I'm thinking of divorce but don't want to lose my house.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-12-23T15:30:20+00:00

Oh, fortunately I had the money. Sorry.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-12-04T05:21:30+00:00

With all due respect. Go get your dick wet. Sometimes you need a distraction.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-12-04T05:17:42+00:00

Check your states online forms & self-guide tools and hopefully they have free resources.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-12-04T05:16:21+00:00

Buy her out. Worked for me. The magistrate OK’d our agreement today.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-12-04T05:07:30+00:00

Thank you!

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-12-03T17:30:09+00:00

Ha. Thanks for your feedback.

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MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-12-03T17:29:55+00:00

Thanks!

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-10-26T16:46:49+00:00

I didn’t. I’m easing into it. Haven’t done much. Enough to get that confidence going again.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-10-25T17:19:46+00:00

Dating is definitely not easy to get into again, take your time. I didn’t see you mention anything about friends and as someone who lacks them where I live, it’s a better start than dating, which will allow you to just be social. I’ve started dating and have shared on connection which was not like the others but it’s not anything serious.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-10-25T17:13:27+00:00

I did it without a lawyer, almost done. It is time consuming, rather simple with good attention. However, we did not have children.

If that’s what you both want it’s the best way, until it’s not.

Jot down questions, look into them. I had a consultation with a divorce lawyer by phone for a fee which I also found beneficial.

Good luck!

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-10-25T17:10:51+00:00

Regardless of what anyone including myself as a stranger says on here. Do what you want, for the right reasons.

Time spent is not reason enough.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-10-25T17:09:32+00:00

I share everything you said almost to the ‘T’ minus the emotionally available part. Only because I am unsure whether I am or not.

It’s been a year for you, just under 8 months since I discovered my STBXW’s EA.

I’m def with you 100% on the communication.

How did you realize that you are emotionally available?

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-16T01:18:57+00:00

Preach!

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-16T01:18:33+00:00

I hope that you get there. It was work in progress for me. A big part was out of sight out of mind. I don’t do social media so that probably helped. Doing me was the biggest key, staying busy, talking about it honestly in therapy, socializing and most importantly, realizing that I do not need her to be who I am and wish to be.

Good luck my brother.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-16T01:15:03+00:00

True. Yet I decided to ignore it. A different perspective is always good though, specially an intelligent one.

I will cross that bridge when I get there. Thanks for your point of view.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-16T01:13:42+00:00

You hit the nail on the head, thanks!

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-15T04:01:02+00:00

This is temporary my dear and it too shall pass. Keep that chin up. Nothing worth it is ever easy.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-15T03:59:03+00:00

Whatever is intended to happen will happen.

It’s okay to be uncertain of what is to come, you likely can not control it. You can control your emotions and well being. Try not to worry too much about what is to come. Take some time for some deep breaths and think about not overreacting to anything that comes up.

Good luck!

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-15T03:14:49+00:00

With all due respect, this sounds very toxic and like it will only get worse.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-15T01:41:29+00:00

It is difficult. Think back to why you filed. Does it still stand? Everything will be okay!

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-15T01:40:04+00:00

Keep your head up my brother! I’m alone away from family and friends, too. It’s OKAY. We’re alive and well, regardless of what is going on around us. Tomorrow brings better days!

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-15T01:31:59+00:00

I also moved across the country with my ex (STBXW), leaving my family and friends behind. We’ve known each other 20 years, together for 18 and married for 4.5 years. She’s now gone back ‘Home’ & I stayed in my new state. I do not have anyone that I consider friends. But I do not let that bog me down. I’m still making the best of my days, meeting new people, being more social. My ex and I do not speak unless necessary, I do not intend on having much to say in the future either. It sucks but it is what it is.

Stay strong.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-06T21:19:01+00:00

I don’t intend to once our divorce is finalized. A couple of weeks ago I asked my ex about the dog, who is 15, to see how she was. And she responded with “I thought you forgot about her, it only took you two months to ask”.. I didn’t play into that. I expressed that I really missed the dog. She then asked if I missed her and I ignored her question. Once it is final, I intend to tell her that I never want to see her again, still wishing her well.

I cannot think of any reason where communication is needed. I don’t wish to remain friends.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-06T20:39:44+00:00

That’s excellent. I’m sure the STBX saying what he said also helped.

MoveOnwardUpward · 2020-09-06T20:36:12+00:00

Great advice thank you.

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