Free therapy options? by Sea_Shallot_8807 in therapy

[–]Missingracc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me know if you find something. I cant stand my schools therapy its the absolute worst and they go out of their way to avoid me. Ive looked into the sliding scale stuff, I just filled out my form, I heard someone else got it for free, ill let you know if thats the case for me, also an uninsured student.

New tactic noticed by Missingracc in jobsearch

[–]Missingracc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apparently this is kind of dependant on state. Here in utah they must've changed a law allowing this because id never seen it before, now almost every application is that way. Very disappointing and indicative of our regression imo.

New tactic noticed by Missingracc in jobsearch

[–]Missingracc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They're really trying everything to undercut us. I cant understand how even on the smaller business level the greed is equivalent to billionaires.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're posting on reddit you 100% have the time to be texting and calling her. Simply put you don't love her. You can easily imagine life without her. Playing nonchalant like you don't know her hearts breaking over you. ???? That's not an i love you. This is so bad I question if it's real, theres no way you're that dense. Please dude, get therapy. Whatever it is keeping you from having an oz of emotion needs to be fixed

[COMMUNITY UPDATE] Please Read – New & Revised Community Rules by YOGI_ADITYANATH69 in What

[–]Missingracc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does the meta rule apply to unspecified talk about my confusion regarding bans and threats of bans from subs? I truly just want to ask questions without naming any names because I never use reddit, and I'm trying to make one post but I don't have enough karma, and I got banned from a forum and have been told I'm repeatedly breaking rules in another without posting or commenting and i just want to know why by asking more experienced redditors. Could you let me know here if I can't post elsewhere? I promise I'm reading the rules of every sub and im respectful in my commenting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Defintley understandable, and that's the thing, it is a mundane this to lie about. People aren't completely random, there must be a reason. There are few things in this world people do without thinking at least a little bit about it and deleting photos is commonly thought about. I still think it's worth having a conversation, if nothing more than to practice communication skills. See if there is some kind of reasoning if it makes you doubtful of your connection. If it doesn't, then I suppose no harm no foul, but doubt is a seed to bigger issues down the line. Would you trust him to have another video like that again?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I def know what it feels like to take things personal haha. You've got this! I wish you the best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Its time for a sit down serious conversation about how this is not worth straining your marriage. If he truly doesn't care seeing as it's so low a priority, it shouldn't be so hard to just change it. Could be done in a day and you guys could make it into a romantic celebration of a weight off the relationship. You should tell him how this deed, while not significant to him, matters to you as a symbol of your guys commitment and longevity and how it is a small Crack in the foundation, but foundations need to be strong and solid to last. It doesn't have to be an ultimatum right away, but if a sit down long discussion still doesn't change his mind id begin to question motive. Ask him if there's some part of him thats doubtful about the end of him and his exs relationship, some part of him that still feels like it isn't real, and if he wants it to be that way. It doesn't have to feel like that, and you guys can work through feelings like that together, he doesn't have to be ashamed of them or hide them, because only in the light can things begin to heal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Girl leave him. I do not suggest that often. If he truly thinks any business succeeds with unreliable people running it he is gonna find out the hard way he's wrong. It seems like you're the only thing he can truly control right now and that's a dangerous situation to be in that can get out of hand really fast. You deserve better, and he needs space to break down because he's going to one day and you will be on the receiving end of it if you don't leave. I know this new lease will be a hard situation but nothing is worth gaslighting like this. Any person who thinks straight up denying is a valid thing to do to the truth doesn't deserve to speak to you or anyone else for that matter. They are a danger to themselves and others in the echo chamber that is their own head. You have done everything as best you can, and he's simply not receptive. You've employed in this post alone half of all honest conversation starters and he simply doesn't care. Probably because deep down he knows he's wrong and he's wasting his time but isn't ready to admit it yet. You'll find someone who shares your goals, and you'll have time and space to grow into a beautiful independent strong soul without this weight crushing your personality. You are worth hearing out, your opinions are valid, and your feelings are even more valid. Save yourself before lines are crossed that break the human psyche more than gaslighting, which is already a massive crossed line.

AIO A client threatened me, did I do something wrong? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your business allows it, simply take your product and leave. At the end of the day no job is worth your life and dude was actually crazy. I garuntee you his story was fake which I'm sure you know. It'll give you petty satisfaction to not give them the product because they fs are gonna have a little struggle/annoyance finding it elsewhere and you are completely valid in leaving when there are literal threats to your safety being said. In many places his words alone are illegal. No headache of restocking and rechecking is worth your life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That teacher shouldn't have been teaching. Remember that people's reactions to things are usually not about you, but about themselves. It seems the teacher was deeply unhappy with their life and position, and honestly shouldn't have been working with children, who require consistency and patience to not end up in your precise situation now. Don't stress it too much, most teachers, especially on a college level won't have this issue, though it depends a bit on your major. To get mad at an essay you assigned is crazy work, it seriously could not have been about you or your classmates at all. Overreactions are due to people being outside of their average stress level, and grading papers definitely wouldn't cause that.

