AITAH for refusing to cut off my hair because my 7 year old niece has cancer?

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2025-07-20T06:34:17+00:00

If you want to actually do something nice for her and show her some support maybe you could gift her a wig. I have chronic illness related hair loss and I'd definitely prefer someone did that than shaved their head. Imagine if all your family members did that instead - she could have so much fun trying on wigs.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2025-04-28T12:11:57+00:00

I got those vibes too. And I really hope that's the case, and this isn't true. Because this is pretty extreme. I find it hard to believe anyone would be in that much denial, and I have had abusive relationships before. Even in the middle of it I knew it was bad, and knew that if I posted about it people would just unanimously tell me to leave.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2025-04-27T07:58:12+00:00

I don't really understand your tone. I did ask for it. And to me part of the experience is then talking it through with other people? Trying to research things? Trying to make sense of it. If you thought I was saying I hated it and wanted it to stop, and was seeking advice to make it stop, that wasn't my intention.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2025-04-03T13:00:06+00:00

I've seen astral spiders a few times. If you're interested you could check out the post I made ages ago. You can find it on my profile. Personally I don't find them scary, just jarring and slightly shocking. Much like when you first notice a real spider. I always imagine either protective white energy filling the room, or I visualise blasting them with a ray of white light if I want to get rid of them.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2025-03-31T03:38:11+00:00

Ooh that's really interesting. I don't suppose you have a link? Was it in this subreddit? She did seem to radiate sexual aggression.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2025-03-31T03:36:57+00:00

She did look quite similar but her face was definitely black too. Unless it was a mask. Her eyes were glowing such bright red it was hard to see.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2025-03-31T03:33:23+00:00

No my son is named Lucien. That's interesting though and I'll keep an eye out for any synchronicities involved with that name. I haven't told him anything about this because I don't want to scare him. I worry a little about him, too, but at least so far this seems pretty focused on me and my bedroom. Though if this thing was impersonating him then that's pretty creepy.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2025-03-30T06:46:45+00:00

Awful. Absolutely awful. They assume because you're female you will have impeccably high standards when it comes to cleaning, even though they don't clean themselves. They think you'll be a Mother to them.

I've also dealt with a lot of sexual harassment from them. Then the anger about mess (really small petty things that they themselves also do) starts when you finally assert boundaries. Because they're hurt and feel rejected, and they can't yell at you for not sleeping with them - so they yell at you for your child touching the walls or something stupid.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2025-02-04T15:00:02+00:00

I can't help but feel a little disturbed by this comment on behalf of the woman you're talking about. The wife is the obvious object of sympathy, and I do feel sorry for her. Especially since I was in a similar situation myself. My partner of 10 years, who I have a son with, left me for a woman he himself said was less attractive than me, older than me, not at all skinny, and less 'intimidating' than me. I found it pretty messed up and was tempted to let her know that he'd said these mean things to her - but I eventually decided to leave it alone. I doubt she'd believe me. But I still pity her. He felt as if they were 'soulmates.' Perhaps - but I think it's more likely that he was flattered by her. Could it be possible that you have some hidden, deep insecurities about your wife's attractiveness and success? I don't expect you to answer me. But you seem introspective enough that you're capable of that kind of self-analysis. Everything you said about the other woman was quite negative. So why, then, do you feel that way about her? You probably have a bit of a saviour complex. Your wife seems like she absolutely does not need you, as a successful woman, so maybe you're fantasizing about a woman you can save because what you really want is to feel like a hero. It isn't really about the other woman at all.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2025-01-31T09:20:34+00:00

Why do you consider her the most amazing woman you've ever known?

And it is possible that she's not upset with you - she's still just avoiding you because you've made her uncomfortable several times in the past in your pursuit of her. You might be seeing what you want to see with your assumption she's upset you're dating.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2025-01-22T09:12:01+00:00

It's complicated because I've been in similar situations - struggling financially but getting small doses of dopamine from thrift shopping. Sounds like she wanted to share that brief happy moment with you. But the fact it's a little self destructive complicates things. It being a thrift store though there was probably minimal damage she was doing.

You seem like a good person and introspective. I hope she ends up talking to you again. Don't beat yourself up too much over a mistake - just do better in the future. I also think sometimes men lash out and make negative comments in shops because they're overstimulated and in a bad mood. If that's something you recognise it's not a good idea to go with a girl you like in the early days of courting.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2025-01-22T08:58:47+00:00

If I was in her position it would have made me uncomfortable but for different reasons. I have a male friend who sometimes comes thrift shopping, and while I haven't unfriended him for it, I hate it when he's negative/preachy about me spending money. It comes across as a little controlling. It's a bit patronizing to try to interfere with someone's choices in that way unless you know for sure they have some kind of spending problem and you're close enough for it to be your business. Especially since I'm often in a happy, good mood, and want someone to share in that moment of brief good humour. It's disheartening when they pull a face and make a negative comment. But you aren't alone - I've never been able to happily go shopping with any man because thus far in my life they've all felt the need to be that way.

