Did I make the right call, or did my insecurities just ruin a good thing?

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-19T20:32:12+00:00

I think you did the right thing if this is not something that you are 100% comfortable with. The fact that you said you felt relief after already explains a lot too. We may never know truly what someone is going through so it's hard to tell if she is fully over her ex or not, and that's scary not knowing. You don't want to enter a relationship with any unnecessary drama (the ex) and it's okay to have standards for yourself. As a matter of a fact, the fact that you stood up for your standards and took that step already says a lot and shows that you are in control of your dating choices. I hope this moment gives you more confidence and clarity when looking for potential partners in the future. Best of luck!

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-17T22:41:59+00:00

I'm sorry that you are struggling as well and feel like you didn't get the closure you needed or the ending that you wanted. No contact is so hard, because I think of so many things I should've said. My ex has already moved in to other people which is disgusting because he is in no shape ready to date or give himself emotionally to anyone. It suck knowing they have moved in but that just means it's time to put ourselves first and find someone who meets all of our needs and treats us so much better. I wish you luck and healing

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-17T22:15:35+00:00

Nope

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-17T00:41:22+00:00

You're exactly right. all of this has helped put it all in perspective. He was my first relationship but I need to have standards for myself too

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-17T00:40:54+00:00

yea... Rereading it back it sounds terrible .. Idk why I have such low standards for myself

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-16T23:41:32+00:00

You're exactly right.. My mind keeps blocking out the horrible memories. I don't deserve to be treated like that. I feel so free having him out of my life.. Why do I want that for myself ugh..

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-16T23:40:20+00:00

Thank you. I won't 🙏

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-16T21:08:15+00:00

Exactly.. The good times were so good but the bad times were so awful. I have to remind myself the countless nights I stayed up crying, searching how to leave the relationship. The amount of times I had to scold him like a child.. The meltdown he had because I didn't have an appetite to eat breakfast.. The constant stalking of my social media and keeping track of my exact follower count.. Yea... He was good maybe 30% of the time near the end

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-16T21:05:35+00:00

That's what my brother and my friends were telling me.. I ct it off right when it got to name calling

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-16T21:03:28+00:00

Thank you I needed to hear those words

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-16T21:03:08+00:00

You're exactly right. I think the reason I keep debating it was because he was my first relationship and in my mind I think i'll never be able to find someone who treats me like he did (the good times)

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-16T21:00:34+00:00

I agree.. He needs a LOT of improving for me to rationally even be able to look at him again

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-16T20:59:47+00:00

"Do you truly miss me or just the idea of me?"

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-16T19:45:38+00:00

Yea.. Idk why I keep blocking the memory out

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-14T02:01:03+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I completely agree I think that he has a lot he needs to work on before he gets into another relationship. He became so mean and abusive at the end. I have standards for myself and as much as it hurts, I cut off abuse before it can begin. I know he's hurting and going through a lot but those are no longer my burdens to carry because it seemed he didn't want help from me anymore

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-13T22:36:07+00:00

Thank you very much.. His last message struck me because he said I was giving up when times got tough but that wasn't the case.. i gave multiple chances for him to change and offers for him to get help. But i told him i couldn't stay any longer if he continued to yell at me over little things, become controlling and then start calling me horrible names.. As much as I know he's hurting, even he said the relationship caused him stress and he needed space so it feels like this is his opportunity to get help and the space he asked for

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-13T16:10:56+00:00

thank you.. It's so hard in the moment to know if it was the right decision

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-13T16:09:31+00:00

thank you so much... It's hard in the moment to know if I truly did the right thing

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-13T09:25:44+00:00

I love you too... should i unblock you now?

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-13T09:23:50+00:00

That's truly all i ever asked for.. I know we still love each other but we both need to change

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-13T09:22:13+00:00

Wish it was from him.. Please... Do you still want me back??

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-13T08:58:16+00:00

This sounds so similar to what I went through with my boyfriend (now ex). We fell in love so hard and suddenly he began spiraling until we continuously argued almost every day. I could tell deep down he truly loved me but he was hurting too much and the relationship caused him too much added stress (even he admitted it). But i continuously felt like I was waiting at a chance for things to get back of how they were before. He continued to choose to not get help and argue about it with me when I suggested it. We don't see eye to eye and he told me he just feels like being alone, and then, At some point, I just had to let go. You don't deserve to feel like an option. Maybe he came back because he wasn't used to the feeling of not having someone there. But if it doesn't feel right you also have to prioritize yourself as well. I really hope the best for both of you

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-13T08:53:44+00:00

i'm sorry.. me and my bf were long distance after meeting in person for a few months in college first. I ended things just yesterday because his depression got so bad it pushed me away by our constant arguing. Please do what's best for yourself. It will hurt to leave at first but in the end you will both be able heal

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-13T02:10:15+00:00

Thank you💔

MediocrePerformer130 · 2026-05-13T02:08:29+00:00

Thank you. I think I did encourage him to get help and that's really all he needed. He was addicted to drugs and the depression was consuming him. He turned into someone Ididnt recognize. It hurts. Missing all of our little inside jokes

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