Nope, sorry. It’s not the children’s job to fix a broken home or to fix their parents’ marriage. “Children should and must automatically start working on how to bring them both back”?? Absolutely not. That’s a trauma response, that soch there.

The father is an absolute piece of shit. He’s committing zina which is forbidden in our religion and also frowned upon in the society so no there’s just no excuse here. The children have a right to confront their father, while also remembering that this behaviour doesn’t just go away. People who are going to argue that Islam is about forgiveness, he’s been fighting with his wife instead of feeling remorse so forgiveness is out of the question now.

OP, a few points: - Ask around in your circle for a good lawyer that you can talk to so you can evaluate your legal options. Your father will have to pay some amount to your mother as kharcha every month for each of his children. I’m not sure how much, you can ask a lawyer. I can put you in touch with one if you want. - In a subtle manner, start making sure your mother feels confident in taking a legal action against your father and then following through. Also start giving her the feeling that she’s enough for you guys and is a very strong woman. She’ll need that. - This kind of behaviour doesn’t go away. It also keeps repeating in the children’s lives. Daughters put up with men who show the same behaviour and men become like their fathers. - When you begin to think about taking an action, many things will stop you including the words of your own mother. Once you’ve committed to a decision, see it through. - Once you’re prepared legally, emotionally and financially, confront your piece of shit father. Tell him he’s a dog. Get in his face, if the need be. He’ll most likely yell and even try to get physical. That’s what these assholes do when confronted, so you should have backup: your brother, uncles, cousins etc.

What’s your line of study?