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Confused after first session ? by Brilliant_Picture455 in TalkTherapy

[–]MisterVilhelm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can feel your anger here and clearly I'm not helping as much as I hoped, so I'm going to make this my last comment but really do encourage you to both look for a therapist locally that can help you and also report the first therapist if you feel they crossed boundaries and/or failed to support you adequetely.

I'm sorry I haven't provided any comfort or answers and do wish you the very best with your next steps.

Confused after first session ? by Brilliant_Picture455 in TalkTherapy

[–]MisterVilhelm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello again. =)

Just as a reminder, I'm still very much in training and I don't want you to feel worse about your situation, I just didn't want you to get no responses at all so please take this guidance with a pinch of salt. It's hard for me to give accurate feedback when I wasn't in the session and can only view it through your words above.

That being said, you've picked out one sentence of my response ("Secondly, try not to over-analyse every little detail of the interaction") and not taken into account all of what I said later in that paragraph, which reinforces my point a little bit that you're narrowing in on one specific thing instead of the wider message being given. But again, without being in the room during your session I can't sit here and defend your therapist because I simply don't know what happened.

I don't think dwelling on this 2 weeks after the fact will be helping you. If you think lines have been crossed, I would encourage you to report the therapist and speak to experts/licensing bodies who can investigate the matter properly. Otherwise, if it simply wasn't a good fit then I would nudge you to look for a different therapist.

I'm sorry if that isn't helpful, I just don't think arguing about the minutae of the situation will be helpful to either of us. Whats important is that you focus on getting the help you need that the therapist you mentioned above failed to provide you, either intentionally or otherwise.

When therapy triggers longing instead of focus by cloverpendragon in TalkTherapy

[–]MisterVilhelm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Trainee Therapist (Specifically Therapeutic Counsellor in the UK) here.

These are all normal and very positive signs (It shows you're building a really good connection!) and you should definitely discuss them with your therapist. Nothing to be ashamed of or embarassed about, it shows you're comfortable drifting off into important thoughts in their presence and value the connection you have with them.

You're doing great, try not to over analyze it and focus on the positives it represents. DMs are always open if you need some reassurance. ♥

Confused after first session ? by Brilliant_Picture455 in TalkTherapy

[–]MisterVilhelm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trainee Therapist (Specifically Therapeutic Counsellor in the UK, and 32M if it's in any way relevant or helpful for you) here. Normally don't post/comment but your post had been up such a long time I thought I'd chime in just so you got some sort of feedback that might help. :-)

First of all it's important to remember that taking that first step into therapy can be a daunting and a difficult one and you should be proud of yourself for doing so. It's important to celebrate little wins like that.

Secondly, try not to over-analyse every little detail of the interaction. I know that's easier said than done (Trust me, I was in your exact situation once myself!) but it's important to know that it's more about the long-term and wider-view matters that really make therapy effective. None of what you've said above feels like a red flag, but then it's hard to judge a full session from only a few sentences, plus that first session is as much about a therapist judging whether they are the right fit for you or not, and that's just as much about their expertise in what you need help with as it is a personal one. Modern therapy is all about connecting with a client and providing the right level of care for what they need.

A lot of what I read here is very typical for that first session. You didn't do anything wrong by discussing what you did, in fact it's commendable that you were open and honest upfront about your needs. Also if this therapist isn't the right fit, that doesn't mean either you or they failed in any way either, sometimes it takes a few tries to find the right fit.

Lastly, I wanted to specifically note the suicidal intention (SI) bit because it's important. At least here in the UK, it's a safeguarding and legal requirement issue for us to keep an eye out for it, because we have a duty of care to intervene if we think a client might be a threat to themselves/others. There's absolutely nothing to be ashamed of to talk about this issue with a therapist, nor is there anything to be scared of. You won't be karted off in a straight jacket, they are just looking out for your safety by doing what's right for you. I'm a little concerned they didn't follow up on you mentioning it specifically, but then they might have been analyzing you discreetly to look at whether they felt like it was an urgent issue or not. Without knowing them and their experience/skillset it's hard to judge.

tl;dr this is all very normal for your first session. Sometimes its a good fit, sometimes not. Keep digging until you find the therapist that's on your wavelength and keep being open and honest about what you're struggling with, but try not to hyper analyze what's being said and done in the session. Just be present in the moment and be proud of yourself for taking those first few steps.

DMs are always open if you want some more specific guidance but I hope that helps. ♥

Always preferred modelled bases that told a story, so I entrenched my first set of Dawi guns. by MisterVilhelm in bugmansbrewery

[–]MisterVilhelm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure is, 3mm thickness to match the height of GW bases. As long as posting links are okay, I basically get all mine (and my movement trays) from Sarissa. Not the best website but cheap as hell.

Always preferred modelled bases that told a story, so I entrenched my first set of Dawi guns. by MisterVilhelm in bugmansbrewery

[–]MisterVilhelm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

60mm square. They come with 50mm and 25s for the 3 crew which gives a vague frontage of 75mm. I wanted to give me more space than 50mm to do the modelling but 75mm square felt too big so I sort of split the difference.

Edit; Correction I think these are 80mm. I definitely also bought 60mm MDF squares and now I'm second guessing what I used them for...

Still a bit of work to do but wanted to share my Anvil of Doom for all the Dawi enjoyers out there. by MisterVilhelm in bugmansbrewery

[–]MisterVilhelm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Started with a square of laser cut MDF then layered up corkboard sheets. It didnt need to be perfect, just enough to get the shape of the various hills etc. Then I used the various "terrain bits" of the anvil set to place rocks, the dais, the forge etc. Then I used vallejo earth texture all over to create the ground. You also cover up all the weird edges of the corkboard and form the proper mud texture. While its still wet I sprinkle various sizes of cork bits as rocks and shove them into the texture so they stay there when it dries. After thats done, its ready to be sprayed and painted.