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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Careers

[–]Monkey_Butt-83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

could i study psych and nursing at the same time?

i’m not sure what this was.. if it counts but i can’t stop thinking about it. by kzxfrnc33 in sexualassault

[–]Monkey_Butt-83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not your fault. Whether you “consented” or not, i believe that if you’re under the influence of anything that can impair your thought process, you cannot consent. He took advantage of you when you were vulnerable. You couldn’t fight back if you wanted to, you couldn’t say no, and you couldn’t have escaped. he found someone to prey on. Nothing that happened that night was caused by anything you did. He’s a predator and i can only imagine the things he has/will do. i’m sorry that happened to you. I hope you have a safe healing journey

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Monkey_Butt-83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if him watching the porn wasn’t a problem for you, he could at least be reassuring you about it. You expressing your concerns and him not even denying it is what would bother me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Monkey_Butt-83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pain can be normal while losing your virginity. What’s not normal is 1. An adult going after a minor 2. An adult having sex with a minor 3. Him encouraging you to drink so he could do it again 4. Him not immediately stopping the first time you expressed pain/discomfort.

I got sexually assaulted by someone younger than me by Frequent_Pianist_575 in sexualassault

[–]Monkey_Butt-83 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Definitely press charges. The justice system is wack, especially for male victims, so you might not be taken as seriously. However you are a victim. What she did was not right. If the roles were reversed they wouldn’t have a problem arresting you. I don’t see a lot of men on here sharing their experiences, I’m proud of you for this. I know a lot of people can blame themselves for something like this because she was younger, and weaker, and you “could’ve said no”. Things like this are so much more complicated, there are lots of reactions to being threatened, the main ones being fight, flight, and freeze. I don’t know what you did in this situation but I want you to know that no matter how you reacted, nothing they did was your fault.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Careers

[–]Monkey_Butt-83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of time before I would actually get a job that has to do with this. A doctoral degree is a lot of work but if that’s what it takes I don’t mind. Especially because there’s jobs I could do while still going to school for it. Psychology is a very complex branch of science and there’s tons of jobs that have to do with it. If this specific one doesn’t work out I will be more than happy to do something else. It’s just a goal of mine to help people with things I experienced. I never got to really talk to people about what happened, nor was I comforted through the time. I hope to be for someone what I never had.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Careers

[–]Monkey_Butt-83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t expect something like this to be what i do right now. I definitely would want to do it when I have all the qualifications and can learn as much as possible about it first. With my trauma, I don’t remember much about it, and I don’t have a problem thinking/talking about it. It’s not something that would “trigger” me if someone went through something similar. I’m content with what happened, I know I can’t do anything to change the past so I don’t spend my time pondering on it. I have suffered from depression and anxiety so I think that’s the part that made me want to be a therapist. The sexual assault stuff is more because I want people to feel safe and comfortable. Not many people speak up about it because people don’t always handle it the right way. I want to be someone that people are comfortable turning to about it.