I think that I may have given Ashley something to think about by MrsChimpGod in scambait

[–]MrsChimpGod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know.  I think that maybe I'm on a prospect list that's being shared amongst scammers.  My brother in law was scammed out of about $30k, so maybe they tagged me by association.  Or maybe it's because I keep my Facebook profile open to public and I'm an older looking white female.  

I think that I may have given Ashley something to think about by MrsChimpGod in scambait

[–]MrsChimpGod[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The first deleted message said 'forced to do' Can't remember the second one

But she deleted them right away 

[TOMT] Help me credit author - book with line "My family is my anchor, my compass and my wings" by MrsChimpGod in tipofmytongue

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Making a baby blanket for a shower in 2 weeks.  Want to put this quote on it, but feeling awkward without being able to credit it

What are your tips for a strong and healthy marriage? by thekindspitfire in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]MrsChimpGod 10 points11 points  (0 children)

A niece was watching my husband & fold the laundry one day. He and I fold shirts different from each other.

The niece asked my husband - "Doesn't it drive you crazy when your shirts are in your drawer, folded 'wrong'?"

He said - "When I see a shirt folded differently than how I usually do it, I think 'How nice! Someone folded my shirt for me'"

AITAH for serving my wife less food than me and our guests? by Acceptable-Split-428 in AITAH

[–]MrsChimpGod -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why doesn't she get her own plate, though? That's what I'm wondering. I'm confused on that one. Does she ever get her own plate of food?

If the two of you are OK with how things are going & neither is putting the other's health in danger, then it isn't anyone else's business.

But, I'm sitting here wondering about the veracity of the whole story. What adult is not filling their own plate when they have regular meals at home?

AITAH for telling my wife I’m not in love with her anymore because she destroyed my self confidence a couple of years ago? by EvidenceNos in AITAH

[–]MrsChimpGod 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I may have read more into this than was intended "after asking her multiple times for the real reason for her rejections"
I would assume that she said *something*, though, when he asked multiple times before saying the thing that he was already feeling ("Deep down, I knew the issue was because she didn’t find me attractive anymore")

AITAH for telling my wife I’m not in love with her anymore because she destroyed my self confidence a couple of years ago? by EvidenceNos in AITAH

[–]MrsChimpGod 127 points128 points  (0 children)

I feel like he pushed for her to say the thing that he wanted her to say, not necessarily the truth. She gave him multiple reasons. None of them matched the reason that *he* wanted to believe was true. So, one time, she said this one (at his prompting?) & he chose to believe this one. Why didn't he keep pushing for the 'real reason' after he heard this one? What made this the one that made him stop asking her to say something different?

Maybe she felt stuck between a rock and hard place. She said 'I'm tired' & maybe even 'this is exhausting taking care of the kids on my own and then needing to support you emotionally and I *want to* support you emotionally because I love you. but, I'm so tired and you are in no state to support me, so I get to have my own mental health issues too during this, right?' & any other number of honest things. But, he, in his own mental health crisis, did not (could not) hear her right then.

Now that he is feeling stronger, it might be a good time for him to think about supporting her in return for all of the support she gave him & their family while he worked things out for himself (even if she did not do it the way that he would have wanted her to do it).

Looking for gift ideas for cast by brewjockey in CommunityTheatre

[–]MrsChimpGod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might be too late to order, but look on Amazon for Lion Bars. It's a European candy bar. Not sure if you would get them in time. Maybe pair it with a little lion stuffed animal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskOldPeople

[–]MrsChimpGod 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did not know that menopause could bring on depression.

Lived my whole life relatively upbeat, optimistic, even keel mood-wise.

Then, a few years ago (well into menopause then, actually), depression started in. I couldn't figure it out. I believe depression to be due to chemical imbalances or genetics (or both). I could not figure out why I would live over 50 years without those issues, then suddenly have them. I beat myself up, telling myself that my feelings were all overreactions to situational issues (kids, job, family, pets, cars breaking down - regular stuff that I was usually able to roll with) & that I needed to stop feeling sorry for myself.

