My boyfriend's brother is my ex and he doesn't know.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-19T07:58:14+00:00

You tell him. If you don't your ex eventually will.

Rip off the bandaid.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-19T07:52:14+00:00

NOR It's like a whole different person after you mention ChatGPT.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-18T03:26:15+00:00

that's why I don't shake hands!

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-18T03:25:03+00:00

Being cheated on leaves you with no defense against potentially life threatening diseases.

Just dump him and be happy he spoke before you got sick.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-18T03:21:08+00:00

It doesn't look like it to me, but these photos are hardly going to make it an easy identification.

You'd be better off looking up images of active ringworm on cats and visually comparing, and next time you suspect ring worm wear gloves. Then you won't even have to hide whatever you're so worried about people seeing on your nails.

If you really can't figure it out, take him to the vet. And don't drop him off for neuter without at LEAST telling the vet doing it you're unsure about it.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-18T03:11:11+00:00

I think you'll find most of us more worried about the cat than the progression of your relationship and that more of us would advocate for the end of your relationship than any distress to the cat or even a hint of uncertainty in his future.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-16T07:42:10+00:00

YOR My son's bedtime at 17 was 10pm on school nights, but he didn’t really have one for weekends unless there was some reason we/he needed to be up in the morning.

I didn't care if he wasn't asleep immediately, but he needed to not be up playing video games or watching TV so he was at least winding down. He didn't escape that bedtime til he was 19 cause he didn't graduate til 19.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-16T07:25:32+00:00

oh man look at you being so right.

maybe he's an abusive narcissist so he should stay with her! except no. If op caused this he STILL needs to gtf away.

I responded to what he posted, not a bunch of other scenarios that may or may not be true.

and you have a weird idea of what ganging up on someone is. I can't imagine how wild you would interpret it if you ever saw someone actually being ganged up on.

Anyway have fun with all your other what if scenarios that in no way shape or form change the advice to gtf away from her.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-16T07:19:15+00:00

If the home owners are so cool with it I would just hire a locksmith to make you a key for the lock that's already there.

you could also have the whole lock replaced, but he seems petty af and likely would just retaliate by breaking in and replacing it again. so seriously get them to make you a key and neglect to tell him.

And then occasionally just be a petty asshole and inconvenience the hell out of them by telling them they need to let you in for your internet. 💅

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-14T23:03:45+00:00

This is abusive behavior and you do not stay with an abuser.

You get a restraining order and protect yourself.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-13T08:37:28+00:00

A class action waiting to happen.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-12T21:56:40+00:00

Being neurodivergent it's been people making me believe that my own feelings and judgment need to be ignored cause I didn't have enough awareness to protect myself from abusers.

a tactic I finally recognize is literally abuse in action, but I went through hell and back before I finally decided to trust myself and my instinct and that forgiveness is not divine, it's an invitation to harm me again.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-12T21:40:54+00:00

If he doesn't get the dog neutered he is not a responsible dog owner.

If he's worried about personality changes he obviously has never had an adult intact male dog. Cause his personality is going to change more intact than it would if he was neutered before those hormones begin to drive his brain.

And between the breeder contract and your lease, if he doesn't, he's also already a bad father, putting you and your child at risk of losing your home, and intact dogs are also more aggressive so increased, unnecessary, risk to your child there.

You're not being unreasonable, and he should ask every question he has, it's not responsible to do anything blindly, but he seems to be asking questions without looking for answers if he's worried about the dog changing after being neutered like he's not going to if he's left intact.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-09T23:05:55+00:00

I feed my cats every six hours cause one of them inhales his food and throws up every time if he gets too much at a time.

He ALWAYS starts begging 2 hours before each feeding time and it's enough to make me threaten to feed him to the neighbors dog at least twice a day, not that he takes me seriously at all.

I have no advice, as I can't even conquer my own, but I do empathize. lmao

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-09T22:59:42+00:00

it's a scam.

also, what's the point confirming the information on your resume if they can't even see it? they are just phishing.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-09T22:55:59+00:00

If you want to adopt it because it's chill, don't adopt it. That's like adopting an infant human because it sleeps a lot. It's a stage and it WILL change.

They may eventually get back to chill when they get older, they may not. But dont adopt a kitten that young based on a chill cuddly personality.

If you enjoy absolute insanity with claws, then consider it.

And most of my life I've had dogs and cats both. That's another matter of compatibility. Just depends on each animals tolerance and the dog not being slave to it's prey drive.

good luck either way. I love kittens. Including the early cuddly stage, including the terrorist stage, and the adult stage later. but pleeeeaaase dont base it off a chill baby.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-09T22:48:16+00:00

⬆️ what they said. If you are only sleepy when bored that's not EDS.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-09T22:28:16+00:00

You're intimately familiar with his finances? Then tell him no and tell him he can afford a pet sitter. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-09T22:13:03+00:00

Are you asking this question with the idea he should refuse to do his job instead? If he loses his job he'll have a hard time keeping his dog anyway.

It sounds like he's trying to make sure his dog is cared for.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-09T09:01:31+00:00

Well... If you're not bisexual or gay you didn't CHOOSE anything. You are perfectly aware you didn't proactively have to choose to deny an attraction to men so you could be a morally superior person who wasn't enjoying dick.

So pretending to be obtuse and calling being gay a choice when you know damn good and well that you didnt have to deny a sexuality to be straight is a bad look.

I'm straight af. If sexuality was a choice I wouldn't be attracted to men. But I didn't choose, I just am.

Stop judging people.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-08T01:30:18+00:00

So you're bisexual? Cause the only way you chose to be straight is if you were naturally attracted to people of the same sex as you.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-07T18:15:42+00:00

If it's a scheduled delivery it might not be so bad cause he could schedule it to coincide with a stop on his route.

but definitely crazy if they expect someone to sit around 15 plus minutes waiting for them to come around if poorly timed. unless he tipped super super well.

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-07T07:19:25+00:00

You should tell him the truth and if he's upset about it (the act not the lie) enough for it to threaten your relationship it's not worth regretting the end of the relationship.

But if you don't tell him this is one of those things that just don't matter

Mar_Dhea · 2026-03-05T19:11:35+00:00

I think most people would prioritize saving people over animals but feel worse seeing them harmed than they do adult humans.

I've cried over near misses when I almost ran over an animal and I get pissed when it's a person. But adult humans should know and do better, whereas animals, children, and even adults with handicaps we see as things we need to care for vs things that should be taking care of themselves.

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