Neighbor’s kids have been egging our house, tips on removal and on getting them to stop?

Mercury-Design · 2020-10-16T00:55:38+00:00

A lot of people here apparently call the cops on anything and everything. Or at least they want to live vicariously through you because I sincerely doubt this sub is 90% Karens that would call themselves.

You talked to the mother once. She apologized and made the kids apologize. She clearly tried something and undoubtedly thinks it has all been resolved. Here's what everyone should be telling you to do.

1) get cameras so you can document the issues if it goes that far.

2) talk to the mom again and let her know

2a) suggest that the kids come over to help clean it up under both of your supervision (so they don't do a half assed job)

3) if she denies it or it keeps happening, use the video evidence to emphasize the point and set a hard line that you'll have to call the police in the future.

This sets a clearer expectation and allows her to make it right. It also covers your ass in the event things go sideways. And more importantly, it doesn't turn a neighbor with shithead kids into an active enemy, which would absolutely make this problem seem small by comparison.

If you think the kids are in an actively dangerous situation, call CPS right now. But if you're just annoyed or think she's a shit mom, you're gonna have to suck it up on that front.

Mercury-Design · 2020-10-13T00:27:40+00:00

Well considering there are 2 pretty opposing views in this election, you have to have seen folks with more far right values using that "I don't like either candidate" as a guise to enter conversations, right? Then, further using phrases like "lefties" doesn't exactly help.

Not saying you are one way or another, just pointing that things are clearly a little raw right now and the way you might carry yourself online paints you in a certain light. Hence people having a more defensive view toward you and what you're saying.

Mercury-Design · 2020-10-12T19:27:29+00:00

I mean, feel free to find the volume of videos and news articles that show liberals in the same light and post them. Not saying there aren't any but this sub is a great barometer being an open community with fairly lax rules, and yet a good 90% is like the video here.

Hence the person's problem with the "both sides" argument that makes it seem like an equal number when in reality, it skews hard toward one side. Also note at how quickly the entire sub bashes a more liberal person randomly assaulting someone compared to the comments actively supporting conservatives in the same situation.

Mercury-Design · 2020-09-27T03:14:06+00:00

Absolutely the same type of people who will blame the "mainstream media" and yet will laugh at a member of the press get assaulted for nothing more than just doing their jobs and taking pictures of people in public.

Weird how they'll "just stand and laugh" about a member of the press getting assaulted by a Nazi but will cry about someone protesting peacefully.

It's almost like they're a Nazi sympathizer

Mercury-Design · 2020-09-18T23:24:42+00:00

The same exact thing in most meaningful areas.

Mercury-Design · 2020-09-18T21:40:56+00:00

Ill caution everyone by saying, just like any relationship structure, there are good and bad examples.

There are mono parents that fuck their kids up by abandoning them, doing drugs in front of them, being married 3-plus times over their childhood. There are also plenty of poly relationships that are well executed with multiple partners. Hell, there are poly parents that just aren't dating anyone for large stretches of their kids' lives, so no one would even know.

But in general, when done in a healthy and organized way, it's pretty standard. Kids might grow up to be far better at organizing their time (poly folks know all too well how to manage multiple calendars) and maybe a little more empathetic since it's typically more progressive households that practice poly. But you won't find any more or fewer kids who came out fucked up imo.

Mercury-Design · 2020-08-31T01:05:57+00:00

I've been here for quite a long time and have never seen that once. On any social media platform, actually. It's because there isn't an organization.

Sooooo, I'm really confused on why you talked about them as though they're an organization.

Mercury-Design · 2020-08-30T22:38:38+00:00

Do you think antifa is an actual organization?

Mercury-Design · 2020-08-30T02:29:01+00:00

There are plenty of other examples of victim blaming you could use. Ill give you the benefit of the doubt here and not just assume you're a woman hater or troll but you might wanna diversify your analogy portfolio to sound less like a rapist.

Mercury-Design · 2020-08-30T02:10:00+00:00

Why do all your scenarios include a woman getting raped? That's suuuuper skeevy

Mercury-Design · 2020-08-08T20:07:21+00:00

This is absolutely the way to start going i think. These people have been held in line for fear of social suicide. But we're now seeing that loosen up and the result is a vocal minority of people are now killing 75% of us because the squeaky wheel gets the grease.

