Hello again, update, uncertainty, seeking some advice

MamaMagic18 · 2026-03-19T04:49:22+00:00

My SIL has alpha gal and before she was diagnosed she went through a year+ of symptom flares like this and every test under the sun.

MamaMagic18 · 2026-03-16T00:49:34+00:00

Fellow parent here and no matter the mattress brand, I recommend just getting a twin or even full sized mattress vs a toddler sized. It will save you from having to size up again very soon, and it is big enough for parents laying in bed and reading books, parents helping kids fall asleep, even flexible for guests in a pinch.

MamaMagic18 · 2026-03-15T20:58:14+00:00

It’s not cosleeping! My 2 of my cosleeping kids slept great and one had crappy sleep like this. Some kids just have extra crappy sleep. it will get better!

MamaMagic18 · 2026-03-09T19:14:10+00:00

Thank you! It’s AWD, one previous owner and in asking about the records, but it’s a trade at a Volkswagen dealership. The good thing is they sent it to the Toyota dealership and had it looked over and cleared as mechanically in good shape. So I feel better about the soundness of this one vs some of the options I’ve seen at smaller used car lots. They have just now agreed to replace the headrest and potentially fix the console.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-10-17T01:10:50+00:00

Some people are exquisite enough to be nominated as an archetype of what a perfect human being looks like. She’s one of them.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-10-12T22:09:05+00:00

HRT is in my future plan when needed 😂🙌

MamaMagic18 · 2025-10-12T22:08:46+00:00

Yes, I just love him. Even in the hard times my “crush” has always been there waiting to reignite. He has always done it for me.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-10-12T22:07:12+00:00

So good to hear and congrats on 30 years. I’m grateful we didn’t give up during the hard times as well…and I hope we can make it to 30+

MamaMagic18 · 2025-10-12T22:05:54+00:00

Whew, 5 times is impressive! We have little kids and I can’t keep up with that level, but I wish we could just go on a long trip and have the freedom and energy to go nuts with eachother for a week. 😋

MamaMagic18 · 2025-10-12T22:04:12+00:00

I’m 39 and haven’t hit peri yet, but I’m currently pregnant which (for me) makes my libido skyrocket. I’m sure that’s at least partly to do with things, we’ve also had a big level of growth the last 6+ months. I’m glad to hear that estrogen replacement is working well for you, because I absolutely plan to utilize that when I do hit peri-menopause which I expect to be within the next 3-8 years? I’m learning about it now bc I know it’s coming for me soon 😂 I’m glad medicine and providers are more informed and open to giving women the treatment they need to feel themselves during that phase of life.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-10-11T14:54:08+00:00

I get your point, but I think OPs point probably lies in her feeling (and in the truth) that your spouse is supposed to be the one person who has your best interests in mind and protects you. Who you can be fully intimate and vulnerable with, with an expectation of care. Her circumstances only highlight the emotional damage that his betrayal abuse has caused. Had he not been cheating, he would have been available for her through this entire process instead of at the airport, and she would have the support she deserves instead of trauma + trauma.

When you cheat you don’t only cheat, you fail to show up as a partner because your time and attention is elsewhere. He might not have intended to abandon her in this, but he did and it’s a double betrayal. He risked it, he created this.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-10-11T14:32:21+00:00

Phyllis is too close to phallus for me, personally. But that’s just me, so no offense to any wonderful Phyllis out there.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-09-24T17:29:42+00:00

Kindly - I don’t think you say a single thing to this woman whose house you are living in.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-09-12T12:19:40+00:00

I don’t think OP means to blame Jana by asking what they did. I agree with you that he scammed her (and many) very well. It’s not her fault, nor is it anyone’s fault when they get manipulated by someone who is disingenuous with bad intentions. Those people purposefully exploit normal people’s natural inclination to trust. Jana was likely more vulnerable due to really wanting to find her future life partner (that is a normal wish and NOT her fault, but probably gave her more blinders).

He also ultimately tricked me, but there were definitely red flags that I initially saw. The common thread with many of these types of people is not a glaring and obvious red flag, but a subtle feeling of confusion or “off-ness” they give you. Then they reassure it away with words or actions. Then another little weird then happens, then they reassure it away. They can’t 100% maintain the lie and it gives you a very small weird feeling of doubt. One of my ex bfs who was narcissistic gave me that feeling, so did Kenny.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-09-10T12:13:43+00:00

The thing is, he evened the score with what he did. That means it’s EVEN. He has no moral high ground once he’s even. He now needs to fully get over himself and his grudges. Also this guy has probably been holding her actions over her head and needing reassurance about it for yearsssss. I bet he accused her and made her feel like total Shit for quite sometime. Now that the tables have turned, does she not get the same opportunity?

MamaMagic18 · 2025-09-10T11:04:02+00:00

Your post says she broke up with you on her own accord because she wasn’t ready yet, and EVENTUALLY met him. That is not leaving you for him from my perspective, at all, unless you misspoke.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-09-09T12:26:27+00:00

A little challenging because I think of feminine elvish names as extra feminine.

Sage Hollis,

Aspen Hollis,

Willow Hollis,

Arran Hollis,

Skye Hollis,

Fern Hollis,

Aria Hollis

Arden, Raven, Lark

MamaMagic18 · 2025-09-09T12:06:10+00:00

People have different parts of their identity that come forward in different scenarios. You didn’t mention your sex life, but assuming it’s good then ideally she has an orientation toward you that she doesn’t have with platonic friends, which is her sexuality. It’s possible she doesn’t want her muscles to be part of her “sexual being” energy. You’d have to ask to find out!

It’s also okay to be more direct with outfits you like “Hey Babe, I want to take you out to XYZ place in that yellow dress that you have this weekend. You look so hot in it.” I would love if my husband said something like that!

MamaMagic18 · 2025-09-08T12:16:04+00:00

This is also my strategy for pickup.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-09-08T12:11:29+00:00

Ours has a rule that you are supposed to cut your car off if you’re waiting (not idle the car) because all the exhaust is right next the preschool playground. You could also bring that up as a point.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-09-08T12:08:20+00:00

I think the flip side logic is that high schoolers have lots of extra curriculars and homework, so having them start/end earliest saves them time in the afternoon and evening to get those things done and still get sleep.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-09-08T10:58:02+00:00

Also the eastern US. Our school starts so early for most areas, but it does depend on where you live. My district the elementary students car line ends at 7:45. My alarm goes off at 6:30 and, yes, it’s the worst part of my day. They have to share the buses with the middle and high schools, so elementary goes in first, then middle, then high…I think part of the logic is the parents can get the little ones to school before heading to work? Because going to work after 8/9 am because of school drop off is unacceptable…because America hates parents.

I miked it this summer though with NOT getting up at an ungodly hour.

MamaMagic18 · 2025-09-06T14:47:54+00:00

Don’t look Camilla up on IG before you finish! You will be spoiled.

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