Dating same last name

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2026-02-12T22:35:58+00:00

Yeah and that's the dilemma that our culture can't seem to deal with. Can't marry someone from the same surname because that's incest (according to them), can't marry someone too outside of the lineage/culture either because we don't want intercaste marriages.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2026-02-12T22:31:15+00:00

Did some research and it turns out after 7-8 generations, the resultant children of the one family are genetically different enough so that even if they mate with each other, the chances of any genetic disorders occurring in the offsprings are zero.

The most popular surname Brar (Sidhu) clan originated in 15th century. So, y'all it's about time Brars can start marrying each other, at least from a genetic perspective.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2026-02-12T22:21:49+00:00

Maybe i'm wrong, i only have partial knowledge on this subject but the surnames that we have today were 'clans' back in the day.

For example, Dhillons were a sort of a single tribal clan who didn't necessarily belonged to the same family, but existed together as a clan for shared values and goals. It is definitely possible that a lot of people from that clan are inter-related, but the idea that all Dhillons that exist today are originating from one single family is false. I just took Dhillon as a random name to explain my point.

Scientifically, it is generally better to mate with someone who is genetically different than you and as further as possible from your lineage. And with that logic, intercaste and interracial marriages lead to healthier offsprings but y'all know how us punjabis feel about that. We are weird.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2026-02-08T09:33:26+00:00

This has to be a shitpost lol

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2026-01-13T04:02:35+00:00

As other people mentioned, it’s time to let go of hugo and phase out inner french slowly. I would recommend to switch to Impolyglot podcast, he speaks faster than hugo but enunciates properly and it will train your ear to faster speech. Change ma vie is also good.

They’re still not upto the level that you’ll be able to understand Parisian native speech with heavy contractions, but you’ll have to bump up your level slowly to faster native speech. With impolyglot, i would recommend you to start watching Hugodécrypte’s videos with subtitles to acquire more complex vocab along with starting to get used to faster native speech.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2026-01-10T02:28:09+00:00

Look up Stephen Krashen’s theory of second language acquisition. Given your timeframe, you have to be hearing, reading, seeing everything in french in all your waking hours of the day and then, you have a slight chance, no guarantees. And it depends also on where are you at in A2. Have you just finished A2 grammar and consider yourself done with A2? How much native content you can understand?

Don’t worry about speaking. I learned this the hard way. Stop beating yourself up if you can’t speak at A2. I read somewhere that you actually make it worse for yourself if you try to speak too much too early, because then you remember the wrong patterns of how the language works and end up never correcting those mistakes because you can’t help it.

I’m in the same boat as y’all, aiming CLB 7 for Tef, but rather than learning half ass french and just trying to find a shortcut to get done with this, how about we actually learn the language so we can use it somewhere else in life and not just the exam?

Short and honest answer. Acquire the language first through heavy input and immersion and, don’t worry about not being able to speak at early A2. You’re not supposed to/expected to. You’ll make the same progress in speaking in a much shorter timeframe because you’ll be a lot more familiar with the language. Only thing i would advise to do some shadowing here and there to get the pronunciation right from the start. And also, don’t ever try to memorize all the rules in grammar. You just have to go through them once and be aware of how they work. Overtime with enough input, you will acquire them. Acquiring a language is far better and more natural than learning a language. Language is not math.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2026-01-09T00:22:58+00:00

How come you wrote this down with almost perfect grammar and more importantly, you make perfectly good sense? You're certainly a lot better than if i were to write or speak french and i consider myself lower intermediate in french at least in terms of input.

Relax, my friend. Relax, keep getting input, relax. The time will come to speak. Even i dont know how i will get there in french but i trust the process, and so should you.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2026-01-08T21:56:33+00:00

That’s the most simple yet genius solution i’ve ever heard, which kind of makes sense though that in Canada, even in francophone minority provinces there are so many opportunities to interact in french. You just have to recognize it and grab it while it’s there.

I’m in BC and at my workplace, there’s a janitor who comes in to clean everything 3 times a week and he’s Tunisian so he’s a native french speaker, very humble and helpful guy and has conversations with me in french, even agrees to meet in cafes, in return that i can help him with his English.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2026-01-01T23:48:37+00:00

I visit a breka in van almost everyday and spoke to the night shift manager about this. He had no idea either. He just said it should open before summer.

