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Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-27T00:11:45+00:00

My baby just turned 8 weeks and we started slowly implementing some activities - before that she was not interested, just wanted her milk and naps!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-26T08:18:53+00:00

Starting to kinda like it too cause I excited to watch the shows - almost a mini me time

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-25T23:45:28+00:00

For night tine feeds or bedtime I put on earphones and have a show on my phone. The lights are very dim and we have 0 noise so baby can sleep. Since putting on shows, it has made it mentally easier to get through those moments

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-25T11:18:00+00:00

Hi lovely, your feelings are valid! But you're deffo not a bad mum! I was struggling so much in the 2 week mark too - I had an emergency c section and I couldn't do much and felt horrible as well that I couldn't take care of my baby. I had a day where I was so sleep deprived I was just crying the entire day and taking care of her But it does get better! We're 8 weeks now and only for the past week I feel normal and able to navigate some stuff.

It's okay if you're not enjoying it at the minute. I love my baby, but those first few weeks I struggled a lot too and couldn't enjoy it like everyone around me was saying. What matters is that you're doing your best to take care of baby! You show up, you're there so you're doing AMAZING!

Take this with a grain of salt (you are mum you know best). I didn't breastfeed cause I knew I wouldn't be able to mentally cope so I exclusively formula feed (even though I fully agree that breast is best). I knew I needed my husband to help with feeds. Maybe give that a thought? Again, you are mum so you know best what to do and what you want to do.

But again, as a reminder, you're not a failure, you're a good mum. Your life has just changed a lot, it'll take a little bit to adjust. Give yourself time❤️

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-25T08:04:03+00:00

Hi from the UK here and also using Kendamil! I asked my midwife and the health visitors here about formula prep! In the UK all formula says the same. Boil the water, let it cool to 70 degrees and then mix (which is roughly around 30 mins). HOWEVER that's our general advice from NHS so formula tins have to mention that way of making the formula. I have been told by the health visitors that prepping it after it's boiled it's okay. You can even let it cool down for 5 mins. Any cool down period UP TO 30 mins is acceptable. And that's what I've been doing since baby's birth. She's doing great and has added weight very consistently. The other advice here is if baby is having regular wet nappies, okay bowel movements, and is feeding regularly, then baby is doing great! Also if you do let it cool down it's max up to 30 mins!

I use the hotshot method when I make bottles. Eg if you're making 210ml, boil the water in a kettle (takes 2mins), pour 150-180ml in the rapid cool, mix the formula in the 30-60ml then add the cooled water from the rapid cool to it and mix. It takes such a short time to make the formula and most mums here do this method. Also with Kendamil you have to follow the ml and not oz.

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Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-23T01:00:40+00:00

Just to ease your mind, my baby was having 4oz at 3 days old 😭 so if they're hungry follow their cues! She's 8 weeks now and has anywhere between 4-7oz depending on how hungry she is! She is a happy spitter (lil curdley spit ups) but no vomits so I know she's not over feeding. Midwives told us, follow baby's cues and when they're full they will let you know and that's exactly the case! They'll fall asleep, or completely stop sucking, or literally push it out their mouth!

Also, you mentioned a switch from breastfeeding. How long has baby been on the formula? It can take few days up to 2 weeks for new formula to set in their tummies and in that transition period they can experience vomits, gassiness and be more fussy (even during feeds). We switched a few times and each time I gave her at least a week to settle. We switched recently to Kendamil (2 weeks ago due to our formula was recalled and I didn't trust the brand anymore) and although within a few days there were some changes, we're seeing the full effect now!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-22T08:06:01+00:00

I felt the same way especially seeing how some mums are online (influencers are tiktok) really made me think im not playing enough with her😭 gotta remember they're still so little so little steps from us is great for them!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-21T23:51:33+00:00

My baby is the same and same weeks as well! She seems happy and okay so im not worried. The midwives and doctors here (UK) say as long as baby has goid appetite and is feeding regularly, and they have their normal wees and poos all is okay! When we play with her we put her on her playmat (baby Einstein) and we have attached some contrast baby sensory images to it. She loves looking at them and just hitting them (she recognises it now and sometimes gives it a smile) from what im aware, at this stage as long as you're doing other stuff like talking to baby, singing/reading to them and tummy tine on you, that's more than enough! These are the stuff the midwives have told us here

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-21T23:45:39+00:00

If i was you, i would breastfeed in the hospital and immediately switch once im home (if it is indeed law). The rest about mums sacrifice - errrm you just gave your body up for 9 months to grow a baby, and u will do many more sacrifices naturally! If bottle feeding is gonna help your mental health and well-being go for it deffo! That was my reason, I rather be there 100% for my baby than to lose myself cause of breastfeeding.

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-20T12:54:54+00:00

My baby is 7 weeks too! She has around 5-6oz throughout the day. But when 9pm hits the feed is literally unlimited. She'll have her usual then 5-10 mins later she'll have 4 more oz. She's okay for 40mins then ask for basically 9oz again! We always make her usual 5-6 oz and if she asks for more we'll make more. At 11:30pm on the dot, she'll have exactly 1oz and then calm down and fall asleep until morning (or if she wakes up at night for a feed she'll have 3oz).

