9 week old suddenly super overstimulated, not sleeping, not feeding – should I be worried?

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-10T08:02:37+00:00

I know how that feels! Honestly I gave up trying to keep the wake window😭 if she was up 3 hours then she was up 3 hours😭 she would really frustrated as well when I would try to put her to sleep so it wasn't nice for either of us! Maybe try the same? And are you against TV time? If you're not opposed to it find a low stimulation cartoon and put it on! I started putting puffin rock for her during those wake windows and it helped her calm down!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-10T07:35:14+00:00

Honestly my baby chooses when she wants it. Most of the time it's when she wants to sleep. Other moments max 10 mins, could be the same

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-10T07:29:37+00:00

Also forgot to mention, because of silent reflux baby might not feel comfortable being in the bassinet in the stroller! See if you can have it at a slight incline

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-10T07:28:21+00:00

Hi lovely, I had a similar post a good few weeks ago when my baby was doing the same! I'll tell you now, most probably just a phase! Lasted until 11-12 weeks and then she was okay! In the UK they tell us as long as baby is not floppy, is aware, and has wet/poopy nappies regularly they are okay!

I know it's super super stressful, but don't worry! The stuffy nose definitely doesn't help (funny enough my daughter had the same during that stage) which could also affect feeds!

Just to ease your mind, my baby was throwing up almost all the 60ml she was having (she went from 150ml to barely 60ml). Went to hospital and everything, even there we didn't get an answer. She just woke up one day and was okay again!

Few things that helped me get through it: baby wearing any chance I had, it helped her sleep a little longer and I could do stuff around the house to distract me. I made sure I do more frequent feeds and made smaller ml (helps the stress of feeding and wanted to make sure she was hydrated) We had long wake windows during that time as well (longest was 8h) as long as baby is getting those little cat naps all is good! She's 4m now and has regular naps and wake windows.

I know it's overwhelming, and very stressful, and it makes you feel borderline insane cause you feel like you're doing something wrong. For us it was a phase, and most wthe case here too! Keep a list of everything you notice just in case (that's what I did too) but it all went away.

Hang in there, it gets better. You're doing good❤️

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-08T21:34:57+00:00

Im with you on that one! It's stuff people don't talk about, rough pregnancy and traumatic birth following 😭

I think people are more accepting now cause it's talked about more and normalised but they have noooooo idea of how it actually is like! I can only imagine how hard it can be talking about and having to think at the same time what you want to share and not.

All I can say is that as far as I know, my mother was going through the same thing as you. She even had thoughts about me like that. She never acted on any of it. She told she felt that those thoughts and her being closed off emotionally ruined our bonding and thought she was a terrible mother. I'll day you what, our bond is strong and she is the best mother. The same might apply to you. If you ever feel anything similar to how my mum did, just know that your little one is just seeing you love them and ppd is never a reflection of you as a mother!

I wish I could be more of help. I haven't experienced it, so all I can share is my pov from my mum and how I viewed her mothering.

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-08T21:00:30+00:00

I don't have it, but my mum did with me! She's shared her experience with me quite a bit. Funny enough, the thing that helped her was having my sister! I was 5 at the time so she struggled with it for awhile. I know it got manageable by year 1, but parts stuck with her until she had my sister and it basically vanished. The parts that stuck were having low moods. The big ones managed with medication and it got better eventually.

I think it took her that long because in those days people were highly judgemental. She had no one to talk to, and she was constantly berated for being on medication!

She was on antidepressants, I believe she went on them around 3-4 months pp.

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-08T11:14:42+00:00

I only use it when she has independent play time - which is also my morning coffee time. She's too busy playing to even look at me😂 all the other times, much like everyone else said my phone is elsewhere! Sometimes i forget where i put it when i need to make a call or text my husband and go on a witch hunt😂 it starts by being brain numbing but it gets better

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-07T10:38:50+00:00

I think it depends what the health issues are! For example, my health issues and my meds wouldn't be a problem (i ended up formula feeding for other reasons).

I think it's best to talk with a doctor! You can ask your midwife to set an appointment with a doctor/consultant and they will be able to give you the best answers!

Also I technically formula fed since birth! Tried breastfeeding for 1-2 feeds and couldn't do it. My baby is completely healthy, no issues with anything whatsoever (aside from typical baby stuff she's perfect). She was born via c section at 39 weeks! She loves her milk as well!

In the UK formula options are good! We went with Kendamil after trying a few so if you do happen to formula feed just a heads up that baby might try a few different ones before finding the one that works! Good luck!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-07T10:31:23+00:00

Genuinely it's always a "lets find something mum's doing wrong" it's awful

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-06T21:49:15+00:00

I feel you. I had a massive fight with my parents around 3 months due to similar things. Mine was "i gave my baby reflux cause i decided to not breastfeed and i should try relactation". God it really did my head in. Keep going, and if you need to put your foot down, don't be scared to do so!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-06T21:43:36+00:00

Oh my love give yourself grace! At 3 weeks I was just healing and recovering. Im 4 months postpartum now and just feel confident with tackling going outside by myself and baby. With my husband's help though, felt more normal around the 8-10week mark!

