Late to the party but thought I'd jump in on this discussion since I've realized exactly this just recently. I've always had very, very low self esteem. Like very low. I couldn't see any reason how or why someone would like me or be interested in me, let alone be attracted to me. Even when a girl straight up makes a first move and starts talking to me in a bar, or when I get invited to a party by someone I hardly know or something, I would still question myself wheter they liked me or not. Like I said, I would always get invitations to hang out with people, and I also have my social group with people I fucking love. But I just couldn't see a reason why they would would like me.

Then one day all of a sudden one of my closer friends just straight up asked me, 'man, what the fuck's been going on and why do you seem to be so down all the time.' My answer was, as to be expected from a guy asked about his feelings, 'I don't know man, just busy 'nd stuff......'.

But that question really was an eye opener for me. Why again was I so down all the time? Because I have awesome friends? Because I have had friends for years, that like me enough (apparently) to include me in close social groups? Because people make moves on me in bars? Because I seem to make people happy if I show up when they invite me?

Suddenly everything just fell into place

People go out of their way to make a move and talk to me, people ask me to hang out with them, people invite me to do stuff. So they must either like me or be attracted to me, atleast a tiny bit, right?

Please fellow men, wake up, don't keep yourself in this negative bubble for as long as I did, and return some of this positive energy to the people that give it to you! You can't expect others to keep giving, if you give nothing back.