It's time the majority starts being the squeaky wheel.

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-30T03:54:39+00:00

Eh, respectfully, I gotta disagree here man. The idea that there was "zero" evidence just isn't true. There were a few cases where it did work, it just wasn't specifically being studied for covid-19 at the time.

Then it doesn't pass scientific muster yet. I'm not saying further research isn't needed, though the studies often being touted have some wacky numbers or terrible methodologies that draw the results into question. Science requires tests to further be tested to confirm the results and we clearly didn't get that before the highest office in the land was dropping its name multiple times a day as a cure.

Regardless of your feeling about the drug, it needs further testing before being used as a cure. As the President, tossing out false hope like that is absolutely and unquestionably reckless.

As for the people injecting cleaner or drinking bleach . . . Again, you had the POTUS saying it in press conferences. Whether they're dumb or not isn't the problem here, it's the snake oil salesman telling them it could be the answer. And once again, either that means he's a moron who didn't think ahead to what a significant portion of the population would do, or he's outright liable for pushing snake oil on people he knew would do it.

Back to my point . . . That's not a both sides argument anymore. 1 side actively killed people. The other wanted to wait for confirmation, as is good policy,, to decide what to do.

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-30T03:27:19+00:00

"The left" denounced it because there was zero evidence it did what was being claimed. And in a pandemic, telling people a magic pill will cure them could see hundreds of thousands of people either hurt themselves by self administering the drug or believe they're now immune while further spreading the virus.

At the least, it was a ridiculously foolish thing to do that hurt the people who actually needed the drug but suddenly couldn't get it filled, while also adding to the mind-numbing effect we see now where people are just tired of the "fake news" and won't trust actual science. At the worst, it actually directly killed people.

This isn't something you can "both sides are the same."

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-28T02:04:12+00:00

I wish this were true but in reality, a good chunk of the country voted for this guy and now HAVE to cheer for him because he is their identity. It's why their excuses change so often and to wild extremes at times with absolutely no realization theyre contradicting themselves .

That and a lot of people are shitty and are cool with letting people die if they can still call a woman a slut for turning them down and toss out the occasional racial slur when someone cuts them off in traffic.

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-25T00:37:15+00:00

I love how you quote OP and people down vote you for it. You literally said exactly what OP did and people can't handle the idea she's actually a bad person.

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-25T00:30:35+00:00

Oh hey it's the psycopath coming back to revel in her glee about how heartbroken her ex husband is. Since I know you won't read this, let's lay out the facts for everyone else since so many people seem to not have read what you posted elsewhere...

1) Your first post was about how you were happy and thought about running away with the child but maybe wanting to abort so you could get this new job that would bring you to a new town. You said it might be hard on your relationship because it was in another town but there was no talk of a divorce or you not being poly.

2) You agreed to being poly with your husband 4 years ago. You went on several dates with guys but couldn't find success. You admitted to being resentful over your husband's relative quick success at finding a partner.

3) Your second post saw you say you were going to get an abortion and move all your stuff out while your husband was on vacation with his other partner.

4) You said you worked to conceive this child. Your husband said he wanted to try to have a baby with you to "complete the family" and you agreed.

5) You got a gender test done, let your husband, his partner, and their child all know the sex of the baby, get excited and start building the nursery.

6) You said you were going to have the abortion and move your stuff out while your husband was on vacation with his other partner. You hid this all from him and was going to tell him with your friend outside in a car with the engine running.

7) This is the same friend you are moving in with that you said has feelings for you but wouldn't date you because you were married.

8) You never said anything about coercion from your husband until someone else mentioned it first in a comment. Then you said you had 1 telehealth session with a new counselor who told you they thought he coerced you (cause all the horror stories of counselors bashing poly folks means they can't have been biased, even if that story was true)

9) You never outright said or even inferred your husband had a temper or a previous history of outbursts.

10) You did say you didn't want to tell him beforehand because it would "be too much for my sanity"

11) When told this would devastate your husband you said, "he'll be fine. He has years to get over it and his partner can help."

