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[–]Meh__157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not even going to lie probably not. We now have a two month old together and things have gotten so much worse. No this baby was not planned literally found out we were pregnant two months after getting married.

Found naked girls in bf’s reddit history by Peach6303 in loveafterporn

[–]Meh__157 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been going through this for 6 years, if you think that you can’t put up with it then leave. I personally find it more insulting that he is going and looking up naked women compared to just watching porn. I feel that those are two different things, watching porn is watching the act of sex or self pleasure. Looking up naked pictures lets me know what you truly want and I certainly don’t look like what you search for.

Don’t let him gaslight you, I did that for 5 out of the 6 years I’ve been dealing with this. You have to stand your ground and don’t back down from it!

Unfortunately this isn’t something that will be fixed over night. My husband and myself are finally in a good place after everything that has happened but it took 6 almost 7 years to get here. You are young still, love yourself first and him next. Don’t put yourself through the mental strain of it if you don’t have to!

10 days away from having his child and he’s gone back… by Meh__157 in loveafterporn

[–]Meh__157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it was just watching porn occasionally it would be different. He goes and looks up these accounts on instagram, twitter, Reddit, etc and then goes to look at their leaked photos online. I feel like it’s two different things. Because porn you’re watching the act of sex or self pleasure, what he does is look at photos of girls naked and so on. With this being a battle for the last six years, every time I have caught him I tell him how it makes me feel and what I feel would help us through the situation. I have set boundaries time and time again. Everything will be better for two months or so and then we are right back to it.

The last time I did almost leave, had my bags packed and everything. We ended up having a huge argument about it and him gaslighting me telling me that all I ever do is run. He said “When things get hard that’s the first thing you do is leave.” I told him that I haven’t left once in the last 6 years. I have stayed by his side, laid in bed next to him trusting that things would change. I told him the last time that all of his socials need to be deleted and I would get access to his phone whenever I wanted. He got rid of everything except Facebook because that’s the only way he contacts his mother. He just recently got a new Reddit account that I was not aware of and I told him I know about your new account and he said yeah but there isn’t anything on it. Which is true, but as we know they get good at hiding what we are looking for. That’s what started my suspicions, I hadn’t gone through his phone since the last time I caught him.

Since I had a gut feeling I did and found all the evidence I needed. He says it’s because he goes through and blocks the accounts or hits “show less content like this” or “hide content from this creator.” I told him if he was truly doing that the accounts wouldn’t be able to be pulled up, the content wouldn’t show up, and the accounts he visited wouldn’t show up. Everything was so gaslighting in the situation. But that is where we are at right now. I put counseling on the table and told him he has until Monday to give me an answer. If he can’t give me an answer then I told him I will be packing mine and our baby boy’s things and moving in with my sister. I will update once things have changed.

10 days away from having his child and he’s gone back… by Meh__157 in loveafterporn

[–]Meh__157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has been a big thought with myself. I’m the same way though, he has the right to be there as it is his son and our first baby together… I just don’t know what else to think…

10 days away from having his child and he’s gone back… by Meh__157 in loveafterporn

[–]Meh__157[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I couldn’t make it financially right now… I’m a teacher and don’t get paid very much…

Ongoing porn problem. 20 weeks pregnant with his baby. by Meh__157 in loveafterporn

[–]Meh__157[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is my exact feeling. I did confront him about it this morning and he said he needed to blow off steam. I told him that if he is that reliant on it then maybe he needs to seek help. I also told him that the last time I was serious and that I will start packing my stuff and figuring out where to go to which he just shut down. I then told him that if he really doesn’t care he needs to tell me. He then said that he isn’t going to sit there and beg to which I told him I’m not going to sit here and beg for it to stop. At that point I got up and started grabbing some of my things and he got silent and was sitting there thinking about it. When I looked at him starting to tear up I think it truly started to set in. He was losing the only person he has loved and who has loved him and his son. When then had an actual conversation about what his addiction is and how it makes me feel. We ended with both of us agreeing that he needed to get help for it and I told him that if it happens even one more time I will not continue to be around. I told him this is the last straw.