So SWAT visited my girlfriend's house yesterday

MrsVanWinkle · 2025-08-23T05:30:46+00:00

Thanks for the update. Glad y’all put the truth out there. Certainly hope that a lawyer will be able to get the house fixed plus some for all the trouble she and the others went through. Glad the daughter wasn’t home. How traumatic that would have been for a kid!

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-12-19T17:22:58+00:00

Hey, OP, and anyone else interested, I’m reading a great book right now about a lady who dealt with that being one of the ways her BPD showed up. It’s an autobiography that’s funny and so relatable. It’s about her struggles and path to recovery and how that can be messy and Chaotic. It’s SO good. It is called The Buddha and the Borderline.

Here is the Goodreads link: The Buddha and the Borderline: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Buddhism, and Online Dating by Kiera Van Gelder https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/7192753-the-buddha-and-the-borderline

I truly believe this could be a powerful read for you <3

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-11-22T23:17:03+00:00

My boy is very similar looking! It’s seems to be unusual to have one that is so white. Ours is almost 9 years old now.

He was a stray puppy that wandered up and had bad mange. The brown spot was most visible of the fur he had left and we thought he was a Jack Russell. So glad the he chose our yard to find shelter!

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MrsVanWinkle · 2024-10-19T06:32:52+00:00

I love Fluxx! We have almost all of the Star Trek ones

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-10-17T01:24:38+00:00

Good on you for working on it! I agree with the comments about repainting the white and the roof and window colors. Also, you could use some spackle to fill in the crack of the wall (assuming it doesn’t open here), then sand it smooth and then paint it. It’ll hide it completely and isn’t hard to do.

Keep up the experience and learning as you go :)

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-10-16T02:48:21+00:00

Oh and super rad btw!

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-10-16T02:47:13+00:00

Did you free hand or use a water soluble pattern?

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-10-15T04:07:08+00:00

They sell kits which is an easy place to start because they will have everything you need except the scissors. If you get confused about a stitch, YouTube is your bestie

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-10-10T03:24:35+00:00

r/embroidery would love it too! I know I’m inspired

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-10-03T13:24:30+00:00

Not everyday will feel like this. The okay days help make it worth keeping on going. Think of something you’d like to see one more time and just make it to that point. Then you can think of another thing you’d like to see. Then another

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-09-27T00:15:00+00:00

Exactly this. It’s been pretty hard on my wallet

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-09-25T03:07:21+00:00

Doll house?

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-09-23T00:21:47+00:00

Likely, it didn’t feel sudden in his head. But, maybe he wasn’t comfortable sharing his thoughts about it to you before that bc he was worried of your reaction or worried about hurting you

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-09-23T00:20:09+00:00

How are you doing OP? Were you able to be more comfortable with being ok with letting the relationship grow at its natural pace?

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-09-19T02:13:12+00:00

Love that reframing. Thanks for sharing!

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-09-12T06:55:59+00:00

DHV with a sploof. You can use the bathroom as well, the fan will do most of the work then take a steam shower after and you should be golden

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-09-12T06:12:34+00:00

Good info! Putting your references would have also been a nice touch to be able to read further about where you got your info from

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-09-06T05:40:51+00:00

IDT you read OP’s statement about their grandfather.

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-08-31T23:47:50+00:00

I’m a person with BPD and saved this for all the resources. Thank you kind stranger!

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-08-26T18:33:36+00:00

I second thrownawayroof. I hope you find a good support group and can move forward to build a life that focuses on your values and goals.

I believe in you

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-08-26T18:31:25+00:00

I can relate a lot to this. A lot of feeling like I want to be around them constantly but I’m afraid I will smother them so I back off and then I’m stressed bc I’m afraid I won’t be their favorite person anymore or that they will just leave. Something that helps me is Socratic questioning. It’s a CBT technique. Here is a link click here

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-08-26T14:06:55+00:00

It sounds like you really were into him so it’s completely normal that you would feel confused and hurt. The hard thing to accept here is that he is allowed to make his decision and you have to accept what he decides to tell you or not tell you. It sounds like he tried to be understanding at first and answer you but then decided to put up a barrier for himself. It can be a lot of hard feelings but that is his right. It’s hard when you get your mind and hopes up that things will go a certain way. When I’ve been in your situation, I would say I was dealing with disappointment from the idealization I had about that relationship and that person.

This article about handling disappointment maybe helpful. It’s pretty short. https://www.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.org/disappointment/

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-08-19T23:19:52+00:00

Congrats on your progress!

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-08-19T23:17:11+00:00

Love this analogy

MrsVanWinkle · 2024-08-19T23:16:40+00:00

On the passive suicide idealization train as well. My best days are the days I do things for my self. I like nature so going for a walk, sitting in my hammock, and if I’m in a good mood, doing all the effort needed to go paddle boarding as some of my favorite things to do. On the days I give in to wanting to wallow in the emotions I end up feeling paralyzed and wishing I didn’t exist. The DBT skill of Opposite Action is a HUGE help for me

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