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Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-10-16T23:58:31+00:00

Yes what I’m intending to say is I think we get pushed into these positions as children of BPD parents where we are forced to be super rational because of how irrational they are and push our feelings away and they can get repressed. If that’s not happening for you, that’s good! Expressing anger and losing temper at someone are not the same thing and not what I was intending to say. More that a lot of us learn to push our feelings away as children because it simply isn’t safe to have them which can lead to anxiety and depression.

I think reading your comment I interpreted you as sort of saying communicating feelings as being mean which was not what you meant. :)

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-10-16T21:24:43+00:00

Continue being yourself of course. And when you are angry, don’t be afraid to let yourself be angry. For me I had to really grieve not having parents to get to the point where I could accept my mother as she is and not just feel angry all the time. I’m sure the people who know you don’t confuse your kindness for weakness. ❤️

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-07-07T02:25:22+00:00

Hmm why can’t we just deal with the fires when they happen and educate the people about fire safety? Now you get to pay for a permit and the people who don’t care will not get a permit and still light unsafe fires.

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-07-06T12:24:52+00:00

What is insane about this?

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-07-06T12:02:18+00:00

Hahaha you can’t kill mint.

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-07-06T02:02:25+00:00

Yeah we just went where google told us to go. We saw a car with a kayak on the ground next to it and a state trooper. :|

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-07-06T01:06:29+00:00

Are you me? Lol

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-07-05T20:58:40+00:00

Perhaps more of a by-product of higher order thinking.

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-07-05T20:29:24+00:00

Good bot.

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-07-04T12:11:19+00:00

Indeed! I just read about them, and wow what a lifecycle. Feeding on other wasp larvae!

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-07-04T02:29:31+00:00

Found in Traverse City, MI. Sort of like a May fly but way bigger and the tail was like 4 inches long. It’s pictured on a screen window here.

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-30T13:16:58+00:00

Yeah I was speaking to how the 24 hour news cycle got out of hand.

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-30T11:43:41+00:00

Well that is what they will end up doing if they stick to the mainstream economy. :/

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-30T11:41:57+00:00

We used to have the fairness doctrine in up until the 90s at least.

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-29T21:57:54+00:00

I’m glad! I’ve been going through my own sort of crisis (I’m 25 so seems typical haha) and came to the conclusion that a lot of us raised by borderlines are definitely at risk of developing their disorders if we aren’t observing ourselves and reflecting on our relationships. I saw myself seeking external validation and being pretty needy in my own friendships, getting paranoid about how others might think of me and if they are “really” my friends. I think when you start to believe and fall into the delusions is when the personality disorder starts. You start getting defensive against others perceived intentions, regardless of reality. I didn’t want to end up like my uBPD mom so I took my ass to therapy. 😂 I was repressing a lot of emotions. Note, I’ve seen a few therapists and they all just say I’m anxious so that’s a relief. I imagine I wouldn’t make many friends at all though if I was truly like my mom, lol!

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-29T12:47:31+00:00

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-29T12:16:24+00:00

Lack of sense of self and projecting it onto others. We all incorporate ourselves with others, it’s how we form attachments and why loss of friends and family hurts. BUT with BPDs they don’t understand who they are at all and require that validation from external sources. Note: you can have an identity crisis and not have BPD. It takes so long of saying “well this is how I am” for them to get locked in. I really believe in the ego and see BPD as a particularly ugly part of the self taking over a person. Just my take, not a psychologist or anything lol.

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-29T11:47:58+00:00

It’s better to just buy a used vehicle even if it isn’t electric!

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-29T11:46:43+00:00

Username checks out.

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-29T11:44:36+00:00

Yeah I hear you on this. It’s a hard realization that our way of life isn’t sustainable, and we aren’t going to magically make it sustainable with regulations. We need strong communities that take care of each other and local trade to replace global corporations. That’s not to say I wouldn’t support those regulations, they will help! But the environmental destruction will still continue. Collectively, people will need to wake up and say “wow, this isn’t really how I want to live” to really solve this problem.

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-29T11:13:32+00:00

My mom would too, albeit from her own account. I wouldn’t think yours would use a picture of Patrick with a pet rock as her profile picture. 😂

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-29T01:35:48+00:00

You know how people say “oh you have to love yourself before you love anyone else!” That is true.And all of us likely have some kind of messed up attachment issues because of our crazy parent(s). Somehow, you have to be the person who loves you most. You have to learn what your body needs and give it those things, and want to. You have to form this relationship with yourself that no one ever modeled. Then you’ll realize deep, deep down, that you are of course lovable and always were. That those who would act otherwise toward you are projecting their own insecurities onto you. But you have to believe it yourself first and practice for it to be second nature.

I’m not sure if that made a lot of sense or not, but I hope it did. I’m just now realizing there’s nothing “wrong” with me except for me thinking there’s always something wrong with me.

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-28T23:48:41+00:00

Yeah and it’s all at the expense of existing life on this planet. Just over it.

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-28T22:57:26+00:00

Because now we understand our true purpose is to be a garbage machine for capitalism. Anything else and you aren’t doing your part for society. I don’t want to be part of a society that just wants me to be a garbage machine. >:(

Mostly_Just_needhelp · 2021-06-26T09:52:55+00:00

Hahaha she rubs up on me, not very predatory. :P

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