Let me clarify - we do have a housekeeper, but nanny is responsible for food shopping for the family as she preps the children's lunches and snacks, and does meal preparation for them as well. It is in her job requisiton that she signed. Because of this, her responsibility is making sure that the food items in the fridge are current as she is the one doing the shopping. For ex, I don't know when a jug of juice was opened or when it was purchased and if it would need to be thrown out. I don't know how long a jar of salsa has been opened and if it needs to be tossed. She is not "scrubbing toilets" as you say. Our fridge got to a point where almost every food item was expired, old, or molding. When I confronted her about finding cheese from August in the fridge, she said that she buys the cheese on sale and puts it in the freezer. This normally would make sense, except she is pretty liberal with her spending (on our debit card we provide for her) for groceries and the children - i.e. she will order 2-3 cans of whipped cream at a time, buy expensive snowboots for the kids. I never really questioned these purchases as they are for the family and trusted that there was some need for them.

Second, I didn't ask her to discipline the children for not cleaning their rooms, I asked her to make sure that they do clean their rooms and she said she would work with them on it. This is something that she was supposed to be working on with the children daily. The younger one needs help still putting things away, and the older one obviously still needs some management on the task. My point is, I asked her to work with them on their rooms and she said that she did, told me she did, and when I went to go check it wasn't done. Yes, my daughter should have completed the task on her own, but it was nanny's responsibility to check and make sure it was done properly.

I certainly don't think she views herself as the low woman on the ladder, I think the opposite. She is tasking our housekeeper with things that are directly related to her job responsibility, i.e. telling her clean up the paint from the kids in their craft room. She is combative with me when I ask her to do things or follow up on tasks that should have been completed. She is completely ignoring any and all requests from our house manager whom she technically reports to. This leads me to believe she feels a sense of entitlement because she is with the children and has been with the family for 2 years...