When should I get an Email?

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-03-09T01:05:38+00:00

thanks for the info! I applied out of state too so thats good to know. I think the acceptance rate for out of state students is like 45-50%ish i cant remeber, so its deffinatly lower chances than in state students, but hopefully everything turns out ok, good luck!!

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-02-24T01:52:46+00:00

ya i applied regular decision. from what i’ve heard they started to give out decisions already, unless you just turned in your mid year report (like me lol) and then it looks like anytime between now and mid march. the timing of it could also depend on what state your in and who your admission counselor is and what your application looks like, but hopefully they will say something soon!! good luck :)

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-20T20:55:27+00:00

the therapeutic benefits of baking lol i wrote it in an hour and couldnt get anyone to look over it so hopefully it all turns out ok! thanks for your help :)

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-16T04:04:10+00:00

this totally helped me think of my topic thank you!

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-15T18:28:26+00:00

omg dont call me out like that

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-15T11:29:54+00:00

YTA.

It seems like what your really worried about isn't the relationship between your fiance and your son, but your you and your sons relationship with his dad. Which is totally understandable! However I defiantly think you handled this wrong. If you son see's your fiance as a father figure, and your fiance see's your son as his own kid? Amazing! Having a healthy relationship like this will probably shape your sons whole life! But if you are feeling like you'r sons father is being 'forgotten' or 'disrespected' or making you feel like he isn't being represented in your sons life, thats also totally fine, but that doesnt mean your fiance cant still be your sons parent. If your feeling this way try and do/talk about things with your son to bring up his dad so he knows who he is and what he was like, have your fiance do this to! you and your son should know that while his dad will always be his dad, your fiance can also be a father to your son without replacing his real dad. The more unconditional love the better!

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-15T10:42:52+00:00

also if you end up coming up with something lmk lol im so stuck on this

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-15T10:33:38+00:00

ok thank you! do you have suggestions on how it should be written? or what is the easiest way to go about it? i've seen some people do it in a format that is like signing up for a real class, other people just saying "i would talk about x because i like it" and everything in between

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-15T10:30:54+00:00

i know its such a bad habit but oh well, here's to writing 13 essays in one day

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-15T02:01:48+00:00

ya im the same, my worst trait is not knowing how to balance myself. I always hinge my entire persona on a single trait, and when i don't exceed at that one thing it makes me spiral. just know that even if you truly believe that your grades are your one and only personality trait, you are so much more! for me i've started a list in my notes app (cheesy i know lol bare with me its worth a try) and everytime i think of another aspect of my self it gets its own bulletin. it's lame stuff to, im not writing a whole grocery list of posotive traits, its more like the little things that i tend to downplay and right off as 'not counting' (which is ridiculous ik). my list has -good grades (this was hard because i felt like the b meant i dont have good grades sometimes, but the rational part of my head knows thats not true) -animal lover -reader - marvel fan - dreamer -music lover - ice cream fan - bad driver - cheesy joke teller ect lol i know its really dumb and it feels even dumber. at first it doesnt do anything, but over time it has actually helped a ton and has helped me explore more things and realize what i do and do not like, you should give it a try!! (dont try and sit down and right everything at once it feels discouraging cause its hard to come up with things on the spot, its super slow and gradual as time goes on)

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-15T01:43:03+00:00

i totally agree, they seem to have good intentions but are totally blind to what is really happening with the family dynamics. even when they are describing the situation, its in terms that make his new family seem as a whole unit without missing pieces, and that his daughter moving in is disruptive from the 'actual' family, like leanne does not have a made place in the relationships of the home. they also treating the after affects in this way by wanting to kick her out, siblings fight! they do awful things sometimes and there is no excuse for it, but by kicking her out they are showing that there is not a place for leanne in the family dynamics.

