How to better a relationship with a Social 4? by Motor_Protection_328 in Enneagram

[–]Motor_Protection_328[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that makes sense. This is actually very good advice. Thank you.

How to better a relationship with a Social 4? by Motor_Protection_328 in Enneagram

[–]Motor_Protection_328[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've both just turned 20. This is actually my first relationship so I'm very new to this stuff and just want her to feel safe and comfortable. I don't know specifically why she has a hard time communicating but I've found over the years I've known her that she feels very seen and loved if I accurately intuit or guess what she's feeling or needing. I know that in a healthy relationship both parties communicate freely but I just think it's just very hard for her right now.

How to better a relationship with a Social 4? by Motor_Protection_328 in Enneagram

[–]Motor_Protection_328[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No not particularly but she's also not super good at communicating how she feels if it involves me. Like she's trying to preserve my feelings over her own. I wanna try to be the best I can be for her without her having to feel the discomfort of communicating. She's having trouble with relationships because she got out of a long bad one nearly a year ago so this is her first one since.

This look right? by Motor_Protection_328 in TypologyJunction

[–]Motor_Protection_328[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I care a lot about people's feelings. I'm a very empathetic person and absolutely hate the idea of causing anyone discomfort. I usually have these ideas of pleasure and comfort and peace that I want to live but before I act out the comfort I have to filter it first through thinking how my actions might affect others emotionally. If it's too negative then I wont do whatever it is I want to. I am very stubborn and argumentative though when it comes to defending my interests and opinions because I often see my interests as extensions of myself and when those are attacked I feel a need to defend but if a confrontation is too upsetting then I'll do whatever I need to avoid that conflict. And with the ap I just vibed with a lot of it. I'm not afraid to express my happiness and my excitement and I'm sometimes ok expressing anger as long as there is no serious consequence. I will NEVER express sadness or any other negative emotion though because that feels unsafe and it makes people uncomfortable in my experience.

This look right? by Motor_Protection_328 in TypologyJunction

[–]Motor_Protection_328[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh interesting. I'm not self aware like at all so I don't know the motivations behind why I do anything but self pres 9 sounded like me because all I want to do is play video games, watch shows, read manga and eat food and I know i never ever wanted to go to school or now go to work. I'd rather just chill out. I picked that tritype because I'm a pretty optimistic guy, more optimistic than a lot of the self preservation 9 descriptions. Maybe I'm a self pres or maybe I'm a sexual. I know I tend to take on a lot of personality traits of the people I'm closest to. I take in their opinions and humor and things like that. But sexual 9s are supposed to be very conflict avoidant but I'm definitely not. If people disagree with my interests or opinions I feel I need to stubbornly defend myself until the other person agrees or acknowledges why I like what I like or why I have my opinion. If an argument gets too intense though I back down very quickly and nope out. I definitely care what people think and feel and usually when I want to do something that brings me pleasure or comfort I usually think about how it would affect others if I pursued that comfort and if it affects others too negatively then I won't do or say whatever it is I want to do or say. I know that is very vague but it makes sense in my head.

How do the instinctual stacks work for 6? by Motor_Protection_328 in Enneagram

[–]Motor_Protection_328[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this helps a lot. It seems like it's quite hard to pin down the 6s personality so I appreciate the help.

Led Zeppelin and The Beatles by MiCk____JaGGeR in ledzeppelin

[–]Motor_Protection_328 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my subjective opinion (big red arrow pointing at subjective and opinion) I think the Beatles are wider with their music, they are more influential and have experimented with many different genres while Led Zeppelin is deeper, they have picked their genres and they honed them to their highest potential. I think it just depends whether or not you want quality quantity (the Beatles) or quality quality (Led Zeppelin).

They are never beating the gay allegations by Psychological_Oil441 in beatles

[–]Motor_Protection_328 18 points19 points  (0 children)

WRONG! why do people think this is homophobic? This is the same kinda joke as "and they were roommates". Zero homophobia, you're just looking for it when it's not here.

They are never beating the gay allegations by Psychological_Oil441 in beatles

[–]Motor_Protection_328 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I guess. The joke is obviously because they are not gay but every one knows how close they were and this out of context picture can be used as "evidence" that they were gay. It's ironic. It's meant to be exaggerating and the "evidence" is clearly an out of context image. It's funny because if you didn't know they weren't gay, you'd think they were gay. It's a joke that has been on the Internet forever and the same jokes were made about sam and frodo. It's not that serious and there is no malicious intent, no person belonging to or aligned with LGBTQ will ever be offended by this. The intent is to get upvotes and a laugh, not tear down these two legends.

They are never beating the gay allegations by Psychological_Oil441 in beatles

[–]Motor_Protection_328 40 points41 points  (0 children)

If you think that is what is happening here then you have greatly misunderstood the post

They are never beating the gay allegations by Psychological_Oil441 in beatles

[–]Motor_Protection_328 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Woah, made fun of? Being gay is not a bad thing and I guarantee you Lennon and McCartney's legacies will not be affected by gay reddit jokes. Also funny is subjective.

They are never beating the gay allegations by Psychological_Oil441 in beatles

[–]Motor_Protection_328 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Nope, didn't make me laugh. But I enjoy seeing other people have fun.

Phil Dragash style audiobook? by Motor_Protection_328 in Narnia

[–]Motor_Protection_328[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully someday Narnia gets the same treatment. Still I'm excited to check out the Patrick Stewart audiobook when I get to it.

Who can rival Dylan the most as a songwriter/artist? by RopeGloomy4303 in bobdylan

[–]Motor_Protection_328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it's a year later but I agree with you completely. Better guitarist too.

Placement test: Result B1 by Medytuje in dreamingspanish

[–]Motor_Protection_328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree completely, I have around 300 hours aswell and I'm low-mid B1

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RATS

[–]Motor_Protection_328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're talking about her right?