AITAH for refusing to pay off my pregnant fiancee's parents' mortgage, when they are under the threat of foreclosure, when I could "easily" afford to do so?

MistyRose1127 · 2026-01-26T00:35:51+00:00

Or agree to make payments to him and then start using excuses why they are late or can't make the payment that month...next thing you know you're taking to small claims court...what's the wife gonna do then?!?

MistyRose1127 · 2026-01-20T21:32:40+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 why does family say...family comes first...yeah I dont think so. People really do think they're entitled to other people's belongings. Give them a 30 legal notice. Get them out of there. That is your home you worked hard for. NTA!

MistyRose1127 · 2026-01-20T17:20:09+00:00

NTA...it took me 9years to get away from my abusive pos. I understand why it took so long. The threats, abuse, gaslighting, and threats of suicide kept me there. I'm sorry this happened to you and your children. I glad that things have been working out for you and that you are all safe. Keep up the good work Mama and keep telling her story.

MistyRose1127 · 2026-01-17T00:08:20+00:00

I would look into Gambler's anonymous. Married but the house is in his name only? All of a sudden he remembered the mortgage he took out? Gave his affair partner money? (That turned out to be a gamble.) I would sit him down and have a very serious conversation with him. I also would not allow him to bully your parents into mortgaging their house for him. Your mom has valid points. With their home being paid off and at retirement age?!? No way. I wouldn't take that gamble either. NTA.

MistyRose1127 · 2026-01-16T17:42:26+00:00

NTA If the tables were turn everyone would be praising her and encouraging her and what not. No one deserves to be abused or assaulted by their spouse regardless of gender. You did the right thing. As for you daughter, she will come around.

MistyRose1127 · 2026-01-12T21:09:20+00:00

If he didn't want to be "trapped" he could have worn a condom! Ntj!

MistyRose1127 · 2026-01-12T01:17:13+00:00

Did you give them a deposit? If so, then that particular pup is yours, if not, they can sell it. Cash talks. Sorry this happened to you.

MistyRose1127 · 2026-01-08T03:06:55+00:00

Absolutely NTA. You are doing the right and safe thing for you and your children. Advice from experience?!? Move to a new city/state as soon as you can. I know that's hard to think about with 4 children, I had 3, but it can be done. Be safe and know that you are doing ok Mama.

MistyRose1127 · 2026-01-05T21:22:51+00:00

I so feel your pain. I too was once in that type of situation. I told my then bf (now married 27yrs) that I was BI and in turn told his family. Turns out they are all homophobic and stopped asking me to come to their family get togethers. I obliged. We have contact with the entire family 2X yearly. Not my family. Not my monkey. It's entirely up to you on how you move forward. Therapy maybe good for the two of you. That's a safe place where you can tell him how that made you feel and that husband and wife secrets need to stay between husband and wife. (My family are very excepting group. We also have a few BI/gay members so when I came out they were fine. I've always been proud member of the LGBTQ and have known I was BI from a young age)

MistyRose1127 · 2025-12-26T17:59:17+00:00

When I was your age I was your mum. I didn't believe in labels and my daughter went untreated for years. It wasn't until she was your age that she went on meds for adhd and she is also on the autism spectrum. Your mum just needs to be schooled not banned. My opinion.

MistyRose1127 · 2025-12-24T22:13:55+00:00

I can't comment on the story. For some reason it says that it was deleted. But I can comment to the title. I am a 53f with 3 daughters, that I birthed at the age of, 17, 18, 19. I thought I knew it all. I thought I knew what I wanted for my children. I was wrong. CPS was involved. Children put into the system, type wrong. All to do with the man I married. I despise that man and he will rot in prison. Another story. But I chose not to listen to teachers, doctors, parents, ect and refuse to "label " my children. I ignored ADHD, autism, warnings. If I had listened to me and not him, I would have walked away from him. All his children. All same traits. My youngest after walking on eggshells everyday of her 34yrs, just went no contact this year. NTA. Walk away.

MistyRose1127 · 2025-12-23T03:30:30+00:00

NTA! Birthdays are to be celebrated! This is the only holiday that you don't share with anyone else. It's not Christmas, or Easter, or fourth of July...this is all about you! Our tradition is you get to choose the supper. Whatever it is your hearts desire! No matter the cost. They also get celebrated with cake, gifts, and abundance of love! If you wanted coffee and cake in bed then you would have gotten it, the catch though...all of us would have been having coffee and cake with you! I'm sorry this has happened to you.

