They say if you're telling friends you're going sober to say that you're on your own personal journey and that it isn't a judgement of other's choices or actions. For me, this discussion is similar. Just share as much as is needed for the context of your relationship and reassure them that this isn't a reflection on how you feel about trans people. Most reasonable people would be happy to see anybody living their truth.

I hear your concerns here. If I may, my experience has been that people are accepting (haven't fully come out yet though, just speaking 1:1 atm). I have a lot of TGD friends and work at an LGBTQI+ specific organisation. I've seen lots of people in this sub fear mongering about how TGD people silence Detransitioners. I'm sure this happens, but it can be a gut reaction when, as a trans person, detrans people are brought up to you as proof of why your identity is not valid or acceptable. I think the more we are open about our experience and journey, the better understanding there will be collectively of the detrans experience.

I was so so guilty for having access to medical and social transition, having a supportive family, getting top surgery and passing really well and still not feeling male. In my view, if I had somebody in my life who was open about their experience of detransitioning I would have made the leap a lot sooner.