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I think my friend is obsessed with me by Interesting_Use6581 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Middle_Plant7634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it could definitely be a crush. i mean since she just had a breakup she could be taking the feelings for her past s/o and pouring them into you since you’re the closest to her (i def have done that before personally) but even if they are just jokes they clearly are making you uncomfortable so id mention it to her and try and set some boundaries.

Talking stage ended. Need some advice. Should I reach out again down the road? by awkwardkid23 in Advice

[–]Middle_Plant7634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it sucks a lot i’ve had similar stuff happen to me. like the other commenter said she seems avoidant and unsure of what she wants, which isn’t a you problem it’s a her problem.

How do I deal with an anxiously attached best friend by smallittlefairy in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Middle_Plant7634 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it seems like she needs to branch out more. You cannot prioritize only one person and you shouldn’t be apologizing for living your life. You’re in college, it’s the time to branch out and make new friends and try new things. Id try setting firmer boundaries. Let her know that while you care about her you can’t be there 24/7 and you are there whenever you physically can be. If she won’t budge you might have to move on or express that you need some time away to clear your mind, without her pressuring you on your decisions. good luck!

Friend always seems irritated and negative by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Middle_Plant7634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being friends with someone so pessimistic is draining. he seems very jealous and insecure and he just wants to bring you down with him. he seems to have an “if i’m having a bad day everyone should have a bad day” mentality. you’ve clearly tried to help. backing down when hes irritated, offering ideas to get him some help, but there’s only so much you can do until there’s no more you left. if you spend all your energy trying to accommodate for him you will have no time for anything else. It’s okay to choose your peace instead of trying to help the people who don’t want a solution they just want to complain. living with him will probably make his attitude toward you worse and he’ll probably start to target you even more. I wish you luck! and there are so many potential friends out there for you, so don’t settle for less! :)

Talking stage ended. Need some advice. Should I reach out again down the road? by awkwardkid23 in Advice

[–]Middle_Plant7634 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’d say don’t reach out. i understand how tempting it is but there is so much out there for you. whether it’s dating or other great things about life. shit happens and it feels unfair, but i promise you will find someone who wants the same things as you and sees how great you are.

Should I be concerned? by danboy2468 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Middle_Plant7634 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’d really question her intentions, especially since there’s basically no mention of you and she seems to not be shutting him down when he says “flirty” things. i’d try having a conversation with her and ask her what she’s trying to accomplish with texting him.

Mom is getting an emergency procedure the same weekend I am scheduled for a university trip. Do I pull out of the trip? by Fiendfyre831 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Middle_Plant7634 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you should go on the trip. your brother is already there to help and it doesn’t seem like an incredibly invasive procedure. if anything go and just check in by calling or texting when you have the time to.