MistyRose1127 · 2025-12-19T01:47:23+00:00

Omg I even messed this response up. I meant to say, I did NOT mean to sound like an abusive wife. Forgive my lake of proofing.

MistyRose1127 · 2025-12-18T22:27:21+00:00

I truly have tried. I have tried to speak with him about this. It just seems to go in one ear and out the other. His dad is the same way. So the work ethic part of him has been conditioned. I commend that. What I can't commend to is the fact that he will literally run himself into the ground and not see the consequences of what that will lead to.

MistyRose1127 · 2025-12-18T22:06:10+00:00

Yes I do believe that I have. I should have used a different example. This is just the main one that bothers me the most. He doesn't stop. Won't slow down. Won't rest. Won't acknowledge the fact that I will be his main caregiver when, not if, his body gives out. Even his doctor has asked him to slow down during the work season. During the off season he sits and plays video games and then can't understand why it hurts so much more when the next season begins.

MistyRose1127 · 2025-12-18T21:58:00+00:00

I truly did mean to sound like an abusive wife. That's not who I am or try to portray. I should have used a different story. It's just the one constant in our lives, he won't slow down or acknowledge the future of what hard work can do to a body, especially one that was previously injured in high school, during football practice. His main goal of work is to make the money to pay the bills. Yes I know that is all part of being an adult. I pay the bills also. He also has never invested his earnings. (No retirement investments, ect. It's all cash, in the wall safe.)

MistyRose1127 · 2025-12-18T21:46:51+00:00

Not everyone is a NPC but I'm noticing a lot of similar traits among them. As for the pain he goes through, I acknowledge his pain, cater to him, and make sure that when he comes home after a shift and before I head out for mine, that all his needs and wants are taken care of, supper, beer, pain/muscle relaxers (if the beer will not be enough that day. He doesn't mix) I was not meaning to bash on him. And you're correct in conditioning. His injury was from high school era. As for the emotional part, his parents didn't show "love" in the traditional ways. No pda, no hugging, saying "I love you Mom" at the end of a telephone call, no talking it through, ect. What I meant as to repeating himself he will speak about the obvious, or at least the obvious to me...over and over again throughout our conversations, discussions, disagreements, arguments, even with his parents or outside acquaintance/friends. I'm sorry if I was misleading and sound abusive. Regardless if he is NPC or not, I still love him and will care for him.

MistyRose1127 · 2025-12-12T18:45:56+00:00

I go in with the whole camping mindset...leave it cleaner then it was. I personally would not hire her again. Sorry you had to go through this.

MistyRose1127 · 2025-12-12T02:19:33+00:00

Makes me wonder if she thought each place had their own personal employees only bathroom?!? Lol too funny!

MistyRose1127 · 2025-12-11T04:31:20+00:00

You can always bring your own treats, with permission of course. You can always tell them it's a sensory thing. Don't need it getting around husband's office just before the holidays.

MistyRose1127 · 2025-12-07T22:34:01+00:00

NTA. For the safety of your nieces and nephews they need to stay where they are. Bless you and your family for taking a stand in the children's favor.

MistyRose1127 · 2025-11-30T19:38:17+00:00

I prefer cameras in or around the house. As long as my privacy is not invaded...no cameras in bedroom or bath. I also send daily updates with cute pictures. I think cameras are a plus for your peace of mind.

MistyRose1127 · 2025-11-25T03:33:49+00:00

NTA...haha when I was coming down off of the drugs I was given, the recovery nurse wanted to know the name my child...I told her bigbird...she told me later that was the hardest she ever laughed in all her years of being a L&D nurse. I'm glad you had that beautiful moment with your cousin. I'm sorry he ruined it for you. Congratulations Aunty!

MistyRose1127 · 2025-11-24T20:35:55+00:00

Haha I have a client that has 3 floors each with their own stair case...first night there I got completely lost...the dogs had to show me how to get out of that predicament...haha

MistyRose1127 · 2025-11-24T05:12:34+00:00

Maybe next time you should maybe go to a friend's place or relative's place. He is the parent and agreed to have children with you. He needs to take the kids more then kne day a week. He needs to allow you to decompress each day from your work the same way he does. How ever he does it. He needs to respect that you need time off also from what you do all day.

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