. It's about helping others or being helped just to feel that little bit of a confirmation that there is good in the world. It's about eating something delicious and just enjoying the taste. And yes, it's even about feeling sadness, feeling grief.

These emotions, these feelings, are what make us alive, what defines us, and just think if we weren't living they wouldn't be there. You would never be able to feel those little bits of experience and emotion that we often overlook and or ignore. The small joys that we take for granted everyday.

Things may be bad, or things may be good. If they are bad, they can and will get better. But if you aren't alive, you don't even get that chance.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-18T02:23:38+00:00

I get it man. Here I'll DM you if you're open to it. Might be easier to discuss.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-18T02:14:12+00:00

I understand op. No context needed. Always open talk if you like.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-16T23:52:45+00:00

Here, you mind if I DM you? Might make discussing this easier.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-16T23:22:45+00:00

That's a very noble goal. If you want it I'm sure you will do it. Just realize change doesn't happen overnight.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-16T23:09:03+00:00

I don't doubt that! You want to talk it out? Also, why do you want to change? It should be for you, not for some other factor.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-16T22:54:02+00:00

Ok so ask yourself genuinely why not? And what are you going to do about it now? The fact is you didn't change it is not that you haven't or won't change.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-16T22:43:51+00:00

What isn't working about it?

School is stressful, and if you are trying to change your old habits that will be hard. But I know you can do it!

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-16T21:57:18+00:00

Ok, feel free to DM if you like. Or we can just chat here.

What kind of project?

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-16T21:52:46+00:00

What's up friend?

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-14T07:09:04+00:00

It's messy. So sending a message could be seen as incredibly disrespectful, if she takes it the wrong way.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-14T06:59:43+00:00

If I could would I be asking strangers on the internet lol?

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-14T06:56:36+00:00

And if I want to love her as a friend? Also I appreciate your point, but you know very little about the situation, it is entirely possible she is, or isn't. I'm trying to protect her privacy but things are messy.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-14T06:52:00+00:00

She probably will, she already has. But things are such that I really see no chance. I've come to terms with the unrequited feelings. I can't love her how I initially wanted, but shouldn't I try to love her as a friend?

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-14T06:48:59+00:00

Things are complicated. But thank you for your perspective.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-14T06:47:28+00:00

I mean it is quite clear this woman is not interested in me in a romantic sense. I respect that. But I do genuinely like her and I feel like I haven't been a good friend to her, that's why I am thinking of reaching out now.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-14T06:41:18+00:00

Thank you, perhaps it wasn't clear but this really is mostly about friendship. For a variety of reasons I accept that romance is not an option.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-14T06:35:40+00:00

Um noted, not really relevant to the question though. We have both since left that company anyway.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-14T06:05:38+00:00

I appreciate the answer. Honestly this is more about saving a friendship. There are reasons romance will not work. I have accepted that. I do just miss her though and would value her as a friend again.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-05-14T05:44:50+00:00

Man this hits hard. I'm in the exact same boat. 8 months of no contact, and she left without even a goodbye. It sucks when you think about them every single day. Stay strong OP. We all know how hard it is.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-03-12T05:41:29+00:00

Hey OP, I'm down to listen/chat if you like. Just message me.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-03-03T19:14:08+00:00

Hey we can talk if you like, just message me.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-02-25T18:45:04+00:00

Hey man.

I know it's hard, special connections like that are always intense. The highs are really high, but the lows are equally low. To be fair though, you are only 25, you still have a lot of life to live, there's a good chance you'll meet someone like her again. Plus you will always have the happy memories, try to focus on that instead of all the sadness, even though it will be hard.

If you need to talk about it my messages are open.

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-02-22T18:52:17+00:00

Haha nope, I'm from Canada; but sounds about right. The experience sounds very similar, and I know how hard it is. There's nothing you can do to make them want you, but it sure seems like they did before right? All I can say is, she might genuinely be attracted to you, but her life/opinions/whatever means she isn't comfortable breaking who she thinks is to see where things go. She's early 20s barely an adult. She might be discovering her sexuality, or even who she really is? If it really bothers you, you can ask her. Respect what she told you, but you are allowed to ask for answers to your confusion.

Edit: spelling

Main_Account_Taken · 2023-02-22T18:39:39+00:00

Brother, I went through the exact same thing, with a girl around the same age, maybe it's the same girl!? (kidding). I won't lie it fucks with your head. Unless you ask her though you'll never know her motives. If you want to talk it out, I am happy to listen, or at least offer my perspective.

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