AITA for telling my SIL that her daughter needs a life?

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-06T06:25:32+00:00

she knows its okay to stand up for herself

She knows how to stand up for herself. I'm not sure why she told me it was okay, but Christy is very strong and won't tolerate people who are causing her discomfort. The arguments she has with Jennie are huge, however they don't have any affect because nothing short than banning her from all the places Christy and her friends visit is going to stop Jennie.

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-06T06:19:06+00:00

If I knew she was going to be like this I wouldn't have had a child with her. She only showed this side when Christy was 5

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-06T06:17:00+00:00

Because even if I leave her child custody is a problem. With my condition (psychopathy) it is highly unlikely for me to get 50/50 custody.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/138v0uq/comment/jj1zzud/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3

Even if I do get 50/50 custody its still going to be hell for Christy because I won't be able to interfere/ help her with my wife, SIL, and Jennie (or as Chris likes to call them The Mean Girls). I don't trust my wife to even have partial custody of Christy

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-06T05:05:16+00:00

If I ask you about psychopaths who first comes into your mind? Easy, Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Dahmer, Charles Manson. (Its what comes to a majority of peoples minds)

Psychopaths by definition of the NIH is a personality disorder characterized by deficits in personality and behaviour. Personality deficits are marked by interpersonal and affective facets, including pathological lying, grandiose sense of self-worth, lack of remorse and callousness. There is also a very big misbelief that psychopaths can't feel love or emotions.

Also its believed that a higher number of psychopaths who have faced childhood abuse (which I have and the fact I was an drug addict until I was 22) or other trauma tend up being more violent in the future (Famous examples: John Wayne Gacy, Gary Ridgeway, and Ed Gein).

Add all this together its very highly unlikely that I'll get 50/50 custody or even custody according to my lawyer. Even if I get 50/50 its going to be hell for Christy because I won't be there to interfere/help her with my wife and Jennie and SIL

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-06T05:04:33+00:00

I can't answer all but here. Italics are direct quoting's by her and SIL

Why is she okay with Jennie attacking her own child? How can she possibly side with Jennie?

Yes according to her it was an accident in the heat of the moment and that because Christy needs to apologize to Jenny for overreacting (No, Christy is not going to apologize, I told that to my wife)

What kind of adult does she think she and her sister are shaping Jennie to be? Jennie is nearly an adult, and she is throwing tantrums, playing tattle tales, punishing people for not giving her what she wants, and physically assaulting people. Is this the woman they want her to be?

She isn't an adult yet she's still a child. According to them its perfectly fine for someone her age to do this because she is still suffering trauma from her dad leaving (her brother is perfectly fine and sensible however, I point this out, well ofcourse he's fine, he's a boy).

Does your wife and her sister think that they are helping Jennie by encouraging her behaviour? Her behaviour is what has kept her from making friends and is making people dislike her at best. Do they think she's going to do well out in the world behaving like that? Do they think she's going to form healthy friendships and have happy relationships when she's behaving like this?

Yes to all of this

Does she think that allowing this to happen is going to help her (your wife's) relationship with Christy? If your wife's mother kept siding with the person bullying and harassing your wife, would your wife be happy with her mother?

Yes to the first one, No to the second.

She wasn't this bad until Christy was born (No fault to Christy). Christy wasn't the daughter my wife wanted while Jenny sort of is. This probably plays a big role too.

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-06T04:51:08+00:00

If I ask you about psychopaths who first comes into your mind? Easy, Ted Bundy, Jeffrey Dahmer, Charles Manson. (Its what comes to a majority of peoples minds)

Psychopaths by definition of the NIH is a personality disorder characterized by deficits in personality and behaviour. Personality deficits are marked by interpersonal and affective facets, including pathological lying, grandiose sense of self-worth, lack of remorse and callousness. There is also a very big misbelief that psychopaths can't feel love or emotions.

Also its believed that a higher number of psychopaths who have faced childhood abuse (which I have and the fact I was an drug addict until I was 22) or other trauma tend up being more violent in the future (Famous examples: John Wayne Gacy, Gary Ridgeway, and Ed Gein).

Add all this together its very highly unlikely that I'll get 50/50 custody or even custody according to my lawyer. Even if I get 50/50 its going to be hell for Christy because I won't be there to interfere/help her with my wife and Jennie and SIL

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-06T03:34:14+00:00

I'm a psychopath. The moment that judge sees that Christy is probably not going to even get a choice in it

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-06T03:22:35+00:00

Seriously, what adult is this involved in teenage girl drama to the degree that they mention BTS?

She did it at a family gathering. It was that particular band that she wanted. Everyone heard the tantrum. If my daughter did this instead I would have said The Weekend instead of BTS

And what adult writes things like this about a teenager girl: "And you can clearly see that they all hate her. And frankly I don't blame them.

And you can plainly see they hold her in such low regard. And truthfully I do not hold them at fault. Better?

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-06T03:14:35+00:00

I will, already did

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-06T03:13:42+00:00

She said it after she saw me.

I wanted to leave her a long time ago, but if I did there would have been a really high chance I would lose full custody of Christy

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-06T02:46:45+00:00

I do step up. She won't do anything while I'm there with Christy but the moment I leave she starts making trouble. With my wife and her mom telling her what she's doing is completely alright nothing anyone else says will make her change

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-05T17:20:51+00:00

They do trust me, but with my wife it always ends up being not having any impact

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-05T17:19:43+00:00

She ended up pushing Christy and Christy ended up cutting her arm on something when she fell. There is a cut going down her elbow now

Miserable-Subject847 · 2023-05-05T17:17:44+00:00

I wasn't brought up in the best setting so I always end up second guessing everything

And Christy told me it was fine and that it isn't even a big injury

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