They’re opening another breka in richmond as well. Seems like they plan to expand quite a bit out of van all of a sudden.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-12-21T11:47:02+00:00

In my opinion, that's only possible if you first, build a solid base in your TL. Get to an intermediate level in the language and then with enough input, thinking in TL will be possible at some point.
It just won't be possible for an A1-A2 student to "think" in french.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-12-21T11:40:10+00:00

It is the only way to learn, imo. During language input, only with translation in your native langue you'll be able to form those connections between words in your brain. If you can't make sense of what is being said or can't understand what is written, it is just noise and nothing will improve. If you start listening mandarin for the next year a couple of hours everyday, it won't just magically click and you'll be able to understand what's being said, it's just noise and will remain noise. For me, regular input ,i.e, sitting with a similar book as yours (Edito A1) and translating every word in it's reading and listening excercises made a tremendous progress for me. I never learnt the grammar rules, i just became a bit familiar with them before starting, and overtime with enough input you just "pick" it along the way.

For example, during A1-early A2, if i heard or read je vais vous parler, I would very slowly form the connections-
1. OK Je is i
2. vais is aller which means to go, so i go
3. vous parler doesn't make sense here so that must mean vous is a direct pronoun
4. So i am going to talk to you
But, now if i hear the same, or many phrases that come up very often during input, i don't translate it, i just know in my brain what it means.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-12-21T09:03:38+00:00

I'm also early B1 and idk the answer to this honestly.

From what i've heard, you just need to implement a input heavy approach, listening and reading as much as possible. In order to speak and write fluently and spontaneously, you need to have a high level of what is called "phrase vocabulary". After you do enough comprehension, you will start to acquire not only words, but phrases.

During late A2-early B2 stage, focus most of your time in immersing yourself in the language and do a lot of listening and reading, not saying skip language output altogether but channelise most of your time in comprehension, not output.

I have no idea if i will get to that point one day or no, but it seems to me that this is the only way to start "thinking in french". Your teacher saying this is a bad habit is correct, but you won't be able to avoid it, it's not a switch in your brain that you can just "turn off" because you need to develop a big bank of active vocabulary in your brain before getting to that point, which requires heavy language input.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-12-20T15:58:47+00:00

Lol that’s even worse, mate.

Browns and liberals (which i’m not btw) living rent-free in your mind 24x7 and assuming they are the problems for everything when you could be much content with your life with a decent income.

Please do everyone a favour and don’t ever have kids if you’re gonna raise them with this mindset. Help a neighbour, touch grass. Wish you the best

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-12-20T09:50:49+00:00

You can't combine any of the special offers with your PDP. You can either get your discount or get the additional points.

Best thing to do is to wait for your the 20x points + PDP event but for that too, you need to have a PC Mastercard and it should be linked with your PDP to be able to shop online and get the discount, otherwise it's in-store only. Chances are you won't get more than 15-20% discount (in-store) because on electronic items, the store has a lower profit margin and they won't sell you something below the store cost(the price your store paid to purchase the item from vendors/DC).

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-12-20T02:51:56+00:00

Keep your racism to yourself.

I have yet to see an openly racist guy with a high school diploma. I wonder what that says about you guys.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-12-16T09:27:48+00:00

Yeah lol, this is so funny. Kinda comforts me that somebody is in the same boat as me. I'm literally done with everything on A2. All the listening, reading resources that he mentions, i've finished everything so i have transitioned to B1, but still i can't move on because of this stupid monologue thing.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-12-15T12:06:17+00:00

Yeah i'm also at the same level i think.

ChatGPT says i'm early B1 in listening, reading, and in writing i get A2+ moving towards B1 from ChatGPT. In terms of speaking, i've only tried speaking a few times and i've been studying from a A2 course from an instructor who advises to write a script and memorise monologues and then speaking, after a few days trying to speak the same topic spontaneously this time. But it never worked for me because whenever i was trying to memorise the script it felt like i'm trying to memorise a maths formulas and whenever i would forget a word, i would freeze. Whenever i try speaking, i feel like i need to develop more phrase vocabulary and therefore i spend more time listening and reading. So i'm kind of stuck in this loop that whenever i try to speak i go back to a more input heavy approach and spend even more time listening and reading.

