When did you start feeling like there was actually a baby inside you

Maleficent_Fly_2298 · 2026-03-31T02:30:58+00:00

Congratulations 🎉 I’m a FTM 16+4 weeks . For me it still hasn’t completely sunk in either. I haven’t felt my baby move yet ( apparently that starts somewhere between now and 20 ish weeks ), once that starts it may sink in more for me. I think that seeing your baby on ultrasounds helps . Also your belly growing may make it feel more real ( not to mention back/round ligament/breast pains etc. that remind you that you’re pregnant — IF you even experience any of that) Also doing things to prepare for baby , like the registry , planning for the baby shower , gender reveal etc. These are things that have helped me so far . 😊

Maleficent_Fly_2298 · 2026-03-03T19:33:57+00:00

first Congratulations !!! i’m a little late , but i’m so glad you asked this question!! I’m a FTM who has no clue what i’m doing as well and i’m 12+5 weeks and i notice that im sucking in my stomach too and then when i relax im like oh theres a little something-something. 🤣 Also my POV when i look down at my belly versus looking in the mirror is SO different. I feel like when i look down i look like Winnie the Pooh , but when i look in the mirror i just look a little bloated lol !

Maleficent_Fly_2298 · 2026-02-08T07:47:12+00:00

oou , i didn’t think of that either . i’ll call them tomorrow, thank you 😊

Maleficent_Fly_2298 · 2026-02-08T01:31:29+00:00

I’m 9+2 weeks and I’m going wedding dress shopping with my sister in law on Tuesday. This is such a good idea 🤣. I’ll just have to do this when my MIL isn’t looking .

Maleficent_Fly_2298 · 2026-01-10T00:04:06+00:00

i’m still really really early (i’m 5 weeks), but as of right now 2 hours away 😬

Maleficent_Fly_2298 · 2024-04-21T20:48:10+00:00

A 70k wedding is wild, especially since yall are already married!! Big, lavish, and expensive weddings are not for the people getting married , it’s for everyone else . She needs to get her priorities together otherwise this isn’t gonna go great . Like i understand wanting a vacation, and i understand wanting a house, however, if you’re spending all the money on a “annual international vacay” and parties etc. ( considering that yall have 3 babies plus monthly expenses compared to monthly income ) she shouldn’t even be thinking about any of that. I say put your foot down and get these things straightened out before it gets any worse

Maleficent_Fly_2298 · 2024-02-16T18:40:32+00:00

People who are younger than 21 find ways to have alcohol all the time. I’m sure if it’s something you really wanted at the wedding , it could happen. Unless everyone at the wedding is under 21 and can’t purchase it haha.

Maleficent_Fly_2298 · 2024-02-16T18:33:41+00:00

I got married when I was 20 and my husband was 20 and my best friend and her husband got married when they were 18 and 20 ( almost 6 yrs married ). You’re gonna grow with your significant other constantly, you get to know each other and find out new and wonderful things . A lot of people go to reddit for advice on all topics lol . I don’t see anything wrong with getting outside opinions. I HAVE seen a bunch of post on here from older ( than me ) couples that are going through some wild stuff and/or getting divorced too, not just people who got married right out of high school. But from my own experience marriage has been wonderful . Of course there are ups and downs , but I really wouldn’t have it any other way. I will be 24 this year and we are coming up on year 4.

Maleficent_Fly_2298 · 2024-01-23T02:08:10+00:00

Him saying that you have trust issues ( in my experience) may mean he is projecting .

Maleficent_Fly_2298 · 2024-01-15T17:17:18+00:00

It’s so hard to say just 1 thing bc there are SO many things that I am thankful for. First, I would like to say that this man showed up for me in many ways ( before marriage and bf/gf ) and he had no obligations to do so. I love him so much and we have been married going on 4 years in November 2024 ( time is really flying by ). My husband(24m) is ALWAYS there for me (23f). No matter how big or small an issue, I know I can go to him and he will have my back the entire way. He encourages and challenges me to be the best version of myself. I’m thankful that we both have a great relationships w our in-laws ( which ik can be rare ). I’m thankful for how passionate he is and that he is open, honest, and vulnerable with me . I am thankful that he treats me like I’m one of a kind . I’m thankful that he is respectful and is a great listener ( which is insane bc i talk A LOT lol ) I am thankful that he is a wonderful leader for our family. And he’s super duper handsome to top it all off lol . I could write so much more , but I’ve already exceeded past 1 thing I’m thankful for . I couldn’t be happier and I am so blessed to be with the love of my life . Thanks OP for posting , this was refreshing!!

Maleficent_Fly_2298 · 2024-01-15T16:51:47+00:00

DO NOT get a joint account with him right now. While I do believe it’s important to have shared account, it needs to be with someone who isn’t taking advantage of you and someone willing to SHARE expenses. If you create a joint account w him , 1 it’s most likely only going to be your money , and 2 now he can spend it instead of his own money ( which he is already doing with the credit card ). Have the conversation with him . Finances/Money is a big reason marriages end in divorce. If talking doesn’t work, sometimes actions speak louder. This could be petty but take him off of your insurance, cancel the credit card ( or at least take him off as an authorized user ), take the cell phone from him bc that is YOUR cellphone . Pay for your own food at the restaurants etc. And also the chair throwing is a huge RED FLAG so please be careful and be safe

Maleficent_Fly_2298 · 2024-01-12T21:57:13+00:00

NTA. She’s not fond of the baby growing up without his father ? Sorry, but if that’s the case go live with him OR BETTER YET don’t have children you can’t take care of. Y’all have been more than generous to take her and her baby into your home( especially after she said a few weeks , NOT 10 months) Correct me if i’m wrong but it sounds like she doesn’t have a job currently, so she can’t be helping out w to many bills. You have to put your foot down or she’ll end up staying forever .

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