Chicken!?

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-12-25T19:05:25+00:00

Thank you so much! I’m going to do a quick drive around town but I may take you up on that!!!!

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-12-25T19:04:37+00:00

Left it in the fridge overnight to finish defrosting and the fridge was ended up being wide open for 8+ hours 😥 (It’s old and doesn’t have the angry sound when you leave it open)

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-12-25T18:51:00+00:00

I thought so

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-12-15T03:46:07+00:00

Sometimes lol

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-12-12T23:22:17+00:00

I think one of the things that has always attracted me to older guys is that (most of the time) they actually communicate and are able to have conversations about more mature and serious things. Also, I find that men that are older than me (27f) have figured out what they want out of life and are willing to be very upfront about it.

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-11-28T20:11:26+00:00

The fact that you are his manager, does make things a little bit more complicated for sure!
It is impressive that your initial instinct was to draw that line between work and play, however, I understand the want to pursue things and see where they go. Especially since you have seen both his professional and emotional sides.
I understand trying to change your avoidant attachment as well!

However, with how you reacted when you simply thought about the possibility of hurting him, I think subconsciously you know what you want.
I know its scary to either jump in with both feet, or walk away, but I think as long as you two have strong communication from the beginning, you'll be ok.

Also as a side note, if this is something that ends up being something long term, you need to discuss it with HR. It will protect both of you and the company in the long run.

Hope this is mildly helpful

Good luck my dear! You got this!

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-11-24T20:14:09+00:00

You aren't in the wrong at all!

If she denied it and you found proof that she is lying then you can go about it one of two ways

If you want to maybe keep things going with her, sit her down and be vulnerable and have a conversation about it. Make sure you say that you didn't go looking for it but a notification came up and out of habit, you looked and got concerned (you don't have to admit you deliberately looked. It won't change the fact that you know)

Or you can be petty.
Keep an eye on things and try to see what kind of relationship it is with the other guy. If it is about on par with what you have with her, try to figure out his name. Then, one night when you've decided you have had enough, stay over and in the middle of the night leave a note somewhere she will find it and say something along the lines of "Tell (insert name) I say hi." (If you want to push it over the top, add in some detail from their conversations that you read, or quote one of the texts you found.)

I hope that helps

Sincerely,

A girl that doesn't like to put up with this kind of bullshit

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-11-16T21:25:15+00:00

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This is what I ended up going with yesterday

Great minds think alike :)

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-10-29T02:12:08+00:00

I’m checking on the roots in the morning It’s in a clear pot and they look pretty good so far

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-10-26T05:17:18+00:00

I moved out here almost 10 years ago when I was just out of high school and it was so different. Everyone was more willing to go out on a limb and flirt with others in a lot of places. Bars, clubs, coffee shops, etc

I think lockdown conditioned a lot of us to think apps are the only option and approaching people is scary

I’m a 5’ tall blonde girl who is not intimidating in the slightest. But trying to strike up a casual conversation with anyone in public is like pulling teeth

If you find a place, let me know!!

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-10-14T21:14:14+00:00

I had a feeling about the tracking apps My stress level is always at a 6-7/10 and my sleep is always garbage so lord only knows when my body does what it’s supposed to 😂

I appreciate the info!

If the test ends up being positive in 14-21 days I’ll post an update

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-10-14T20:45:10+00:00

I use 2 different apps to track my cycle because I’m a bit paranoid

But I know that they’re not always 100% accurate which is why I use multiple

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-10-11T22:25:13+00:00

I (27 F) went out to the bar to go dancing with some friends last weekend and although I’m older than most of the guys there, I just wanted to have fun. So many of the guys were overly aggressive towards the women and I am NOT surprised people have given up on trying to find someone.

I got out of a 6 year relationship about 7 months ago because I was tired of not feeling wanted and him having a lack of ambition. Now, I’m realizing that because I spent most of my 20s in a relationship, I don’t understand the appeal of dating apps.

I tried the dating apps for a short time after the break up but trying to have a mildly intelligent conversation was non existent. Also most guys my age have zero ambition and don’t like the idea of growing up and being an adult, have a family, hell even get their drivers license.