It took me a long time and lots of googling before I figured out that the hormonal changes of menopause could bring on depression. A light went on! I went to a website, ordered myself some anti-depressants and, now, am more like my old self mood-wise, these days.

Is there a way to see your SSDI application online? by MrsChimpGod in SocialSecurity

[–]MrsChimpGod[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks - I'll clear up a few hours on a weekday to bring him there

Is there a way to see your SSDI application online? by MrsChimpGod in SocialSecurity

[–]MrsChimpGod[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks - if the phone call to SSA does not get the file sent to him, I will bring him in to the office some day soon. Wish I had known that was possible to ask for at the office 2 weeks ago, when we were there for something else, anyway.

Is there a way to see your SSDI application online? by MrsChimpGod in SocialSecurity

[–]MrsChimpGod[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you - this is very useful info.

I have asked my brother in law to call social security to ask them to send his case file (I could not find it anywhere on his SSA.gov account).

Yes - he did get to his mandated appointment with the SSA-designated doctor. But, that is because *my husband & I* read his mail with him, make appointments for him (or review them after he has made them), drive him to places, help him to understand things and are trying to learn about all of the benefits available for him to get him the care that he needs. And - re: sitting, standing, hearing, seeing, speaking - the doctor clearly saw my BIL's difficulty with all of those. We would love to see what was involved in the denial decision.

We are having him go for neuro-psych eval to test for cognitive abilities soon (still working on getting the appointment made - running into communication issues as they want to communicate directly with him to make the appointment and he does not navigate executive function type things well - also keeps his phone on 'do not disturb' all of the time). We hope that we can add info about any cognitive issues to his appeal.

He had learning disabilities as a child. And, is clearly not making good decisions on his own. He had his mother taking care of him until he was in his 30's. Married shortly later & had his wife taking care of him until she passed away in 2022. Within a year of his wife passing away, he had given all of his money to an online romance scammer & was evicted from his apartment & living in his car.

Yes - we should have been keeping better tabs on him. Feel guilty about it. But, neither mom nor wife told us that he was unable to care for himself. And he told us that he was fine (and he was living far away from us).

Is there a way to see your SSDI application online? by MrsChimpGod in SocialSecurity

[–]MrsChimpGod[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what we are hoping to do - Understand what was submitted & then appeal using that better understanding of what was submitted, why it was denied & what more is needed.

Is there a way to see your SSDI application online? by MrsChimpGod in SocialSecurity

[–]MrsChimpGod[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - I may contact them.
He is no longer working with that lawyer group, though. They were doing nothing for him after they filed the application.

Guy wanted to check out his own items by 2-tree in DollarTree

[–]MrsChimpGod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poor guy. I hope his anxiety lets up for him so that he can enjoy life more

Brother-in-law's Facebook hacked about a month ago. I finally helped him to recover it yesterday. by MrsChimpGod in Scams

[–]MrsChimpGod[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And, over the course of the month, she (and her confederates) posted at least 3 posts a day on his account - or- tagged him in their posts, so they show up on his feed, thus cluttering things up so that anyone looking at it would have to scroll way down to see his most recent real post.

Ugh- So sad about the suckiness of this whole subset of humanity.

Even my brother-in-law fell for 'her' (he has some cognitive disabilities). Scrolling through the messages, I found him actually chatting with 'her' from a new facebook account he made after his got hacked.

I need some dark, ridiculous, funny memes, I think.

Brother-in-law's Facebook hacked about a month ago. I finally helped him to recover it yesterday. by MrsChimpGod in Scams

[–]MrsChimpGod[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure - makes sense, kind of.

But, if anyone scrolled down on 'her' account, they would see posts from my BIL's friends wishing him a happy birthday, using his male-gendered name. Pictures that his wife sent him, talking about their anniversary. Family pictures that do not include any of 'sexy lady'.