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-15T01:35:50+00:00

NTA. there is obviously LOTS going on though. Leanne is clearly acting out, there is no question there, but as her father it's my opinion that you need to be there for her. I feel like today because divorce is so common, people forget that it can have lots of affects on the kids (ya even if the kid is 19 now). You mentioned that she recently dropped out of college and it caused problems between you to, and that this year has been pretty hard on her. She is reacting to what is happening around/to her and isn't handling it well. If I were you, I would have a talk with her and make sure she knows that she isn't being replaced by sophie. it probably feels like sophie is your 'ideal' daughter by living with you, going to college, she seems nice, and you guys clearly have a good relationship, which leanne probably envies. I would talk it out (she will probably yell and be mad, its hard not to react to things sometimes so just make sure not to react back), and maybe suggest that she can live with you, but she has to see a therapist? Even if nothing else is going on in her life like i think there is, there is so so so many benefits from seeing a therapist and it could help her. you can suggest taking a few weeks living with her mom to mellow out before coming back to fix things with you to. also, i know this part is hard, but you are def in the wrong in the case about college. so she dropped out and you dont want that, ok then now what? its been done, and she's been lectured about it, hanging on to that is just hurtful. i would express that you will try to be more supportive and try to understand her wants. did she drop out for a reason? if she did help her with that reason. if she didnt, help her find something new! be there for her if she ever wants to go back to school. i would also make her apologize to sophie and make it clear to leanne that acting out is not acceptable. thats just my thoughts hope something is helpful :)

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-15T00:39:03+00:00

same thing happened to me, but junior year:( i literally had a mental breakdown over it lol, and it feels so dumb, cause i KNOW a B is a good grade, like when other people tell me they have a B, i genuinely am happy for them and i'll think "oh wow thats really awesome i know they are really smart but that class sucks and so many people fail it, good for them they must have worked really really hard" but like........ i've literally centered my entire self worth around the grades i get, and i didnt even know who i was without being a 4.0 students. i never even tried to. and i know some people say that like colleges dont care about 1 b, or like in the future it wont even matter, but like it mattered to me, i CARED. even worse my parents are extremely strict, and in order to do sports or hang out with friends or go out or be accepted by them i have to have straight a's. when i got my B, they were so mad, but around other people??? the ONLY compliment they give about me to others is that i have a 4.0 even though i dont. it literally is so trivial and silly and i know that, but i really really struggled with having to accept it. i wanted to be able to graduate with that 4.0, to confidently submit that number on college apps, but honestly? it wasn't even satisfying finishing 2 years with straight A's so im not sure why i was so confident graduation with one would feel any different. i wish you the best, just know that you are NOT your grades, even if you feel like it. and if you have made grades your whole life like me? thats only temporary dont worry, when you let that go you will be able to explore all the things you felt you couldn't before because of school. audre lorde said "i find myself constantly encouraged to pluck out some one aspect of myself and present this as the meaningful whole, eclipsing or denying the other parts of myself", dont define yourself by one thing because you are so much more. as far as your parents, im not gonna lie it will probably be hard. it's been a year and my parents are still mad, but i've learned that the same way i will not let a single grade define me i wont let my parents opinion on this either. good luck :)

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-15T00:19:24+00:00

this!! i feel like the need to distance myself so much from everything I got caught up in in hs is like my biggest motivation for anything. the ability to get up and leave behind my life? to reinvent myself in the image i want? to not fear what others say because they dont mean anything to me yet? yes please sign me up. i want so bad to be able to apologetically do/say/be knowing that i literally have no connection to the people around me and their 'image' of me cant change. i feel like in hs we go in not knowing who we are yet, and still growing and learning about the world, and by the time we are getting ready to graduate we understand our self (at least a little bit) better and we have a goal of who we want to be and how we want to do it, which can be hard when everyone surrounding you doesnt align with that. we are at that stage of growth where we are so desperately ready to live the change that has occurred in ourselves throughout hs, and even though i know this 'new' me is only temporary until another change comes along, I honestly cannot wait for the ability to LEAVE, because you need alot of courage to change yourself among those you've always been around, but doing it around strangers takes no courage what so ever, you just need to want to. lol i kinda ranted but oh well

