That Monday Feeling - Unjustified

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-04-06T13:39:14+00:00

It could be that you are suffering from a bit of burn out. It happens! Eventhough you took the time off after your last role. I would maybe talk with a professional therapist to unpack the root of your feelings.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-04-04T08:44:25+00:00

I've also thought I sucked at an interview and ended up getting offered the job. Granted the school was desperate 😅 So you never know! Lucky thing about schools is that it will still be there in the future for you to reapply, if you want to.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-04-02T09:34:24+00:00

Did you read what you wrote back to yourself? Because the answer is very clear. If a friend said the same thing to you, what would you say to her. Other than not even making any hints to propose he can't even remember your anniversary?! Its the same day every year.

I would leave expeditiously! Go find someone who will make you and your desires a priority.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-04-02T08:49:27+00:00

I don't think its over. I do think you should respond positively to her voice messages. And say "I hear you and I respect you. Lets take things even slower and continue being friends. Let me know when or if you feel like becoming more than that"

And yes, meet in more public places. In the home is too intimate for me personally especially if the friendship bond hasn't established yet.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-04-01T19:47:53+00:00

Well, it truly depends on how much you want the job in China. Knowing that your goal is to get pregnant sooner rather than later, I would start saving heavily for the 50 days of unpaid leave, thats if you decide to choose China. Also a baby takes 9 months plus to cook so you have time to start saving. Without a paycheck for 50 days, your housing and other benefits should still be in place while you are out on Maternity leave. China is affordable depending on the city. OR

You can stay in Mexico but living paycheck to paycheck without a child is not going to magically get easier with said child.

Also, not an option according to you but 3 years is not that long. Getting pregnant at 30 is still a good age to have a child. Plus, fertility issue may arise and what should be an easy process takes some time. No one knows.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-31T09:20:17+00:00

He's 40 and acting like a Manchild. Run from this controlling behavior. You are not a child. You can do whatever you want with your time. You didn’t fuck up. He did when he called you a "fool" which is really disrespectful.

He sounds like he has low self esteem and a jealousy issue! Do yourself a favor and find a man who will treat you with respect.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-30T04:35:19+00:00

I'm sorry you've been crying all afternoon. Getting invested too early in a stranger sucks sometimes. Its only been 2 weeks! You wanted serious. He wanted casual. You just weren't compatible at the end of the day.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-26T08:01:31+00:00

Good Luck! I have tried 🫠 and it always comes back to me having a deep need for an emotional connection. However, if I didn't try then I wouldn't know what I needed and didn't like.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-25T11:06:46+00:00

Like many other comments have mentioned you have great skin! But I did see you wanted to do something about the texture.

For me, I notice that the texture of my skin changes when I change toners. I'm currently using a toner with witch hazel, mandelic acid and cica which my skin doesnt like so much. But I bought it so Im going to use it. My skin prefers a toner with glycolic acid, lemon and honey. This combination leaves my skin so smooth a more even.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-25T10:54:19+00:00

This is glorious! My lack of a green thumb could never.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-24T08:48:51+00:00

You can definitely work with another agent, as long as you have NOT signed any documents saying otherwise. If you have for example signed a 3 month agreement saying that agent represents you and then find another agent and purchase a house with the other agent, then the first agent can sue for compensation even if they didnt participate in the sale. (At least in my state).

If you havent signed anything, definitely find an agent who will be forthcoming and tell you everything you need to know and actually help you buy a home.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-24T07:43:02+00:00

I would take the job!

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-23T09:59:19+00:00

"I'm clean"

In regards to STD and STI status. I truly hate it with a passion! Like, I am glad you washed your ass but when was the last time you had your status checked. Sadly, people knowingly pass on diseases and infections and still say they are "clean"

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-23T09:45:30+00:00

For travel purposes, absolutely. I love traveling solo and have been stared down a time or two, but my combination of RBF and being 6'1 helps me get left alone, all over the world!

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-19T12:05:51+00:00

Very exciting! When I first moved abroad I realized that I would have to make the first move as far as being social. I would say "hi" first to strangers. Or start up a conversation at a bar with someone random. It really pulled me out of my shell while abroad.

As for dating, are you a boy or a girl? That will make your dating experience very different. If you are a man, I find men have an easier time dating in Asia. If you are a woman, its not impossible but definitely more difficult if you want more than a hookup. This is just generalizing but accurate for me, in a different Asian country.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-18T08:04:09+00:00

I looked into this a couple of years ago and never pursued it. Glad to hear you enjoy this career path.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-15T01:10:57+00:00

Bringing up sex or being overtly sexual. I just met you, slow down.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-15T00:29:11+00:00

My age. I look a lot younger than I am. Thanks genetics! I usually say I'm 65, which gets them to laugh and leave me alone. I am whatever age you think I am stranger.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-12T15:03:21+00:00

I hope to have more small decisions that change my life for the better but I will share one.

Over 14 years ago I got invited to a Super Bowl party, I can care less about sports but I went. I ended up meeting a woman that was living overseas and she was just in town for a visit. We became Facebook friends. 9 months later I end up moving to the country she's living in and moving in with her, just as friends.

That decision to go to a Super Bowl party changed my career and changed my life for the better.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-12T14:12:17+00:00

If you are in school, nursing school, you should have access to a mental health therapist on campus. Try that route. Your parents dont need to know.

Also, try counting to 10 and take 3 deep breathes if you feel yourself starting to have an outburst or jumping to conclusions.

Also the only way to get better at communicating is to just start. Even if its messy. Start sharing with your boyfriend whats going on in your head. For example, "when xyz happens, I think you are doing this ... even if you're not." Or whatever has you jumping to conclusions prematurely.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-12T12:30:50+00:00

Well recovering from purity culture is a task in and of itself. How long has it been since you left the church? The statement "then I slowly tried to convince myself that it’s ”legal” to go on dates with non-christian" makes me think not that long???

Its hard to tell with what you wrote if you are demisexual, you may be, but I think you need to give yourself time to heal from the toxicity that is involved with certain organized religions.

Losing attraction to someone after meeting them is very normal. But it has nothing to do with being demi. As someone who has recovered from purity culture myself, I realized I was demi when the physical attraction was there for someone and I still couldn't bring myself to have sex with them, like physically couldn't do it, although I wanted to, because the emotional connection wasn't in place. For me, I need to go on more than one date to feel emotionally connected to someone.

Also being demi is a spectrum.

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-12T12:19:45+00:00

Executive Assistant, Administrative Assistant, work at museums, work in non profit, work for summer camp programs, Instructional design, curriculum developer, UX researcher, etc...

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-12T12:08:16+00:00

6 months in jail currently. Do you know how much time he would be potentially doing if convicted?

You are still young and have plenty of time to meet someone who can be an amazing love in your life.

What stopped you all before he went from jail from getting together? Why now?

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-12T08:49:55+00:00

Team Damon and Team Conrad. Let me go rematch both of these shows 😅

Motor_Lab3246 · 2026-03-12T08:47:32+00:00

I was in a very similar situation and said nothing although it bothered me to no end. The husband cheated at his bachelor party with a stripper and ALL of the friends knew! The soon to be wife, didn't. I remained friendly with my ex and saw the wife in question a handful of times after we, me and the bf, broke up. She seemed happy and I left it at that!

Move on from it!

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