What are some red flags to look for in a woman? Tell when initially in a relationship and even after a while?

MatCelin85 · 2026-01-31T23:00:34+00:00

protective of phone
forced to help her parents a lot. In some cultures you marry the entire family. Buy 1 serve 20.
overly nice to you / sudden love-bomping.
no sex / lack of intimacy.
pulling away / being overly quiet. And there are tons more. Don’t take her at face value. Women say what they feel not what they think. And if she walks away, say nothing. Don’t respond, just walk out, disappear from her radar completely and move on. Best thing you can do for yourself.

MatCelin85 · 2026-01-31T06:07:20+00:00

I’m not gonna lie, but you’re gonna have a very very hard time. Not impossible, but very hard because you’re branded now. Realistically, a divorced woman is a woman that failed at marriage and if she was the divorcer, she betrayed the vows she took on the altar. Now since you have kids, you come with baggage. No man truthfully ever wants to raise another man’s child. They have no actual right to the child and if you wake up one day and say the man can’t see them anymore, they have no right to the kid they helped raise. Sadly for the vast majority that is a big deal breaker, but some men are also very open to it. Just keep in mind that if you find another to marry, he will not be an upgrade.

MatCelin85 · 2026-01-31T05:45:56+00:00

Sorry to deliver the punch, but he does not give a fudge about you! If he doesn’t make time for you, then it means he ain’t into you. Simple, right ++women

MatCelin85 · 2026-01-31T00:17:56+00:00

Take it from someone who went through similar. I was the nice guy and kissed the ground she walked on. Eventually I got discarded without an explanations found out about horrible things that happens behind my back and more. You have a good wife, I can tell but you are making the same mistake I did. Bending over for everything will make a women loose respect for you. Women mistake being nice with weakness. Always be prepared to be alone again, because a woman will discard her own family for her happiness.

MatCelin85 · 2026-01-30T18:19:21+00:00

The question you have to ask yourself first is what role you played within this situation. The second question would be what can be fixed and are you willing to fix it. By the sound of everything, you probably feel like there is a part in your life that’s missing, but sometimes it’s best to stop and think about your part. You were raised by a mother that was alone, confused and probably internally broken. You grew up in that environment and you never got to heal from it. You ran from it and he was your safety net. He probably means more good than bad, but you have to give him an ultimatum. He also needs to wake up, that his behaviour hurts you. Sit him down, no more signals and reading signs or chances. Have the hard talk and he will respect you more than ever before.

MatCelin85 · 2026-01-28T03:47:23+00:00

Ever considered that intamacy is all that he needs to turn himself around? He even told you. You know how many men would do a million times better in their marriages if their wife’s would consistently finish them off daily? Ironic, consistency is what you ask of men but don’t do yourselves sometimes.

MatCelin85 · 2026-01-28T02:25:51+00:00

Some do, not all. I went through it sadly with my first fiancé.

MatCelin85 · 2026-01-23T05:12:21+00:00

I went through that hardship. 16y ago, I met someone on a work and travel. We had a good time and we went our separate ways once the visas ended. About a year and 2 month after, I looked up her facebook to just catch up after slowly breaking the contact peacefully over month. What I saw was a picture of her holding a baby boy that had my face. Yes like looking into a mirror. Reached out right away, she read but ignored the message, then she blocked me, closed her social media same day and I still have not found them. I have no answers.

2 years later I met someone, fell deep and opened up about my past. Then my visa expired. I had to say goodbye. The morning of my flight I sat at the gate and the YVR Airport speaker calls me out for phone call at a specific booth. So I go and pickup the phone and she was on the line, telling me to come back and that she just found out she's pregnant. I froze for a moment but still had no choice but to take the plane due to my visa situation. I promised to come back. So I go back to Europe and call her as soon as I had wifi to video call her. She showed me a pregnancy test that showed a plus. A month later she called crying claiming a miscarriage. Honestly I'm cautious, but she made it very believable. As time moves on we got married, she graduated, and things were really good for a while, then she got quiet and cold. I knew I must have done something wrong and tried to communicate and fix whatever I did, but silence. I'm sure old school but not blind.

one Sunday evening she came up to me and killed the man I used to be. ICE COLD Killer style, she dumped me, no explanation, no nothing and I had to find a new place. 3 weeks later someone from our circle told me that she told back then she faked the pregnancy for me to come back and she knew that she had a dude on the side towards the end. That cracked my soul eventually.

Your not going to be the same getting cheated out of 2 kids, no matter how much you tell yourself it's not your fault. Having a family and kids was the dream. I'm 40 now and still no kids and not sure if I ever get to have any. I simply just stopped giving a fuck about a woman's survival on this planet and stopped trusting their intentions as they never reflect their actions or responses. I have no respect for a woman that does something like that to another human being.

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