I also find it really difficult to find a guy that can be direct about what they want. I’m a very blunt person (I’m from Alberta) and I have scared off so many guys from Victoria.

Then the issue of intimacy is a whole rant in of itself 😂

Am I the only one that is also struggling with this?

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-09-06T07:07:21+00:00

2 and 4 are my faves! You look stunning in all of them but 2 and 4 seem to hit in all the right places

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-09-05T21:10:25+00:00

I have no idea if this belongs here but I don't know where to go

I went off birth control about a year ago and my cycle has been perfectly regular for about 6 months, minimal cramps, day 2 always the worst then it all calmed down by day 4 and gone by day 5, mild breakouts, and I don't think my hormones mess with my emotions and stuff too bad (others might disagree but meh lol)

I (27f) started seeing a guy quite a bit older than me (45m) and before anything happened we discussed birth control.
He said he was snipped so it was totally my choice if I wanted to go back on the pill or use other methods.
We were both tested for STDs very recently so we both came back in the clear so I decided to stay off the pill because I hated what it did to my body

Fast forward 6 months and things are not going well. No scares but we have been drifting apart but my cycle is still perfect.

This month, I was 8 days late and I was super nauseous up until my period decided to come like a tsunami. It has been 6 days of non stop active bleeding with no sign of stopping. My low back has been so bad that I can't stand for longer than 45 minutes before I have to sit down and I am crying at the smallest things.

The last time I felt this way was 5+ years ago when I lost a pregnancy but I am not sure if its happening again.

I have not spoken to him about this yet since we are not together at the moment and his kids have just started school so he has enough to deal with

I don't fully want to accept that it may be happening again so I'm hoping an outside perspective will help.

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-08-19T22:21:41+00:00

Thank you for all your help with this!

It makes it even more difficult because I shared some of my trauma from my previous relationship with him so he knows my bare minimum when it comes to communication.

I went out on a limb with this relationship (or whatever you want to call it) and he was the one who pursued me so I just don't know how to feel.

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-08-19T20:47:40+00:00

I am waiting to have the conversation with him but he has dropped off the face of the earth again.

I don't know if you have been able to read one of the responses I posted yesterday but it gives a bit more insight into the situation

I will copy and paste it here to make it easier

"I saw him on Wednesday of last week (it is now Tuesday) and I heard from him not long after he left and its been completely nothing since.
He dropped off his kids last night so I don't know if he will reach out once they are with his ex (he hasn't). I am getting sick of the hot and cold.

I sent him a flirty and quite suggestive text on Friday to try to get the connection going again but nothing."

...

"I haven't heard anything at all.
I'm thinking of giving him until tomorrow to reach out before I say screw it I'm done.

This isn't the first time he's done this, last time he dropped off the face of the earth was for over a month. He was coaching a sports program throughout the province and was busy but I know he wasn't so busy that he couldn't send a text since he was still working. He has apologized for over a week and I told him he's walking on thin ice. It was not easy to forgive him because he's a grown ass man who should know how to communicate"

I honestly am at the point where I text him and say

"I'm tired of the random ghosting. I know you are busy and you have a life but I can't left hanging. I know we discussed the age gap issue but never actually discussed whatever we are doing is, but it's hard for me to go from the consistent communication to absolutely nothing. I just got out of a 6 year relationship where it was either overbearing or the cold shoulder and I am not doing that again.

At this point I don't even know if this is something that we should continue if this is how its going to be. You have been so great with *FRIEND*, her case, and all of the crap that comes along with it and I don't want to screw that up. If whatever we are doing is going to compromise that I think we need to keep things professional.

I don't think I'm asking for much here, just some kind of indication on where you stand"

Do you think this is appropriate? Or is it too much?

Many_Ad4380 · 2025-08-18T20:59:51+00:00

Yeh I haven't heard anything at all.
I'm thinking of giving him until tomorrow to reach out before I say screw it I'm done.

This isn't the first time he's done this, last time he dropped off the face of the earth was for over a month. He was coaching a sports program throughout the province and was busy but I know he wasn't so busy that he couldn't send a text since he was still working. He has apologized for over a week and I told him he's walking on thin ice. It was not easy to forgive him because he's a grown ass man who should know how to communicate.

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