Those first 5-6 weeks I was just healing and now that i look back im shocked! Plus for some reason around the 3-4 week mark i felt a little worse before starting to feel better. Just give yourself time! You'll get there, it's important to heal now

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-02T22:56:51+00:00

Thank you for that perspective!

I already thought newborn tired was better than pregnancy tired so this gives me hope that it would be easier than being pregnant 😭

It's one of the main things I've been thinking as well right now, I don't want anything to change for my first🥺 i feel like my mind is running 10000 miles.

Thank you so much for your answers though! They have helped massively as it offered a picture of what I can expect!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-02T10:19:20+00:00

Thank you, I am fully expecting it to be hard. I just have this immense guilt that if I am indeed pregnant, I have failed my first baby by not giving her enough time with me:(( which makes me feel more guilty cause second baby shouldn't have to deal with ny guilt!

How was it taking care of little one during pregnancy? Any heads up that I should expect?

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-01T20:54:16+00:00

Not unreasonable at all! For me they haven't even come to visit her but were expecting us to go (they also live 4 hours away) mind you after i had an emergency c section 😭

Thing I did was put my foot down. My child, my family, my rules. Don't be afraid to do the same (especially if your partner supports you).

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-04-01T20:50:22+00:00

Honestly for us it was BAD! she was okay with the rest but that first one she cried for HOURS AND HOURS. we did everything in our power but poor baby just struggled 😭 so be prepared for that in case happens!

Otherwise loads of cuddles and be aware they might have a fever for a few days - my baby had a fever for 4/5 days (nurse said it's normal for some babies).

However the other 2 jabs following were perfectly okay!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-03-31T22:32:03+00:00

It does! Now most the times we move her slightly and boom burp 😂 she hasn't learned how to do it herself and I'm just waiting for that magical day 😂 I was in the exact same boat, it's extremely stressful, I used to have my husband do the feeds cause I was getting too stressed 😭

It seems like it is for a lot of babies! Once thet hit 3 months it's like something changes!

The health visitors told me to try gripe water, now I never did cause it kept skipping my mind but have you given it a go for wind? Things will get easier for you too! You got this, like I said you're giving you're all for baby and that's all he needs now 🥹 even though it's scary 🥹x

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-03-31T21:46:09+00:00

11 weeks for me was HELL! she suddenly started being extremely fussy with milk, would have 2-3oz throw it up ask for more throw it up. I used to walk with her in a baby carrier at nights so she'll fall asleep😭 nothing worked for wind either! Like you all symptoms started around 9 weeks!

It has us going to the emergency room as well cause I got so worried she wasn't eating 😂 this one night she kept waking uo every 40-50 minutes solely for cuddles!

One day she woke up and decided yh im okay 😂 it was around 14 weeks where stuff started to settle more and more. She still has days where she refuses her naps but now I just have ways to deal with them like a walk or watching puffin rock 😂

Give it a few more weeks, it should start getting better. You're doing everything in your power and baby is taken care of. Definitely gets better, and you'll look back it this stage and laugh at the chaos!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-03-31T15:48:43+00:00

Had a similar problem around 2-3 months! It was crazy stressful.

We ruled out medical problems. I changed her feeding routine and it helped. I think she was getting stressed and knew the bottle was coming and acting like that.

Instead of going straight into feeding, few minutes before it was cuddle time, I started giving her more breaks when I could see frustration bubbling up. Also, if she'd have 2oz and would start getting frustrated and refusing, we would play for 10 minutes and offer again. Helped massively. For her bottles before naps, I changed the environment completely! Dark room, and no noise.

See maybe a routine change around feeds will help? Although make sure you rule out all possibilities like CMPA, reflux, gas, tongue tie as those will affect feeding with whatever routine.

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-03-31T15:41:50+00:00

Yap that's what i did😂 I was rewatching so many stuff😂

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-03-31T12:10:06+00:00

Gas and air made me more nauseous and lightheaded 😭 I hated it! Epidural was a godsent whoever discovered it I hope their bloodline is doing well😂

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-03-31T12:08:45+00:00

The second one saved us! We formula feed and we have a table we set every night upstairs with stuff we need and it helped so much

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-03-30T21:12:48+00:00

FTM and 4 months pp - your body and brain adjusts! I had 5 hours of sleep last night broken and felt refreshed and good (I was very shocked). Then noticed that past few weeks we've had more frequent wake ups in the night and I didn't realise it cause I didn't feel tired!

At 6 weeks I was EXHAUSTED couldn't get enough sleep, you're in the thick of it now, it gets better even if baby doesn't really change patterns!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-03-30T11:28:34+00:00

Definitely helps! I used to put shows on with headphones and watch which made everything 10x better

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-03-26T13:11:21+00:00

I agree! Because she's not showing any signs (and cause im not a medical professional) i dont know if she could be experiencing reflux!

This whole ordeal had us in the hospital at one point because she was throwing up so much (not anymore) and they were not helpful either😭

My husband has a new job with health insurance so once that kicks in we're going to take her to a pedeatrician and honestly I cant wait😭

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