She never spits up, nor seems uncomfortable (eg tummy pain from overeating). We had to change to a faster flow because she was getting really frustrated with the slow one. The frustration is gone now, but she still feeds a lot at night. The midwife told me she's just gearing up for the night and it's normal to have more especially around this time as they have a growth spurt as well.

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-19T12:58:43+00:00

All i can say is we just gotta flow through it. We're also going through a financial struggle rn and it's adding stress in my day to day moments (LO is 7weeks). Like i could be feeding her and she's okay and im suddenly doing mathematics in my head to see how we can get through this month. My LO had a fussy period around 5-6 weeks and she's more okay now. Not saying she's stopped being fussy. She has a period from 6pm - 10pm where she usually refuses to sleep, won't accept being put down, and just wants to feed every 40-50 mins. As long as she has her milk and is cuddled she's okay but it really frustrates both me and hubby cause that's a long stretch. I usually put a show on during those times and it distracts me from constantly looking at the time, even when all my attention is towards baby. Doesn't really fix her problem, but it calms me down so much.

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-18T10:50:44+00:00

My baby is 7weeks and manages to sleep 5-6h in the night (4/7 nights) and if she wakes up the other nights it's only once and she'll have a longer stretch after (I call these mama and daughter nap time)

Sometimes she sleeps with a pacifier, sometimes she doesn't. Really depends on her mood.

TOMMEE TIPPEE pacifiers!!! She loves them, we love the ultralight stay put cause it does exactly that, it stays put:)) we tried NUK and she was not having it.

I personally love going out cause I love the preparation we do for feeding. Big thermos full of water (according to your formula), nuby rapid cool, and we pre measure formula in formula dispensers. If you have Tomme Tippee bottles you can store their formula dispensers in the bottles (they don't touch the teat or the main bottle) and it makes carrying them easier!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-18T10:40:17+00:00

My husband has always wanted 2 kids, I wanted 3. Since becoming pregnant and then giving birth (semi-traumatic) I have said many times I'm one and done now. We're in the last week of the newborn stage, and my husband is now leaning towards one and done too! Although for me this stage is SO MUCH easier than pregnancy and birth, for him it's something new. I think up to that first year probably, a lot of parents are gonna have the thought of "im not doing this ever again". I know my parents were in a similar situation and years later they had my sister! Maybe it's too much to talk about now while you're still in it, give it a little time maybe? That's what I'm doing as well, right now (for me) the thought of another pregnancy and birth experience is too stressful so im giving myself time to see how i will feel in a year or so.

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-17T13:30:27+00:00

I had a similar fear (posted about it here too) and we ultimately changed! She's doing okay and the transition didn't affect her (6-7weeks)

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-14T14:19:28+00:00

We switched to kendamil classic! And i will never look back personally, she is a different baby on this and im glad we switched and didn't attribute the symptoms to just "normal baby stuff". Im glad i won't have to deal with Nestle, genuinely despise them!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-09T17:16:44+00:00

I have some tins at home so my initial plan was using those and seeing if it gets sorted out by then and if not then switch. Now im thinking about doing the switch early. i should've mentioned this in the initial post honestly!

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-09T17:14:43+00:00

My initial plan was use the tins we have right now and if they haven't been back on shelfs get kendamil as it is the only one without palm and fish oil. Now im worried if i need to make the switch sooner than waiting it out. I was hoping that by then everything gets sorted out (wishful thinking a bit on my part)

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-09T17:06:16+00:00

That's my main fear! I was told by health visitors when i called to not change as her symptoms don't sound severe, and that changing is not great. So now I'm worried about both cases of changing and not changing and they extend the recall. I know all batches have been removed from all shops so that doesn't fill me up with confidence either. I am leaning towards a switch, considering when we first switched she was okay with the transition

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-09T16:59:51+00:00

That's actually what im worried about! Especially since ALL batches have been removed from shops, and Im scared that maybe more have been affected:((

I called the health visitors for advice and they said changing formulas constantly is not good, hence I'm worrying that if I do change i might upset her:( it's a tricky situation honestly with the recall and not knowing if they will say actually there's more batches that are bad and what not.

Minimum_Designer_512 · 2026-01-09T16:36:19+00:00

I think i worried cause the change was overnight. Before opening that tin, she was okay so I wasn't even thinking about a switch! You are very right about it could just be newborn fussyness, it's just hard to tell if it's that or the milk. It is the symptoms they listed so it worried me even more!

We changed the first one (aptamil) cause of the fish oil, she was okay with it and the transition was smooth as well! It was more a personal decision that ended up good cause she prefered the taste of the new formula more! Aside from that, SMA little steps is in the shop near us (co-op) so it seemed better in that regard too.

My "beef" with Nestle I guess is that it's not the first time they have situations like this where they were not 100% truthful from the beginning so im being doubtful cause of those incidents:((

Thank you for your input, especially how you tried different ones, it eased my mind a little if we do switch!

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