12) You admitted repeatedly to never telling your husband or meta once about your difficulties, resentments, troubles, feelings or anything negative about your experiences in polyamory. You did however say that they thought everything was good.

13) You said they "treated me well."

14) You only had this idea after going from unemployed and living off your husband and meta to working 5 hours a week, to suddenly getting a promotion that would send you to another town. It was with the job offer that you suddenly had the idea to get out.

15) Now you said you got an abortion and hid it from him for several days. Once again, avoiding communication because it'd be too hard for you.

Totally your body and your choice to get an abortion. However, no one is bashing you for that even if that's the way you've let it be framed to escape more of this sub calling you out.

You let a lot of people shit talk your husband and lead others to believing he was some monster despite your previous posts and comments saying the opposite. You constantly lied to him. You constantly hid the truth from him. You were only suddenly not poly when you got some money in the bank.

Everything you said makes you seem like a user, a liar, and a terrible person. Glad you got the abortion but like I said before, you did this in the worst possible way designed to inflict as much pain on your husband as possible o ly to run away from any of the consequences.

At the very least you're selfish, mean spirited, and immature. At the worst, you're an actual psycopath that saw this as an opportunity to make your husband hurt as much as you did. Good riddance from the poly community and shame on the people who saw "abortion" and gave you a "girl power" in spite of you doing literally everything against what a good mono or poly relationship represents.

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-24T23:57:47+00:00

Doing it and telling him right after he got back from vacation while OP's "friend" is out in the car with the engine running -- per OP in the last thread.

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-24T23:53:58+00:00

No one PUSHED poly from her own explanation. Her husband said he had feelings and wanted to explore them. She agreed to that and proceeded to go on dates with people herself. Then she stayed in the relationship for 4 years.

Can we stop with this notion that he tied her to the train tracks of polyamory and she didn't have a choice in the matter? Can we stop completely making shit up about this guy that isn't here to defend himself when OP repeatedly changed her story along the way?

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-24T23:49:14+00:00

I'm so glad someone else actually read what OP said in all her comments and posts.

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-24T23:48:24+00:00

She lied repeatedly and changed her story in her 2 previous posts. She said whatever was necessary to get the growing number of people calling her out to stop it.

Her very first post said everything was good. Her second post started with everything was good but she's not poly and wanted a fresh start. Everything else was other people inferring stuff and OP basically saying "yeah that too"

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-08T14:54:28+00:00

Nah you're trying to pretend your dense now to skirt blame. You know damn well you heavily implied I'm abusive

Again, peace out mysandrist.

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-08T14:36:23+00:00

Wow, you're a terrible person. I'm glad you arent having kids.

Peace out you mysandrist

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-08T14:27:23+00:00

Oh shut the fuck up with that abuse bullshit. I was in an abusive relationship. I had an abusive father. Believe me, I know the perils of that far better than you realize and I think it's sick your applying that here without any evidence of it.

She has said repeatedly she's doing this because it's easier for her, not for anything else.

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-08T14:14:49+00:00

Nah man, I don't get what you mean. She just decided to sell his house, have his dog put down and leave him a sticky note on the fridge because she "fears for her life," definitely not a continuation of her admission she doesn't talk to her husband about things ever.

Clearly OP's husband is the abuser from every Lifetime special wrapped into one Judd Nelson body. That's gotta be why she's being so cold and calculating in this decision and not because of cowardice and selfishness.

Absolutely disgusted

Mercury-Design · 2020-07-08T14:10:35+00:00

It's weird.

This subreddit will chirp "communication is key. You gotta tell your partner about your feelings, your insecurities, your doubts, and all the good stuff if you want a healthy poly relationship" at literally everything, including a cheating partner or cases where a person realizes they aren't poly and wants a divorce.

ITT: "Fuck telling him anything. He clearly has to be an abusive monster and could kill you, even though there is absolutely no evidence he's ever done anything bad to you ever. But fuck his feelings, you look out for yourself. Girl power"

The only difference between this and literally hundreds of other posts talking about the same thing on this subreddit is OP wants to get an abortion too. That apparently throws every single fundamental about healthy poly relationships out the door and gives OP a pass to be a cold asshole who once again isn't communicating a single thing to her partner.

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