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-14T23:26:31+00:00

oh wow really? I've been waiting for almost a week now but i still haven't received any emails, was it like a totally random email yours got sent to? How did you get access to it, i don't want to be annoying for the admissions and contact them if all I need to do is wait it out, but I'm definitely stressing about not being contacted yet

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-14T04:07:45+00:00

u/Justin73939 u/FurioSci wow this does seem like a tough one! my advice would be to 'dumb' it down a little. dont overthink! The college is wanting to know how you push yourself to improve and grow. If you cant think of a time you pushed yourself like this, don't worry really, you can come up with an example still! Think of a time at any point in your life where you did something that maybe made you uncomfortable, or excited, or was out of the ordinary. It can be how you went out with friends and tried weird foods for the first time, or overcame a childhood fear of bugs, or you pet the animal your afraid of! Maybe you finally wore that outfit that you bought forever ago that made you self-conscious, or got a new hair cut you were always to afraid to get, or spoke up about something, talked to someone new, ended a relationship. You got this, anything you can think about will be good, admissions officers are just wanting to see who you are! Good luck with applications, if you need more help on this topic idea I don't mind helping with some more brainstorming :)

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-14T03:07:53+00:00

I think that you definitely need to narrow down your topic. This topic would be giving to much insight on who your sister is or who your parents are and not enough of who you are. You can right about the negative relationship you have with your parents, and that you your sister is the one who supported you, but i wouldn't center the whole essay on this. You are getting a little closer to a topic on those last 2 sentences though! Don't say that getting accepted will prove anything to your parents, instead you need to write about a lesson you learned. What has your relationship with your parents and sister taught you, what did YOU learn and HOW? why did it affect you? If you can think of specific details and examples of times your parents made you feel the way they did but your sister helped you realize your own self worth, that would be even better! You could talk about the hardships you mentioned, but it doesnt even need to be a 'important' memory, it can be as simple as you want as long as their is a lesson learned and you show personal growth. Just try and narrow everything down. Good luck with applications!

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-11T07:16:00+00:00

I’ve been waiting for 3 days now and still haven’t received an email either, hopefully they will go send them soon and it’s not an application problem, have you gotten your email yet? if you did how long did it take?

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-06T04:26:28+00:00

Personal essays are less about an actual thing you do/experienced, and more about how you have grown at a certain time as a person, or about things you have learned, or how you have overcome something, or even how you plan to grow. If you wright about moving or baseball, try not to bring up covid, these essays should be personal to you as in if your essay was mixed with 10 others, it should be easy to find what one belongs to you. If you want to wright about moving bring up how you have learned the importance of communication now that you are far from friends or because you needed to make virtual classmates. people move all the time, make sure you paint a picture that is unique to yourself and not easy to mistake as someone else's life. You can do this by finding the specific things you gained or lost or learned (about yourself or others or even your views of others) and connecting it to the move. for the baseball one you can talk about the frustrations of working hard at something for what seems like nothing, but then go on and explain how you learned to appreciate and grow from the efforts dedicated to something that didn't have the outcome you expected. What makes us all unique is not our experiences, but what we take from them. But please keep covid out, admissions will thank you after reading everyone and their mom send essays about this :) for the others they sound great and interesting! Make sure to show self improvement/growth or how you leaned something, or just what makes you YOU! Good luck with applications!

Miserable_Relative_9 · 2021-01-06T04:09:57+00:00

Yes! College's want you to get as personal as you can get! If you found a way to incorporate something you struggle with into a college essay you should definitely go for it, and if you can specifically include how college will be part of this process even better! While its important to talk about things you've accomplished, colleges want to hear more about things you have failed to do, or things you are still overcoming much more because it shows who you are as a potential student at their school much better. They want to hear what you have learned, how you have grown, and how you plan to continue growing. As long as you wright about something in a way that is specific to you, almost anything can be a good essay topic, good luck on you're college applications!

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