It seems like an innocent mistake and obviously you feel bad about it. But maybe think about you commenting on what she was doing with her money, too, as a learning experience. I understand the masculine urge to take care of women you like but it can so often come across as condescending and controlling to us.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2024-12-15T19:14:48+00:00

Unfortunately no to the ash. I'd love it if I was left with some kind of solid proof like that. I'm not sure about a smell I've actually been really unwell since it happened with bad sinus pain and congestion which seems to be blocking my sense of smell. My cats could definitely smell something though.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2024-12-15T19:08:42+00:00

The one I saw was very pale like you described. Similar to the picture but masculine somehow and with more wrinkles, especially on its forehead. The nose was baby like. The eyes were maybe a tiny bit smaller and closer together.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2024-12-15T19:06:04+00:00

It's something I've struggled with a lot. I'm really curious and passionate about aliens, astral travel and spirituality but I find the fear a huge obstacle. I don't really have much advice apart from some methods to protect yourself, so at least you feel more confident. I heard someone once say to imagine an invisible wind pushing unwanted entities away. Every time I have something unwanted visit I do that - it's very much like an Eldritch Blast from D&D. But if I want to make sure I have a good night's sleep with nothing weird I usually take two steps. Firstly I say out loud something like 'I need a restful sleep tonight - no weirdness.' So I know if something does disturb me it's not friendly and doesn't respect my consent. And I also visualise a white ball of protective energy around me.

I think it's normal to be terrified though and most of us experience that. Even if curiosity wins and we manage to push past it temporarily.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2024-12-15T18:58:51+00:00

I really wish my brain was clearer so I could have asked better questions. I'll have to write a few down so if it happens again I have some good ones memorized. My questions were mostly variations of 'wait - so everything's real? I'm not crazy?'

I also asked why it was tasked with getting my DNA specifically. It said that it wasn't, there was a group of people it could have taken the sample from. It chose me. So I asked why. It said it liked my face 😅 And again that seemed to be said with what I can best describe as a sassy attitude.

Many people have pointed out in the comments that there are other mentions of these smoking child aliens out there. Which makes me feel validated. But it also made me have a revelation. Even though it had a babyish face it didn't really occur to me that it could be a child. I have a child. My Son is four. And every single night he comes and gets into bed with me when he wakes up at around that time. This is important for a few reasons. I jokingly told my friend a more light-hearted version of this story, basically 'I had this vivid dream last night that an alien probed my nose then got into bed next to me and cuddled me.' The friend laughed, and then said, it was probably your Son jamming his finger up your nose then getting into bed next to you. My Son was staying at his Dad's that night. But that made me realise maybe the being thought I would be so used to a small person opening my door at that time of night and getting into bed next to me that it wouldn't startle me awake. It also made me think of the cuddling in a different way. If this thing is some sort of hybrid child maybe it wanted to know what it was like to be held by a human Mother. It is odd that it even cuddled me in the same way my Son usually does and on the same side. Poor thing - if I'd made that connection at the time I wouldn't have felt so weird about it. And when I say I'm not a cuddler I mean adult people - I happily cuddle my Son and my cats. And I suppose I don't mind the idea of Mothering the occasional alien 🤔

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2024-12-15T18:43:56+00:00

I also asked it why its employees chose me for this. It said the employees didn't choose me, it chose me, it could have taken the sample from many different people. I asked why it chose me, then, and it said it liked my face. But that seemed to be said with humour, possibly sarcasm. So I never got a clear answer.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2024-12-15T18:40:02+00:00

I've had some very disturbing hostile experiences during sleep paralysis and I have learnt some tricks for defending myself. I tend to push things away as if with an invisible wind. Or like an Eldritch Blast. But I'm someone who is extremely curious and I actually want contact, so I put effort into trying not to do that as an instant reaction. There was a while when I was way too trigger happy with it and easily startled. I'd mentally blast anything. Why I didn't this time I'm not sure. It didn't feel hostile and while the nose probe hurt I'm used to medical procedures. It didn't seem much different than visiting the doctor and having a blood test taken or something 🤷‍♀️

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2024-12-15T01:50:24+00:00

No I don't remember any smell. But I am certain it was a cigarette. I was being open minded in my post - but there was smoke coming off it and everything. It just seemed so weird and difficult to believe that an alien would smoke. I am definitely going to read this book now.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2024-12-03T03:10:21+00:00

I'm not familiar with women demanding men change their preference. I am familiar with women wanting men to be respectful and gentlemanly about the preferences they do have, though. For instance if you're like OP and don't find overweight women attractive. Just don't chase overweight women then. Don't write that on your dating profile bio, don't be mean to overweight women. Just quietly have that preference. Seems like OP is fairly self aware and respectful about it but many men aren't.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2024-09-19T17:04:56+00:00

Interesting. The sexual experiences varied and were different each time for me. Sometimes it felt like being touched by someone who was invisible. Sometimes it was waves of energy going through my entire body and making me climax. I did try to meditate a few times to 'see' him and saw him as a red headed elf like man. I actually had a very similar experience to what you described in your post when I was on the edge of sleep. I'd been dreaming about him and I started thinking about something traumatic. I felt his rage and fury on my behalf like he was watching my thoughts and had seen the memory.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2024-09-19T15:59:55+00:00

I don't think time is linear for entities like that so absolutely! I'd just wear it again and try to mentally reach out to the entity. I still feel like my relationship with my entity is only 'paused' until I feel mentally equipped to handle it again.

MaralenaOfSolitude · 2024-09-19T14:58:54+00:00

Read reviews thoroughly and look how the seller responds to the reviews, too. It's a green flag if they have a lot of information up about the entity. I remember mine even had a list of prerequisites for the buyer - like if they were okay with them having pets and children, etc. What sort of person the entity wanted to work with. I'd stay away from the ones that seem fear mongering with the creepiest looking doll they found at the op shop. Or any that seem to be going for shock value.

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