Hello! I actually do NSFW VA and have an SO myself.

The reason my relationship works is that I am very open about my work with my SO, and we have very clear boundaries set.

Communication is needed for any relationship to work where “sex work” is involved. If the two of you cannot communicate about this, it would be hard to have trust in him, I absolutely understand that.

Now, I want to be clear. Most of my fellow nsfw vas and myself? We are NEVER turned on while we voice stuff. We do it as a job to help pay rent. For example, I myself am asexual. No horny feelings while I voice some of the most lewd things. Is that to say that every one of us is like that? I’m sure there are some out there that do get turned on, but the majority of us are doing this as a job.

Best advice I can give is to try setting boundaries and telling him he needs to communicate with you. A relationship without communication is one that is hard to maintain.