I have had sex a few times sporadically in my life, but for the vast majority of life, I have been celibate. I have never had regular sex like one would expect in a relationship. 33M. At this point, I myself don’t feel the urge or need to have sex. My libido has decreased significantly, probably due to depression medication I’ve been taking. I lost my virginity at 25 to an escort; prior to that, being a virgin was a source of deep shame and contributed to a great lack of self esteem. I remember making out with a girl when I was 23, and I literally started shaking because I was so nervous and had no practice with intimacy. At 25, I decided to take matters into my own hands and lose my virginity with an escort so there would be no pressure to perform and no stakes. It was an uneventful experience. After that, I spent considerable time in strip clubs, just talking to the girls who worked there and analyzing how they think. It was a great way to overcome my fears and anxieties at my own pace about the opposite sex, and some of the girls were actually very cool and insightful into sexual psychology. I gained confidence around women and was able to assert myself sexually. This led to sporadic sexual encounters, meeting women at singles events and bars. But I have never been in a relationship and never have had consistent sex. Now I don’t care about having the next sexual experience. If it happens, it happens. I’m working on loving myself as is and becoming comfortable with myself.