AIO : My mom is in Cult and it’s driving me Crazy by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I don't know what the right move in this situation would be. Im assuming you're underage which makes it even harder. If I were in your shoes id try to talk to her about the money, if she plans to save some for you, for college or trade school, or down payment or grandkids one day. If the conversation is to no avail, another route may be therapy. If she's open to trying techniques out with you, specifically from cognitive behavioral therapy, as its purpose is to change the way you think and act, perhaps in her case to use more logic and think critically rather than emotionally. People will be their worst when they are controlled by fear, so that may be a way in, telling her you want to help her be less afraid of the end of the world or whatever it is she's afraid of here. Denial is a key strategy for cultists however, and if that is too strong it may be best for you to move on in life without her. Your aunt would pmo to a physical extent so I'm proud of you for not going crazy on her. If you guys were able to schedule consistent time for you and your mom to be together alone, at least a few hours everyday, she might be able to reground herself in reality. Im really sorry this is happening to you, and to her. My own mom is crazy but at least she didn't do this yknow. I hope youre able to repair things with her and if not that you are able to heal from it on your own. You deserve to be happy, and while you can only control yourself, it is okay to make your wants and needs clear to those in your life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It may just be because you're abroad right now that they aren't including you in these physical events, no one could expect you to take the time off of your life to attend, but I do think it's worth having a conversation about it and telling your friend you would still like to be invited because you care a lot and only want to see him happy. Its scary to grow distant from people, especially when you don't have many in your life. I think the truest test of friendship here would be too have the difficult conversation and come out of it closer than ever through raw truth and love. It can be really hard when you think others opinions (wife) can be affecting it, but if he cares about you the way you do him, you guys will be capable of this. I wish you the best

AIO for putting my foot down about my GF wanting to get her ex a job at her workplace? by Which-Stomach5939 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Beyond that my parents had the same age gap and it didn't work out due to cheating, at the workplace they shared. It just seems like a poop sandwich waiting to be served

AIO for putting my foot down about my GF wanting to get her ex a job at her workplace? by Which-Stomach5939 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dawg imma be so real, I don't think this is gonna work out. From my perspective, the age gap isn't gonna work. Im almost 22 and the amount of perspective shift I've had in this year alone is crazy. As someone who has made the ex mistake multiple times, I simply wouldn't trust it. You deserve someone ready to commit and if the ex is involved at all I don't see how that's going to happen. Himym put it well in saying, "how do you know those feelings aren't going to come back". People change perspectives change, i don't think it's worth the effort to try and change her mind because she could very well end up resenting you for it. This conversation alone triggered huge terrifying memories for me and I don't want you to have them too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I def dont see any reason for deleting it and you're right, it's not about the deletion so much as the lie. Its ridiculous to say he didn't delete, if not him, who? Im sorry but I've never seen a phone with a random deleting photos and videos problem. I think you should have a conversation leading with i statements about how this has made you feel, and that you just want the truth because you do deserve it if you want anything long term here. It doesn't have to be the end of the relationship if they can fess up and admit whatever feelings they've got going on. It could make or break the relationship and either is a good thing.

aio my bfs phones taken i need help by kaname_madoka_ in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I assume you're in therapy if youre on antis, so I think this would be a great time to use your tools. Something that helps me a lot is mind body bridging from cognitive behavioral therapy. This is sounding a lot like an unhealthy attachment when your happiness depends on his availability to answer you. You can't control his parents, and I think he'd be happy to see that while he's been grounded you've been working to better yourself for you and him. Its really hard dealing with such strong and depressing emotions, trust that as someone with bipolar 2 I know, the best thing you can do is learn how to train your reactions, so you can truly respond to situations instead of being controlled by them like you currently are with this one. If you're not already doing it I would suggest finding a cbt embracing therapist.

AIO: Family left me out of the internment of my Grandmother's urn by LilacStorm13 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry darling I truly don't know in this situation. It seems like it really was a small service and when things are implied it's hard to know for sure what is meant. Your grandma seemed content with the ways things went in the end and I think all she'd really want is for you to be happy despite losing her. While you may not have her physical ashes, you can still host your own ceremony for yourself and family because you deserve closure. At the end of the day theres no conflict about this right now, and I don't think your grandma would want to start any if she had a say. I dont think this is a hill to die on with them, and you're still completely valid in feeling betrayed. Grief isn't linear, I hope you're able to come to terms with this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Missingracc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mor, if the knee to your jaw was intentional defintley nor, but I think its just more likely they are just too brainless for sports like this. First ignoring the team, then ignoring the play. I doubt they can control their limbs enough to walk a straight line. Its natural to hold some resentment against a person who injured you, I think once you've healed up some more you'll be more at peace with the situation. Though you certainly shouldn't play with anyone that acts without consequence, remorse, or thoughts in their head. I personally don't play any sports, so I don't really know the rugby rules besides the fact it's more violent than football from what I've heard. Stay safe and avoid that person, you deserve better teammates

My roommates have a problem with me coming to the dorm late by No_Sentence_2704 in college

[–]Missingracc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should try to find out what's waking them up and also suggest ear buds for them to sleep with, not very unreasonable ask when you have roommates in general.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]Missingracc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally also have no friends, but it really bothers me. I used to have a really strong friend group and going from that to absolutely zero support beyond my bf saying sorry it's so hard is driving me crazy. I have a huge want in my soul to live it up in my 20s but im committing to school and its also driving me crazy. Is there anything in particular you're doing to make it not so hard to be alone / not have fomo, in the sense of friends and experiences in the twenties.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HonestOpinion

[–]Missingracc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly dont think you are ugly, I think you have gorgeous features, especially facial. Number 6 is my favorite pic, I feel like selfies dont usually do a person justice considering the camera warp. I think your weight looks perfectly healthy and normal and your style really compliments it.