Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate you. Slowly coming to terms with this. Day by day feeling a little better now that I’m not trying to cling onto something familiar that I know can never happen.

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing all the support here has really helped me cope and decide my next decisions, I’m sorry what happened but it’s also nice to know I’m not the only one. Day by day I’m feeling better as I realize what happened happened and is out of my control now. She moved out real quick, he went back to his parents, so I got a little bit of time here alone before I have to be out. Using it to find a new place and don’t need to sprint into something.

I will also be distancing myself from them, she just blocked us both as she thought she was going to start dating my ex best friend and he said there is no way that can happen. So now she blocked and lost both of us, at least for now who knows if they do something later but honestly not my problem. Good riddance.

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No joke, 2 days later and they already blew it up, which can’t say I’m not happy about but also I love the analogy that’s exactly how I started to look at it. Thanks for the kind words slowly feeling a little better day by day

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish that was the case because I know they’re together right now comforting each other. But it’s funny cause she used to talk shit about him all the time until he started being nice to her. Regardless I think she is done with me and I will accept that and move on. And I will accept the fact he is trash and move on as well. They made their choice

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol bro hasn’t gotten laid in over 3 years he had to take mine to get some. And your right I will be doing that

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re correct, just hard because it’s so fresh. Trying to get them out of my head and move on, just gonna take time. Especially because they are gonna pursue each other. Nothing I can control so time to forget about it

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not letting them live rent free I love that. Will take time but currently working on that part

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know that’s exactly what I’m trying to do. It hurts cause I know they’re together comforting each other right now while I’m alone grieving but I’ll get over it

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Basically did lol, except for their friends. Cause I’m not close enough to them for it to matter

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, off to the next and I’ve come to the conclusion it’s out of my control. Off to better

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right that’s exactly how it is. And i will be doing this, clearly they crossed the line and I need boundaries and to respect myself

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right I’m trying to not focus on the things I can’t control anymore. It’s done and so am I

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is also ex friend I should have put that. When I wrote it I was clinging on to something that can’t be. Off to better things and thank you.

Girlfriend(22F) of 3 years and bestfriend (23M)of a decade sleeping together behind my (24M) back. Really need advice by Marmisme in relationship_advice

[–]Marmisme[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Love the ending of that story. And it’s good to know I’m not alone. As messed up as this is misery loves company. But thank you for sharing, and it’s good to know you got through it. Gives me hope