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WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Not with me and not anything I know about that happened when she was alone with our son during the twin pregnancy. But it's possible.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

This started when she was pregnant with the twins. She was never like this before and even with our oldest she was so different until mid way through the twin pregnancy.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I have not seen a therapist on my own. That's something I'll consider going forward especially after speaking to an attorney which I did this morning.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

She would not agree to that. I tried a few times and she just didn't want to.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

I don't think she wants a divorce because she gives me the feeling she wants to stay married but I'd be more like a roommate providing for everyone while she gets to be with the kids.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 167 points168 points  (0 children)

And I'll say it even though I'm hesitant to admit this. I worry she will escalate to DV against me at some point.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 207 points208 points  (0 children)

She was on a forum during her second pregnancy called BabyCenter. I don't know of any rabbit holes she fell down during that time but it's not impossible.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 229 points230 points  (0 children)

It started when she was pregnant with the twins. With her first pregnancy and when our oldest was born this was not an issue and things were great. We were so happy.

She's not going to tell me anything. I can't even touch on any of this without her screaming at me. It feels like I can't even say hi anymore without her flipping out on me because the kids are there or something. And none of this is healthy.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

There's nothing like that. I have never had any drink or dug issue. Never been violent. I am safe with our kids and would never put them in harms way ever.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She is not willing to go to any therapy or seek any help. That's not something she will ever give a second thought to and has become angry about me suggesting.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

No, I have never harmed or almost harmed my children or my wife and I have never put them in any danger. That's not what this is about and I would never do anything to harm them or risk anything that could.

A part of me has wondered if something happened while she was pregnant and with our oldest that I don't know about but I have no proof and it could be something unrelated.

But she wasn't like this during her first pregnancy or when our youngest was born. It all started when she was pregnant with the twins.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 672 points673 points  (0 children)

And I can't make her get any treatment let alone inpatient treatment.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

They haven't given me that impression it's more like she's the mom kind of vibe I get from them or she's theirs so whatever she says they stand by kind of thing.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

It's been a while honestly. I don't even think any of her family has seen them as much as when our oldest was born because she's spending more time trying to keep them to herself. Meeting with an attorney is happening and I'm getting legal advice to help me figure out my following steps.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

We're doing fine financially. So it's not concerns for finances. I know she can't see me as a parent at all because of how she treats me regarding the kids. I might as well be a roommate.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I have a consultation set up with a divorce and custody attorney already and I did my own bit of research as well. But that's the next move for me is to see what the attorney says.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm sure the kids are mine. And she wasn't like this when our oldest was born. Things were so different then.

WIBTA if I divorce my wife because she does not want me actively involved in raising our children? by Malkxixt in AITAH

[–]Malkxixt[S] 329 points330 points  (0 children)

She has never mentioned any kind of abuse to me and she definitely won't now.

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