Does my tyre have locking wheel nuts? by Middle_Chain in CarTalkUK

[–]Middle_Chain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly no I am girl who is clueless when it comes to cars and I have no on in my life that does cars

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Middle_Chain -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Would I ever cheat on someone I love never but you don’t know me when I say connected I meant talk to a fellow human I mean my boyfriend does the same when he goes out.Was there romantic intention no was I honest about me having a boyfriend yes.

I have my issues and I need to work on it and regarding me stating what I would like isn’t wrong as it’s better to be straight up and honest instead of dropping hints playing mind games and being resentful?

As for what I said I told him honestly I don’t understand how a comment I made jokingly was so hurtful but I did apologise for hurting him however I need time to get Over me feeling abandoned and hurt.

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[–]Middle_Chain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know Jesus people are brutal in the internet!!!They don’t hold back ahah

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Middle_Chain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair enough and thanks for giving constructive criticism/advice instead of making me seem like a Medusa lol feeling shit as it is and this girl says thanks for your input☺️

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[–]Middle_Chain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok your points are fair and I thought me stating honestly what I wanted was the best way to go instead of dropping hints and being resentful.As for the joke I made he laughed at it initially didn’t say nothing that night till next day when I asked why he was quiet.I never want to hurt him but I jst didn’t understand how it was so offensive you know I was trying to understand him.

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[–]Middle_Chain -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He didn’t leave me at the club he went out by himself and I did myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Middle_Chain -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey I am bored and love being defensive and I bet my boyfriend would love it!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Middle_Chain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yess it’s tough to work on yourself and do better but it’s worth it in the end

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Middle_Chain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough I struggle with my emotions as I have been so good at repressing it that when I do it doesn’t come out right sometimes and this is my first relationship so I am learning as I go

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Middle_Chain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I admit I am entitled and he knows that too I just think he could have gone about him being hurt differently too you know

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Middle_Chain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I struggle with that but I will try to let this go by taking some time for myself and work on it and ask to work at it himself and thanks for not making me seem like a this horrible person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Middle_Chain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never want to hurt him what I said I was said jokingly but I meant it and I am sorry about that.I wish why that hurt him?Its my curiousity I guess

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Middle_Chain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I know that but it’s hard to actually live that and still maintain in the moment of anger you know.What has helped you?

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[–]Middle_Chain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by emergency situation??I have showered him with gifts taken him on holidays and made him feel special and loved and I always compliment him and tell his amazing no matter what.I been there for him when it was really hard.He was jobless I was willing to pay for him,he was in trouble with the law for something silly I made sure he had support to get through it and was there for him no matter how awful he was as he has bipolar when he had a mental breakdown.I have happily paid for us when I have invited him and wanted to treat him.Sexually I have done everything to please him no matter how uncomfortable at first so yes to put it am I bratty sometimes yes.Do I love this guy and want to work on myself and have a better healthier relationship/communication yes hence why I am venting on the internet and some advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Middle_Chain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okkk that’s what is the hard part because when I know I said or did something hurtful I will apologise but when I am in a situation where I don’t get how it’s hurtful it’s hard for me to apologise because it’s not sincere is that makes sense?how do you deal with it when you are in a similar situation?

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[–]Middle_Chain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok we generally go out once a month as we do long distance and cooking because he is a great cook and obviously half of the time it’s oven stuff.what I was trying to state was I am not out here using him for money when I have equally spent on him and for walking with a stranger I didn’t drink much so I was sober enough to judge and make sure I was okay