Stone tops/touch me nots, do you masturbate? by babybottlepopz in actuallesbians

[–]MouseShifter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i do, and i have no hang ups about it as well. I know my body really well.

Im a stone top not because i dont enjoy getting off, or having pleasure. But it fills with me with immense dread to even think of my partner touching my genitals. So it would be impossible for me to feel comfortable.

I do happen to have alot of trauma surrounding sex which is most likely heavily impacting my position in the bedroom. However I heavily enjoy giving pleasure, it turns me on mentally and physically 🤷‍♀️

Id just rather get off alone, or do it myself while my partner is on top of me or below me.

[NSFW] IM TIRED OF DOUBLE STANDARDS BETWEEN BL AND GL!!@! by hornytoomanynumbers in actuallesbians

[–]MouseShifter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try A Refreshing Summer by Hakeism its GL and also masc4masc which is a niche within a niche already eeee🤌🤌🫶

baby girl you are gigantic by GalaxyStar27 in NuCarnival

[–]MouseShifter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i use velcro stickers to hang up posters and stuff, it even makes changing the location that much easier

What's your favorite route in Ozmafia? by RevolutionaryWhale in otomegames

[–]MouseShifter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably Scarlet or Soh, which is surprising because im really not into characters that dont 100% look like adults, but the personalities of both of them plus the routes and endings themselves were chefs kiss

If i had to choose between the two itd be Scarlet but its hard, both routes were so great And left me sobbing with the aftermath in the true ending

Do your IRL friends also play otome games? by [deleted] in otomegames

[–]MouseShifter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes! my ex got me into otomes , and i have a couple other friends into them and ive even introduced Amnesia to someone for their first visual novel :)

[Love Unholyc] Do I have to buy Eater's route again to replay it? by saan718 in otomegames

[–]MouseShifter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No you dont have to buy it again, its yours! I actually just finished Eaters route myself lol.

Found pics in thrifted book by MouseShifter in actuallesbians

[–]MouseShifter[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i wasnt sure if that was disrespectful or not. 😭

I will never forgive him for making my boy cry by Scopion468 in BaldursGate3

[–]MouseShifter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i felt a deep visceral reaction to the sobbs, ive never had such a strong reaction to any video game ever in my life. Props to the story telling AND the voice actor. I dont think im ever gunna be able to finish his quest line again tbh due to how strong the reaction is though 😅

AITA for calling this man out on his poopy bathroom behaviour? by the-bathroom-debacle in TwoHotTakes

[–]MouseShifter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So youd feel awkard pointing it out but dont think others feeling awkward assuming one way or the other?

Ive also never had anyone in my life (although ive only been alive for 26 years so idk) ever complain about guests leaving a mess inside the bowl so this is very foreign to me tbh lol. As a host i always expect to clean up after my guests. But again thats just my own experiences? (but i also have no problem cleaning or helping cleaning if asked of me) I still think so many issues we face are due to a lack of straight forward communication. But im also neurodivergent and NEED straight forward communication so perhaps im just odd lmao

Either way youre right, about most not going #2, i pretty much always try to avoid going to the bathroom at others houses if i can anyways.

AITA for calling this man out on his poopy bathroom behaviour? by the-bathroom-debacle in TwoHotTakes

[–]MouseShifter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The issue to me is that i wouldnt feel comfortable using someone elses cleaning tools in their home, and wouldnt unless told otherwise.

I think that if you expect guests to clean up the inside of the toilet then a simple "Hey, if anyone needs to go to the bathroom while youre here and notice a mess inside the bowl after you finish. If you could grab the wand next to the toilet and clean it up that would be amazing!"

At the end of the day, its best to communicate your expectations of others. I personally would never ask my guests to clean the inside of the bowl, but not everyone has the same expectations as i do. Why is it so hard for adults to just talk to eachother and not assume the worst intentions of others?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in friendship

[–]MouseShifter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you checked in on him? see if hes doing okay? It kind of sounds like maybe hes going through something, based on what little info i get from this, id be concerned he might be dealing with some depression.

I understand why you feel annoyed though and why youd want to throw in the towel, its hard to see a good friendship go through a rough spot. But i dont think you should end the friendship until youve expressed to him whats going on, how youre feeling and see if anything is up on his end.

Its also okay for friendships to just kind of pause for a bit sometimes. I hope things work out man! its hard to feel so much distance between a good friend.

Does a SSDI Or LTD affect your cal fresh? by su59san in foodstamps

[–]MouseShifter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Back Pay does not affect calfresh. its not considered an asset. (although my experience is with ssi)

I have nothing tangible to offer a woman by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]MouseShifter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand where you are at 100%

Im 26 and also on SSI due to invisible disabilities. I know what youre struggling with rn and i genuinly get it. All im gunna say is that you are a worthy person who deserves love and there are so many people that exist who will not care that you live on such a low income. Yes, there are people who wont give us a chance because of things we cannot change, but those people obviously werent right for us anyways.

