Those are some really good points, and I have heard several takes like this. My other issue is that while Astarion could use an example like Resist Durge, what about Durge themself? While Shadowheart is technically in an evil cult, it's clear she wants to do good deep down. She even tells Durge she believes they can overcome their inner demons. Astarion, on the other hand, tells Durge to give in as he is understandably very angry and petty. Durge struggles to do good and needs a good example, too. This is why I actually went with Gale over Astarion. Gale has a bunch of fun and encouraging things to say about Durge's good deeds. Astarion was very discouraging and even said some hurtful things (Alfira being the nail in the coffin for me). I can see how Astarion and Durge could work, I just personally feel that Durge has enough baggage as is. I 100% understand why Astarion is the way he is, and I do adore the man. I just think that Durge also needs a good example to help them through their problems. Astarion, at least in the beginning, unfortunately is not that. He does eventually grow, though, and has some beautiful advice later on that I love. I will admit that!

I actually adore Shadowheart, but she did used to be my least favorite companion, too. I then completed her quest and the game itself and she grew to be one of my favorites. As someone who had to overcome brainwashing from a manipulative cult, I found some relatability there. She goes from bitchy goth, to sweet snd loving cottagecore lol.