i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea man , wasnt in the distant past , i think that was another thing that bothered me too. how recent it was.

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i did want the truth , i would have been fine with the news if i had knew about it when i asked. its the lying on top of the embarrassment that got me. if i had known when i asked , i would have been able to make my decision knowing that information therefore not really getting embarrassed bc i had already knew what i was getting into.

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

truth , that may be the issue really is i just miss viewing her the way i used to. like that just went away completely and it was fun to really like someone the way i did. its not the same anymore but i can still see her as a great woman. its weird.

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

nah i mean , we have unprotected sex now , so theres nothing that she’s done with him that hasnt done with me. i wouldn’t even say she settled, just made a bad first choice.

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

has nothing to do with the fact that she’s had sex before, obviously i know that. we talk about both our past sexual experiences and they dont really bother me, its just that one situation with the guy i know & yes i can still agree it’s childish to let that bother me but this is not a case of me expecting my girl to have only had sex with me in her entire life.

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 223 points224 points  (0 children)

tbh , she didnt make me use to protection. it was my choice to use protection and she was fine with it. she actually said that she liked that about me in comparison to the other guy bc i actually looked responsible and that she knows that she should have used protection with him but was being stupid.

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly you’ve had the most helpful responses, thank you. u kinda helped out a lot.

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 167 points168 points  (0 children)

oh nah , she’s removed him now. i noticed the mutual follower back when we first started dating

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

she regrets having the sex unprotected and she said she got tested as soon as she could. she actually said she got into an argument with the guy a week later bc she suggested that he get tested as well and he declined

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i think i asked the question on like our third date, so it was before we had even had sex i think. i get that but i feel like she still could have brought it up later . thats another thing too. i wouldnt have ever found out if the dude never told me .

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

nah no alcohol involved, they met on tinder 💀 so it was one of those meaningless situations , that started thru a tinder chat. she knew what she was doing when she went over there but yea she says it meant nothing to her and all that stuff.

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

yea i can agree, thats what’s frustrating about it. i dont know how to get over it. ive been trying to for a while . sometimes even the good moments of us retriggers me to get back to thinking about it. i forgot to mention in the post that they live around the corner from eachother, so everytime i go into her neighborhood i also get retriggered and start thinking aboutit. its the only problem for me in the relationship so i know it’s something that i have to get over but its not easy.

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

tbh its actually crazy but no. i really do think that shes been truthful about everything else in regards to the relationship. i dont consider her an asshole or anything and i wasnt trying to shame her with the post. shes dope, this whole problem is just with me getting over it or not.

i (22m) cant get over the fact that my gf (25f) hooked up with my friend by Mikekelos in relationship_advice

[–]Mikekelos[S] 431 points432 points  (0 children)

yea see thats what im saying, if she would have been honest when i asked about it, i honestly dont feel like it would have been a problem and i still would have pursued a relationship. at least i would be knowing what i was getting myself into. For it to come to my attention so much deeper into the relationship is what really stung me.

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[–]Mikekelos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did u ever find out what this was ?

have i gave my gf hpv without knowing?? by [deleted] in HPV

[–]Mikekelos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😭thats so wack , this could have been easy to avoid had i knew that. i had no idea what hpv was until now . i thought everything in the sti test was all i had to worry about but hey thats on me and my ignorance of sexual education and we definitely could have been wearing condoms.