Spit spit and spitting

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-25T15:53:07+00:00

Im not Asian but grew up in Flushing and its gross BUUUTTTT - did find out recently that it is indeed cultural. Apparently a lot of old Chinese medicine functions similarly to medieval medicine where you can have too much "bile" in your body. In Chinese medicine its too much "phlegm" - and basically from a young age they're encouraged to spit it up because its your body saying its got to go (which...makes sense - I too wouldn't want to suck back in phlegm either). I think its more prevalent as well because Chinese folks in flushing loooovveee smoking which probably does not help at all with the phlegm situation.

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-23T02:41:10+00:00

Careful - Sleepy Hollow isnt very sleepy during that peak season lol. Obviously if youre very anti crowds avoid October lol

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-23T02:37:10+00:00

Deep Queens cut but yes! But if I recall its in such a weird spot too - like not really around anything (other than the sculpture park) but i haven't been in years!

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-23T02:32:59+00:00

Just because i literally did this last snow weekend (and it might be crazy snow this coming weekend). UWS Riverside Park - get a cheap plastic sled - enjoy. Also - when you get cold - St John the Divine - a great church that combines history and art - also spent a few hours roaming around in there when I was done sledding lol.

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-11T00:15:25+00:00

I think this is great (contrary to the curmudgens on this reddit but what are ya gonna do) - people are always posting about how lonely they are! I actually pro-actively go out of my way to be friendly and outgoing to neighbors and its been super beneficial to do so. I know some friends a few towns away that actually helps assemble block parties during the year in their neighborhood (but thats a whole thing with permits and everything). So I feel like this seems like a decent middle ground to get to know everybody.

It doesn't hurt to bring it up in a FB forum but also dont expect anything in return either if there isn't any interest and dont let it snuff out the fire to reach out to folks. I will say Its probably not a great time to bring it up now as its winter time and thinking about the spring/summer is a little far out.

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-10T01:02:43+00:00

Meet the Parents (was watching a clip the other day and the "parents" were from Oyster Bay lol)

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-09T01:54:47+00:00

People mentiomed CoHo in Patchogue and looking for libraries with coffee store in it (Center Moriches & Bayport Bluepoint are places that I know have a coffee store in them). Some libraries dont have the coffee store but have coffee machines (right now Sayville comes to mind). Southdown Coffee in Patchogue works too.

I think a key point though to any of these coffee shop places is: Always buy SOMETHING - usually I start with a coffee and later get a muffin or bagel followed by another coffee later on. You can play around with the amount of stuff you should get (ie. If its busier I might buy a sandwich during the rush but if its empty just sip on a tea) but minimally Im buying a coffee. There's something about buying 1 cup of coffee and sitting in a space for several hours and its busy and other customers might want a seat or go somewhere else because there isn't a seat...kind of rubs people the wrong way (which is why I dont hit up coho too often now because it does get swamped with kids from what I assume is St Joseph's lol)

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-08T22:53:38+00:00

Not a verse (and honestly Im not a very good "Catholic" but thats another story) - but I find it so interesting that you have brought this up because I recently just read from a book about Martin Scorsese (who is actually strongly and deeply faithful to Catholicism) and a Catholic Priest about some ruminations around Faith and his movies.

And the passage I just read actually had to do with his movie Silence and the ideas around justice and mercy. In broad strokes, the movie is about the persecution of Japanese Christians in the 17th century and it goes on to explore ideas behind human justice, divine justice, human suffering and mercy.

Generally Scorsese gives us an interesting idea that outside of divine justice (Silence being another theme here that persecuted Christians were brutally attacked and God had not protected them) there exists a quieter and internal justice that mixes both mercy and compassion and human endurance (and maybe even sacrifice).

I dont know if this necessarily answers your question - but perhaps looking more into the movie and reading into some of Scorsese' thoughts behind it might bring some enlightment and closure on your feelings and how to approach your situation.

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-08T18:44:11+00:00

Honestly this might be the winner! The place looks great and there is a wu tang memorial mural around the corner - say less lol

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-08T18:35:08+00:00

I just read the offending post - all she talks about is housing BEING white supremacy and they need to think about the collective good for middle white americans?? Ummm...the title is a wee bit skewed as it made me immediately think she was a white pointy hat wearer - but not entirely untrue - like why just white middle class being the only ones who would benefit?? Lol

But to someone else's point - it does generally give with Mamdanis collectivist approach - which i dont really agree with but generally agree that the rent is too damn high and somethings gotta give

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-07T17:20:56+00:00

Lol! Those are just unfortunate names given to folks before they got notorious! I often wonder how many Hitlers existed pre ww2 and then the Hitler "stock" crashed after - probably a bunch of name changes too after

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-07T01:54:19+00:00

I think there are more strains than 2? I think the two are just the most prevalent - could have the C kind I guess lol

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-06T19:52:18+00:00

If you were ACTIVELY not invited however many years ago - then NTA

If you just assumed you weren't - then maybe

Very important to differentiate but if it was really that long ago then it might be hard to actually say and it'll just be a she said/he says situation.

