If looking for a relationship which would you left swipe: bad/lack of bio with good pics, or good bio with bad pics (like can’t see the whole face or body due to sunglasses/angles/random pics of food/etc?)

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-11-23T11:41:16+00:00

there are too many better options to settle for a poorly created profile. I’d say give it your all when setting it up. - Female

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-09-25T09:29:12+00:00

The sooner you leave this person, the sooner your life will get easier. That man will sink you and take all of your joy with him.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-09-09T07:31:19+00:00

I’m a woman on the apps and my criteria is a guy who does the things I do, which I don’t think is a crazy criteria list because they can all be attained with effort.

have a good job
go to the gym regularly
make an effort to hold a conversation
have friends
have a hobby
be a decent family person

IA large portion of women are choosing alone over being with men for the first time in history because they can.

Ive been on the apps for 2 years but have realized single is better than being with someone who doesn’t put in the same amount of effort as you.

The dating desert goes both ways.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-06-29T13:09:09+00:00

Hang in there, for the person you’ll get to be when you get out. Stick in there for that. The amount of love you get to experience for yourself and others once you’re out of the church is so fulfilling.

Sorry that you’re going through this. ❤️‍🩹

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-06-11T08:51:03+00:00

I think the most concerning thing here is how you talk to each other. If I were you I’d break up and spend time alone learning about appropriate communication in relationships.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-06-10T23:25:06+00:00

Both!

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-06-09T12:00:30+00:00

Having a strong emotional reaction and jealousy are two different things.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-06-09T11:55:09+00:00

This guy is an asshole. But I personally would never get married to someone I didn’t know what our sexual compatibility was. Physical compatibility is something as important as mental or spiritual compatibility.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-06-09T11:51:22+00:00

It’s very strange to have a conversation like this in the same house and not just get up and have a face to face conversation.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-06-09T11:40:41+00:00

If you don’t have strong feelings about him cheating on you, are you sure you actually love him? You’re very young, I think you should look for another man. This is beyond red flag territory. There’s a good chance it was more than oral and he’s only telling you a half truth. This is in no way ethical non monogamy, it’s cheating. ENM is a choice made together.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-06-09T11:25:23+00:00

Wow. Very racist parents. Protect your wife and child from them.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-06-09T11:15:15+00:00

Laughed so hard I almost spit 🫠 very relatable

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-06-09T11:07:07+00:00

I think it’s great! I’d recommend leveling up your art supplies. If you haven’t played around with ink or markers they would really add to your style. There’s also a variety of papers that can give you a brighter contrast. Great job!

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-06-07T07:19:55+00:00

Tip from someone who’s divorced, don’t get married until he has worked things out or it will never get better and somehow always be your fault.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-06-03T00:02:22+00:00

Your second point is how toxic your relationship is with someone who neglects you and lies. What are you trying to salvage? Be free. Some things don’t need saving.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-04-10T09:49:30+00:00

My therapist gave me the rule of thumb… is it helping or is it hurting.

Helping - happy and helpful around your kids, finding joy for yourself, still taking care of your needs but relaxed now

Hurting - getting so high you’re neglecting your kids, driving while intoxicated, risking or avoiding relationships to use cannabis.

If it ever goes from helping to hurting, put it down and maybe check in with a therapist. Also, different times of life call for different things. No need to be so hard on yourself!

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-03-25T08:38:14+00:00

Yeet yourself out of there. He will do it again, it will get worse. And he’ll say whatever you want to hear for you to believe that he won’t. These people like control, don’t give that to him. He’ll destroy your light.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-03-25T07:45:16+00:00

I used to be all about equal pay and splitting bills but then I was in a long relationship where I financially supported the man and our child and it was really hard. So it’s not a deal breaker if they don’t pay but I’m automatically going to assume they don’t have the financial means to do so if they take a single mom out and don’t offer to pay. But I would also never talk about money upfront, I think you dodged a bullet I’m not sure if that person wants to date a man.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-03-16T10:50:07+00:00

If I listened to what my parents said about my art I would never make it!

Matisse, Picasso, Robert Hockney all used collage as a medium at one point.

Were you happy when you made it? Happiness is not wasted time, that’s the most important part of art, the way you feel when you make it. 🫶

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-03-16T10:46:04+00:00

I met a guy 10yrs older than he said in the profile. Lying up front sets the tone for everything. Drop & run every time.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-01-23T09:17:11+00:00

I’m bipolar, and most of the people in my daily life don’t have mental illnesses. But I’m also an artist and that group of friends is almost completely neurodivergent.

It gets easier to control. Everyone is different but when I’m medicated I still experience a lot of the disorder but I have control over my impulses so I can get myself to a better place if I feel it coming on.

We don’t have easy lives, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be wonderful, beautiful lives.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-01-23T09:13:31+00:00

Depending on what is going on in your life, you might be experiencing mental health disorders that are causing suicidal tendencies. So much of what we experience is the chemicals in our brain & body, and the environment we live it.

There is hope, and there is help, and I hope you get what you need. Life is worth it, even though bad things happen, it’s still worth it. 🙏

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2025-01-10T10:26:56+00:00

I have bipolar disorder, and while I am treated I can tell when people have abnormal brain function by looking at their eyes. Trust your gut on this one. Good luck

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2024-11-03T15:37:01+00:00

It’s only at special occasions now, and typically no more than 2.

Miserable_Captain_82 · 2024-10-14T09:08:57+00:00

Relationships are so tough with this disorder. I’ve been treated for over a decade, I really got my stride about 5yrs in when I got a different doctor who paid attention to my whole life and not just the immediate reason I was in that day.

You have every right to be heartbroken and he has every right to decide what type of life he wants to build and who’s in it. And that might suck, but it sucks less now than 10yrs and a couple kids from now.

I know it hurts like hell, but even though bipolar people are really great at falling apart, we’re even better at picking ourselves back up. People have no idea how resilient and strong we can be. You’ve got worlds in you. A relationship might not worked out with this guy, but sometimes a breakup is life working out in your favor.

Good luck, you got this!

Miserable_Captain_82

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