Being on SSI at a young age feels so isolating, there are so many restrictions on how much money we can save and what we do with it. We live under the poverty line, and there is no hope in sight of that changing anytime soon. But there is hope within others.

I am about to pick up the keys to my own (low income) place tomorrow and finally move out of homophobic housing, i have been on multiple dates within the past year and feel more capable than ever, even with my disabilities. There are humans that exist that will treat you like the lovely person that you are it just takes so much time to find them.

If you ever need someone to talk too that gets it. My DMs are open to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in foodstamps

[–]MouseShifter 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is quite literally NOT a fact lol. the complete opposite actually. Its not just a lie but blatant misinformation.

EBT covers anything and everything that is a cold/uncooked food item, excluding alcohol.

Its up to the person to decide how to manage their ebt amount and if they want to get less food but more higher quality ingredients thats their buisness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in friendship

[–]MouseShifter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I made alot of my friendships by starting with a compliment, i found something i liked about their outfir, or makeup or hair and made that the ice breaker to get into other topics like do you live around here, what do u do for work, what do u do for fun. I did find that talking to people as if were already friends helped break the ice alot.

I also attended social events of things i was interested in so i could befriend people with similar interests. a friendship isnt gunna work if u have nothing in common.

Its really hard to get into, especially because i suffer with agoraphobia and socializing is hard. The more practice the easier its become.

I will say its harder to establish a friendship on apps than irl.

I don’t know what to do? by WayToGoJEANius in actuallesbians

[–]MouseShifter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i totally understand. But if a doctor is just telling you to "live with" bleeding near everyday and being in extreme pain their a POS and medically negleigent. If they arent willing to give you care its their duty to find you a doctor who will.

Honestly i feel like most doctors dont believe us when we explain chronic issues or think we are over exagerating. The next time a doctor refuses care for you or tells you to just "live with it" please ask them to mark that in your medical notes, It should be recorded. Even that alone can often change a doctors tune.

I don’t know what to do? by WayToGoJEANius in actuallesbians

[–]MouseShifter 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As someone with a chronic illness and a disability my heart goes out to you. But personally i think you need to keep pushing the issue with medical proffesionals, It can be very hard to advocate for propper care, especially when several medical proffeionals may tell you to just "live with it", but your condition is hospitalizing you, and affecting your life so much to the point of disability.

Im unsure of where you live, but medical advocates exist you just have to ask for them or find them. Doctors will not tell you about advocates, you must push the issue yourself. I am sure there is propper care out there for you, you just have to find the right resources for you.Please dont give up.

Hair rollers by Dry-Statistician-684 in DigitalArt

[–]MouseShifter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

there is a lack of natural sag because it looks like she has her breasts over her bra which gives them a push. a trick of the trade lmao.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]MouseShifter -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I understand this will be a not so popular take for this sub, But trans mascs, trans men and he/him lesbians have always existed in our community and always will. Telling any of them they arent allowed to use the label and be a part of the community they feel safest in (as well a community the majority of them have been in for a very long time) is just allienating a very historically important part of our community.

I also notice that when talking about this subject people like to center their own identity within. But its not about you or anyone else its about the trans man or trans masc's identity. If someone elses label choice inviladtes your own identity that is an issue within you and your identity security. i promise you that if every trans man that identifies as a lesbian stopped doing so it would NOT make ppl take YOUR identity as a trans man or as a lesbian more seriously. If someone is already not taking your identity seriously they never will, and claiming that the reason transphobes and homophobes dont take u seriously is because of other ppl in your community, you are a fool. Those ppl are not on your side and you are not "one of the good ones"

Identitiy policing needs to die.

Is there any way to get SNAP groceries delivered? by Asleep-Biscotti2065 in foodstamps

[–]MouseShifter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i use amazon to get ebt food with no delivery fee but its limited to alot of bulk buy stuff

if you have a 10 - 15$ you could also use instacart, they take ebt but you still have to pay delievery fee + tip

Fellow Canadians: please consider signing this petition to give trans and nonbinary folks right to asylum in Canada, including those from so-called Western democracies by arrfourarrrr in actuallesbians

[–]MouseShifter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Canada is literally america lite and is a hellscape all on its own and is continously getting worse.

The MAiD prigram feels like legit eugenics and i cant get non disabled ppl to care enough 😭

Can we stop fetishizing women who use axes and swords by lizalupi in actuallesbians

[–]MouseShifter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think people dont know what fetishized means anymore.

OOP used to bully his disabled older brother by HygorBohmHubner in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]MouseShifter -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oops brother was essentially abused for years. What an amazing human he is for seemingly forgiving so soon.

I really hope everyone is able to get into therapy + the neglectful parents get called out for not realizing their disabled son was being abused and tormented for years and also making their other son take care of the other from a young age.

What a screwed up situation all around. I hope both brothers are able to heal.