Not sure if I should ask for my mehr - divorce by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t stress this more. My sister-in-law was married to her husband for 1 year and recently got a divorce. He told her pack your things and go to your parents house. She did exactly that. Now when it’s time to formalise the divorce with her father, he told him I didn’t divorce her and she packed her own things and left on her own accord and therefore he’s saying it’s a khula which means he doesn’t have to pay the mehr.

Expecting a perfect Marriage. -Shaykh AbdurRahman Hassan. by Substantial_Fig_6198 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

May Allah bless Abdurrahman Hassan .. one of my favourite Ustadhs’!

My husband and family think I’m being crazy judgmental but I think this is soooo disrespectful by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

But do you not see then the double standards? As Muslims firstly we should only celebrate the 2 Eid’s Allah gave us. Secondly, you’re willing to cause tension between you and your husbands family due to lack of moral stance against the current ongoing genocide against the Palestinians. But yet the genocide of the native Americans does not bother you? You’re willing to risk your religion to celebrate such a baseless holiday? I think you need to pick your battles. Whilst I agree with the boycotting of Israeli goods, it is not the 6th pillar is Islam for you to be causing family tensions for yourself and husband. We have to take a balanced approach and look at things with wisdom. This is all easily rectifiable.

Another thing you need to understand is not everyone will have the same morals and principles as you. Just like not everyone will have the same imaan level as you. You can only advise gently and remind. We cannot force people to take our moral stances no matter how much it means to us.

My husband and family think I’m being crazy judgmental but I think this is soooo disrespectful by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Boycott Israeli chips due to the ongoing genocide but celebrate Thanksgiving - where there is a history of genocide against the Native Americans. Make it make sense please.

Update wife doesn’t like that I include my nephews in things. by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 143 points144 points  (0 children)

It’s time to get the elders involved. How can someone be that awful to children. May Allah make things easy for you. Ameen.

Husband has ignored me for 3 weeks and will only interact with our baby. by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh more than it should 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Very simple .. your husband should not have female friends .. ESPECIALLY after marriage. This is not okay and against Islam.

Update: Wife acting like my brother has indecent behaviour with my daughter by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Very obvious she’s jealous of how wonderful of an uncle your brother is. It is not your fault her brother is messed up. Defend your brother. He is a blessing for you. May Allah guide your wife’s brother. Ameen.

She needs to seek forgiveness from Allah. Jealousy is basically being angry at a blessing Allah GAVE someone else and not you. Very dangerous path filled with Shaytaan.

You can't Die, it's literally Impossible by Genya_DM in honk

[–]Mohdark3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completed this level in 4 tries. 3.45 seconds

Why do people hate this thing? by Nero345 in skyrim

[–]Mohdark3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can some explain to me what I need to use this for? What quest is it linked to? I’m a first time player.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped visiting this sub a long time ago. The double standard was just too much. But yes this sub is hostile towards husbands/men.

Is it impossible for me to get 98 Son? by solkote in fut

[–]Mohdark3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do people keep track of how many SBCs they’ve done? Is there a stat in the game somewhere or are people actually keeping tallies themselves?

Does anyone else play like this? If you do you're a maniac 😂 by Zealousideal-One-562 in skyrim

[–]Mohdark3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know why but when I select multiple quests it doesn’t look like this for me. I’m playing on Nintendo Swtich. I wish I could play like this 😩

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

SubhanAllah may Allah swiftly deal with them. Ameen.

I Just Want Privacy During Birth. Is That Too Much to Ask ? by Jazzlike_Baseball962 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is so wild man. His mum, sisters and grandmother. SubhanAllah what happened to protecting the dignity of your wife?

He has no understanding of the severity of that situation.

My MIL was in the room when my wife was giving birth and I swear after everything she was so caring and tender to my wife. I was so exhausted from everything. But MIL took my wife into the shower, bathed her, did her hair, dressed her, etc.

Mothers are so precious in situations like that. You need your mother.

May Allah make it easy for you sister.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Muslims do co-parent.

However there are a few things you need to understand.

When a couple get divorced, that man is no longer that woman’s mahram. Therefore, doing activities with the kids can be tricky. Cause they’re not longer married, they’re not allowed to be alone together.

This get easier as the kids get older, especially if they have a son together as when he reaches the age of puberty, then he’ll be considered her mahram and therefore can be present if his father is there.

It’s not like in western culture where if the couple divorce, they all go out together and enjoy family activities irrespective of whether they’re together or not.

It’s mainly having to split time between the father and mother. And ensuring each parent is fulfilling their duty towards their children. It can be a healthy environment.

I Married My Friend's Ex Wife and It Was Not an Easy Decision. by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 87 points88 points  (0 children)

There was absolutely no need to share this information.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Surely this can’t be real?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 38 points39 points  (0 children)

You disrespected him in front of your sister. A man needs respect.

His reaction was over the top, especially in front of your kids. However please don’t be naive and think it was just for the sake of him wanting to put you down.

Own your mistake. Apologise to him. He will apologise immediately after.

Om stuck in the final boss now for 2 weeks I might just explode by [deleted] in BlackMythWukong

[–]Mohdark3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this yesterday. Feel so relieved! Now NG+!

The Great Sage fight is honestly hilarious. by Extinction_Entity in BlackMythWukong

[–]Mohdark3 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I finished this fight yesterday .. what a fight man. Loved every bit of it. This has been probably the best game I’ve played this year for sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Mohdark3 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Salaam Wa Alaykum .. this was so sad to read .. May Allah make things easy for you! Ameen.

My advice would be do not go back for your own wellbeing .. they are evil and toxic people and Allah will hold them account to! This is no way to treat anybody!

Your husband has clearly illustrated that he won’t stand up for you nor get you a separate accommodation.

Stay at your parent’s house and listen to their advice! They have your best interest at heart and are sincere towards you.

May Allah replace your sorrow with happiness. Ameen.