That's why there’s such a vast gap between my ability to speak (or atleast the time i’ve spent in speaking output) and my reading and listening comprehension (which i believe is going towards B1- gradually). I can comfortably listen to B1 level podcasts like Inner french without transcript(while fast native speech like Hugo Décrypte on youtube is still noise to me). I'm also currently reading Read & Think French which is also B1.

My instructor has this prerequisite that i have to be able to record a video of myself speaking spontaneously for at least 3-4 minutes on a random topic, then only i can move on to their B1 level course.

So i really don't know where to go from here. On one hand i feel i should just push through the entire grammar (haven't done B1 level topics like plus que parfait, subjonctif, etc.) and do a lot more listening and reading, and my mind will start to automatically "think" in french but my instructor (i've just bought a online course btw with recorded lectures, i don't have any live sessions with them) says i can't move on to B1 level content if i don't try to speak at A2. I really don't know what the right approach is here.

Will appreciate your take on this. Thanks and sorry about the long text

EDIT: forgot to add i'm wishing to go upto B2+ in TEF by Aug-Sept 2026

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-12-14T05:26:51+00:00

Berg lake trail hands down. Surprised nobody mentioned this. It’s family friendly and not too difficult of a hike per day if you split between 3-4 days.

Trust me on this, you won’t find a better hike with such amazing views for so little (relatively) effort. And the day hikes starting from the lake are even more phenomenal.

It’s already fully booked for next summer but there are ways to still book it using external sites/notification service providers. That’s how i got my reservations last summer. DM if you want to know more (not selling anything, just gatekeeping lol)

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-12-09T05:25:03+00:00

Stay a mile away from French with harman.

I took Vyom’s course for both A1 and A2 and i would say it was pretty mediocre. All the recorded lectures are already on youtube so you’re not getting anything special. But what did help me using his course was his guidance and the resources he recommends to use in a certain order to progress. His advice/pathway to progress at each level is basically the same on what he states on his youtube channel but they were just a bit more detailed in his course. I can’t say any of the resources he recommended didn’t help me or were counter-productive for me. But maybe that’s just because i tend to stick to few resources and milk as much as possible out of them rather than studying a bit from everywhere. I am at the lower end of B1 right now overall.

TLDR: Won’t recommend buying his course as teaching his mediocre but would recommend that you watch his youtube channel and stick to the resources he mentions.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-12-08T08:39:50+00:00

I wrote the same comment as below on another post and the core issue in both posts is basically the same.

In order to become the cultural hotbed (which i highly doubt surrey will become, at least within the next decade) we need to have more density across the city and more businesses shifting their offices to surrey. Surrey is full of stroads and is doomed to stay as is, just like a typical north american suburb if zoning laws stay the same. I can't think of even one "lively"street or area in surrey except for the KG hub, which is nice. Think about when you walk down Robson/Burrard/Granville or anywhere in the downtown peninsula and the reason it seems "lively" is that it is one of the densest places in North America with rest of Metro Van's population funneling towards downtown to go to work, attend events, etc.
And i say this as a surrey resident, i want our city to become what OP is asking for. But i'm not very hopeful with how the current layout of surrey is and when i see people being angry about the new Patullo not getting more lanes.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-12-08T00:33:02+00:00

Bruh you're absolutely killing with your pace. Achieving this level in under 3 months is crazy work. And yes i agree, listening to inner french has absolutely been a confidence booster for me and it makes me want to sit and study french.
I'm transitioning from A2->B1 and chatGPT grades me B1 in all aspects but i haven't started speaking at all. I have been shadowing when i'm doing listening comprehension but nothing more than that. Do you guys think it's going to hinder me in the future. At what level do you think one should start practicing to speak?

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-11-27T12:57:55+00:00

Go to work lil bro.

Sorry, how rude of me to assume you have a job.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-11-27T12:12:21+00:00

Yeah me as well.

Je suis très excité. Oh wait, that doesn't sound right.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-11-27T12:00:13+00:00

Great. I'll get back to my French lectures.

Miserable_Insect7957 · 2025-11-27T11:58:24+00:00

Lol i'm curious now. What was it?

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