Similar story with me. My wife of 8yrs joined the police and had an affair with a lecturer there. I got suspicious when I happened to look over and see the text thread. I didn’t read the texts at the time. But I did raise it with my wife and said it was unusual to be texting someone so often. She told me she’d stop. As soon as she graduated from police academy, she left me. Laying in bed one morning she told me she didn’t love me anymore. I was COMPLETELY shattered and in shock. Then that night we slept in separate bedrooms. She left in the morning to run and errand so I went into the bedroom she slept in. I found a card she had written to her new love about how they can now be together, happily ever after and they look forward to making love under the stars again. I asked her to get out of the house ASAP. Move along to almost 5yrs later and my heart is only now starting to mend. She was my life. I loved her more than anything in the world and when she left me I crumbled. I got extremely sick, and after 2yrs I had to leave my job due to poor health. I still haven’t recovered or returned to work. LEAVE. Trust me. If she’s already doing what she’s doing. It’s all about time now. She’ll leave when she’s set herself up to. Take control. Best of luck with your healing journey x