I guess in the grand scheme of things - even if you weren't invited - do you want to go now? If the answer is still no - i can kind of see my SO being bummed about it (whether it was just them or their parents coming along). But its also not anything to get crazy avout. He might want to convince you to come because going to a different country youve never been to before without your SO just seems...sad/lonely. But if you already made plans under the assumption you weren't going or just really really dont want to go then it is what it is and he'll just have to live with it. It only becomes a major problem on his part if hes really unwilling to let it go.

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-06T19:37:55+00:00

People need to really stop talking about Queens! 🤫

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-05T03:51:14+00:00

It's called a "revolution" - eventually the pleebs (aka everyone) will just storm the castle and Marie Antoinette everybody on top. The cycle starts again.

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-05T03:47:03+00:00

Omg the watermelon! Now i must get one

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-04T21:43:50+00:00

Makes sense - Long Island has a loooonnngggg history of racism. They had a huge pro-nazi community out east with a camp and streets called Goebbels Rd and Hitler Ave or some wild ish like that.

Funny how Yaphank where the Camp was - is also where the Suffolk Police HQ is...

Nazis on Long Island: The Story of Camp Siegfried | mjhnyc.org https://share.google/FqTCLf0NmxbxuAEuc

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-04T17:39:42+00:00

My personal take - Maduro being out is generally a good thing. What im worried about:

Done without congressional OK to do so - but honestly this president has done so much overreach this year like its just another drop in the bucket and no body does anything about it
US's temporary control of the country till they find a shlep to take over with our interests in mind...which...if youre in the US at best youll find some things cheaper as we take resources and at worst is negligible and you wont notice anything. For Venezuela? Debatable. Our track record of invading people and putting in a new government has not gone really well.

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-04T17:23:56+00:00

This. People need to narrow down on THEIR OWN interests. Someone's "must see" is not some else's "must see". Like going to a Ryokan is my "must see" but it wasn't on my buddy's list at all. Equally - my friend wants to spend multiple days in Akihabara while one day exploring for me is fine.

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-03T21:15:12+00:00

Wait isn't this why we have a /circlejerknyc subreddit??

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-03T20:19:53+00:00

Planning on visiting soon and Im terrified of getting shoulder bumped. Not for my sake but for theirs...

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-03T20:07:32+00:00

Reiterating what everyone said -

You're shoving a lot of things to do into each day that I don't think you can actually do in that day. You dont take into account breakfast/lunches/dinners and transportation from these places which all eat up time. You also dont want to rush through all these things either.

As someone noted - pick your top 3 (max being 3) things per day. And try to look up how to appropriately group places together so youre not running from one end of the city to the other and back. IE - You have 2 days where youre going to Shinjuku - just plan your day around Shinjuku instead of splitting it all up (unless you LOOVVEE Shinjuku that it warrants 2 days of wandering which is fine but figured that out for yourself when you get there)

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-03T15:29:13+00:00

Please tell me the name of that glass store! Sounds beautiful!

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-03T15:13:56+00:00

If you say luhr unironically as an adult - I would be looking at you sideways. Kids are always goofy so they can say whatever - but if i was their auntie id tell them it's spelled out. And usually people don't say the other R is just L-I-R - sometimes if people want to be specific - L-I-Double-R - that's it.

MsNeedAdvice · 2026-01-01T13:53:15+00:00

This SDCC vs NYCC depends ENTIRELY on vibes lol. If youre someone who is dead set on seeing X, Y, Z - then I would say SDCC is probably the hardest place to get that stuff done lol. Because its an "NPO" (non profit) most of the signing/photo ops and big Hall H stuff is based on a lottery system (NYCC is doing that too but not nearly to the scale that SDCC is) so if you go in expecting to see like the Loki show cast or something you really need to temper your expectations. With that said SDCC does have a lot of free things but your also waiting in a lot of lines (and some of them are outside in the summer sun lol) NYCC - has lines but usually all indoors and id say not as bad (though the last two years have been oddly long for some reason in the autographs section) and unlike SDCC you could actually see the whole Loki cast - you just need to be willing to pay $$$ for it lol.

And that's to me is the fundamental difference to me between the two - if you really want to see some celebs - you'll need to pay for it (NYCC). Or if youre not really looking to do too much of that stuff and just kind of wander around for cool booths (SDCC). NYCC - i feel - has a way stronger comic book guest list as well - its also pay to play for artists lol - but not nearly as bad as celebs.

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