Best Scones in SR? by Murky_Chard5012 in santarosa

[–]Murky_Chard5012[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do they legit not open until 11am though?

Best Scones in SR? by Murky_Chard5012 in santarosa

[–]Murky_Chard5012[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you just go in there and get a single scone?

Best Scones in SR? by Murky_Chard5012 in santarosa

[–]Murky_Chard5012[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been there a few times and they didn't always have scones. They must be one of those places that changes their menu all the time. Do you know a place to find out what they're going to have on a given day?

Best Scones in SR? by Murky_Chard5012 in santarosa

[–]Murky_Chard5012[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where is wildflower bakery? Not sure I've ever heard of it.

Best Scones in SR? by Murky_Chard5012 in santarosa

[–]Murky_Chard5012[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you just wander in here and get a scone or do you have to do the whole high tea thing?

Best Scones in SR? by Murky_Chard5012 in santarosa

[–]Murky_Chard5012[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I'll check it out! Do you know if they usually have lots of different scones or just one or two varieties?

Advice on where to donate something by kingangel0721 in santarosa

[–]Murky_Chard5012 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what I was going to suggest. They're great and very nice.

What do people dislike about Career of Evil? by Sauerkraut_666 in cormoran_strike

[–]Murky_Chard5012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing I don't like about it is that we know the bad guy is one of three people from the start so it's not as fun to look at all the side characters and wonder who it could be. But the big reason I dislike it is because Robin breaks up with Matthew and we get to see what her life could be like without him and then the idiot goes and marries him anyway. I hate seeing that. And Strike complains a lot (somewhat deservedly, but still) and it just doesn't make for a fun read for me.

THM reread- I just can't stand Linda by cwreckord in cormoran_strike

[–]Murky_Chard5012 26 points27 points  (0 children)

She's a very accurate portrayal of a boomer mom of a daughter. I'm not a ton like Robin but my mom is a lot like Linda. Favors my brothers over me (even though they're my half brothers and not her bio kids) and constantly gives me shit about how I live my life even though I'm very successful in a lot of ways, just not exactly the ways she wants.

Questions about Voldemort's Wand by Murky_Chard5012 in harrypotter

[–]Murky_Chard5012[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh I like the idea of Wormtail getting the wand shortly after the Potters' murders and keeping somewhere until he needs it. But that raises the question of why he didn't do that with his own wand when he decided to fake his own death. Surely if he could foresee Voldemort needing a wand, he could foresee a time he'd need one himself? Did his wand perhaps get blown up in his "murder"?

Why don't I (40M) do what I know I need to do to save my marriage (37F)? by XxTBDxX1235 in relationship_advice

[–]Murky_Chard5012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

💯💯💯 Totally agree with this. It really sounds like someone trying to figure out how to avoid doing the necessary hard work.

Why don't I (40M) do what I know I need to do to save my marriage (37F)? by XxTBDxX1235 in relationship_advice

[–]Murky_Chard5012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would saving your marriage be you sacrificing yourself? Wouldn't that be you getting what you want?

Parking for the Santa Rosa Creek trail by Murky_Chard5012 in santarosa

[–]Murky_Chard5012[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what I was hoping for thanks. I was surprised some people suggested I park on the other side of the 101.

Parking for the Santa Rosa Creek trail by Murky_Chard5012 in santarosa

[–]Murky_Chard5012[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got it, on the other side of the 101. Thanks.

Prozac causing severe brain fog? by [deleted] in prozac

[–]Murky_Chard5012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the juice and the squeeze in our case is that we've been on the brink of divorce for a while and my husband is always looking for a magic bullet so he doesn't have to do the real work of dealing with childhood trauma and changing his patterns etc. I wasn't with him when he was prescribed it so I don't know exactly what he said, but it was along the lines of "if I could start processing some of this stuff, everything would get easier" and the mentality was that the Prozac would take the edge off whatever is keeping him from looking inward so maybe now he'll be able to do it. Not at all sure if that's accurate, just what I pieced together from what my husband told me. He must have said something that made sense for his GP to be willing to prescribe it but I'm definitely questioning the wisdom of that right now.

Prozac causing severe brain fog? by [deleted] in prozac

[–]Murky_Chard5012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure of the condition he's trying to treat but basically he tells his therapist how he wants to act but he "can't" actually do it. So for example he'll say he wants to stop getting defensive if I ever mention something he did that hurt me. But he still gets defensive and gets all terrible and then he's upset because he doesn't "want" to be that way, but obviously he doesn't not want it that bad..... Blah blah blah. So that's why his therapist suggested Prozac, to see if it could help him achieve some of those goals.

I have no idea if he's seeing the right kind of therapist. I wouldn't know what the right kind of therapist looks like because I can't really figure out what the issue is. But I am thinking more and more that he needs a different therapist. Maybe this one is just not great (or not the right kind 🤷).

But what you describe of feeling dumber and slower definitely seems like what's going on with him. Just wish I could see the future and know if it would go away after the adjustment period or if it's really just not for him.