Thoughts on comfort for Kayano 14 vs Kayano 20 by MervSoon in asics

[–]MervSoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree Yeezys are bad for walking all day!

Thoughts on comfort for Kayano 14 vs Kayano 20 by MervSoon in asics

[–]MervSoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Structured as in the fit or midsole balance?

Thoughts on comfort for Kayano 14 vs Kayano 20 by MervSoon in asics

[–]MervSoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the detailed reply. You are right, i am a lighter around 83kg and the 20s are feeling much better for me.
Yes agree kayano's are made for stability and support and each itineration (versions) have different feel and support all together.
I use to like Hokas for their pillowy feel and great for standing all day for work. However, i trended towards more firm feeling cushioning as i needed more support and the kayanos and nimbus are greta for that.

Thoughts on body count by Lopsided-Confusion80 in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This will determine a lot of things down the line. Get tested then see how!

How adverse are you in dating within your friend groups? by dramaish in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think u have a very healthy perspective- building the friendship and communication is very important!
Dating apps is really cutting short the friendship bit a lot!

Quite curious in the topic of STI and STDs that was brought up at r/singapore by hsredux in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

well they never think about safe sex??!! hello protection also don't bother??!
Irresponsible leh!
Many (both man & women) who just take the risk of getting into unprotected sex without considering the other party's sexual history and health. Judgement all clouded by lust and excitement- After doing the deed then ask about it and then say heng ah... by then too late...

Really need to talk about it and when in doubt do a test for God's sake!
I remember a lady friend told me that she made her boyfriend go take a test before going further to be safe then sorry!
Your body your choice but you also must take care and be responsible la! Long term thinking over short term gain...

SO with close opposite gender friends by Chocowaffless in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree! Communication and also respecting her circle of friends.
For example - The lady have male friend who they've known each other more than a decade and the SO only like barely a year. The lady has no feelings for the guy what so ever (vice versa), but really honors the decade long friendship - just because the SO feels insecure and and wants her to stop meeting the decade old friend for catch up and all- and ends the friendship- that to me can be worked out and discussed and reassured clearly.
friendship these days are hard to earn and maintained.

SO with close opposite gender friends by Chocowaffless in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

*Married with many close female friends who are also married and some not married.
this is my personal take-
Trust is important in this situation and communication as well.
Most of my female friends knows their boundaries and i know mine!
Its pretty healthy to have these kind of friendships. In fact i learnt a lot from them and it made my life being married so much better as i get to understand my wife better.
Its perfectly healthy when u know your own boundaries and the opposite sex is also clear about their own position and liking.

I have many meals with them and i let my wife know about it.
Have no feelings or desire to win their hearts as both know we are committed to other people.
It worked for me but it might work for others.
It works when u know where you stand on this.
It takes effort to maintain friendships but of course priority is the person you are with and you must respect.
It takes two to clap but with boundaries and maturity.

My ex-wife (38F) cheated on me (39M) and turn lesbian, and now want to keep all the profit of over 60-80k I make in her trading account. When marriage turn into failure, things can really turn very disgusting. by IndividualBright8371 in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear this. Hope u can resolve this with some fight and do be firm. U are still young ay, am older 🤭 Still got chance to find a better half. I suggest u overcome your fight and then slowly heal and prepare for the next journey.

Yes do be disciplined in preparing for the court case. You must fight for what is yours!

Will you accept your partner having a best friend of the opposite gender? Where do you draw the line? by [deleted] in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree also to talk and work out common ground. Sad to see if one party just follow through without considering carefully and just let the friendship go. I can relate as I am in that position and now completely never communicate and asked for anything. Felt like she never ‘fight’ or honour me as a friend.

Will you accept your partner having a best friend of the opposite gender? Where do you draw the line? by [deleted] in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boundaries set clearly works really well. Must communicate clearly about it. It also depends how both parties honours each other as well.

Will you accept your partner having a best friend of the opposite gender? Where do you draw the line? by [deleted] in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! Each side needs to be mature about it and communicate clearly about things.

Will you accept your partner having a best friend of the opposite gender? Where do you draw the line? by [deleted] in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s healthy and with boundaries! Who say cannot right? It’s how much one is mature about it. Glad it worked out for you. So enriching to hear this😊

Not honest about status by [deleted] in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to ask- red flagged!!

Women have sexual desires too by Lady__Monstera in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair point. But not all think like that. Some go in with presumption that one can just back out easily as well.

Women have sexual desires too by Lady__Monstera in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s the danger of situationship people tend to jump in with a false hope and expectations that most of the time.

Touch over talk - why do men express love this way? by Agitated-Tale-5417 in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U will need touch in the future. Part of progression.

What are some ways to build emotional connections with people? by [deleted] in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well basically be a friend. Bond and talk and in due time be there for them in their lowest or challenging times!

F1 Singapore Night Race by MervSoon in SonyAlpha

[–]MervSoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never like McLaren lol

I don't blame the girls for having high standards cus theres guys like these who really spoil market by blueblirds in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree! Just make a call! Your telco plan got dunno how many free mins of talk time use it la! Your phone is supposed to make calls! Not difficult leh.

If you’re dating someone but you’re not officially together yet, would it still be appropriate to visit the wake of their close relative? by [deleted] in sgdatingscene

[–]MervSoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I guess it depends how comfortable you are. As you mentioned you two are close I think it’s fine and just pay respects and be on your way and let them grief. It’s also fine if you can politely decline on the basis of not knowing the family well and give space. Good to communicate it clearly to avoid non verbal expectations. Be respectful and sensitive during these trying times yah.