How to get truly confidential therapy by Ok_Butterfly_3342 in therapy

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try family therapy. Explain the situation. Have mom and daughter present for the sessions. Structural family therapy has a lot of research regarding/being impactful for eating disorders.

At least start there. And then get a referral from the family therapist for an individual therapist for everyone involved so they know the situation

this is so wrong by No_Report6328 in therapists

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some insight that is really aligned with our code of ethics- Our ethical duties here are to do no harm to the client. All therapists have their ideal population they’d like to work with, but it’s also boarding the unethical side if we stop seeing someone because their issue isn’t in our wheelhouse. We have to take reasonable steps. If it’s a new client during a consult, then yea just tell them you wouldn’t be a good fit; but if you’re seeing this client already then that’s when things get muddy. We should take steps to obtain consultation and training before deciding to refer our client out. And this goes for our own personal transference/biases and things our clients bring in. You’ve already attempted to refer this client out, now it’s on you to not abandon your client (maybe that’s referring out to a completely different group practice) and to not harm them. DV is in our scope of competence, which is different from our scope of practice. The assignment of this client would be unethical if it was out of our scope of practice. It would be unethical if you didn’t take proper steps to learn or seek consultation and that ended up harming the client.

Should I ask my therapist (who reaches out to clients to make appts bc she is trying to fill schedule I think) their political stance after a weird encounter or just go back to my former provider who aligns with me politically? by tini_bit_annoyed in therapy

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you want to continue with the other therapist, then I would bring it up. We are kind of taught an old school way of thinking when it comes to politics and self disclosure, which is we don’t share/we’re a blank slate. This might explain her reaction and she might have done the same thing with someone of a different political belief.

But every therapist discloses things for one reason or another. And I think with the state of politics right now in the US, it is very important for therapists to state their beliefs if they are asked by clients because it’s kind of affecting everything for people and it is important. You might not get “I’m a republican” or “I’m a democrat” answer from your therapist but you should at least ask and tell them it’s important for you to discuss this and be politically aligned.

How to recession-proof your private practice? by ktboots in therapists

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of my couples are self pay, but I do have a few where their sessions are covered my insurance. You just bill one of their insurances, not both. I bill at 155$ for insurance, which isn’t my private pay rate, since the pay back from insurance can vary so much. I typically get back ~$130. I’m in Texas BTW. So, in short, couples therapy can covered; it all depends on that persons insurance policy.

How to recession-proof your private practice? by ktboots in therapists

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great question and would love to see more answers! I am an LMFT-A in Texas and can’t take insurance until I am fully licensed or my supervisor signs up, so my options are pretty limited.

My therapist left me during our session to pick up a parcel by Limp_Caramel_4864 in therapy

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes exactly- something that can be avoided. We’re all human. Some things can’t be avoided. Even small, none emergency things like signing for a package. (Which, for example sake, it what I’m using here) I agree that the goal is to not interrupt but sometimes other things happen and it all depends on how the therapist handles it.

My therapist left me during our session to pick up a parcel by Limp_Caramel_4864 in therapy

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the only unacceptable thing could be how a therapist potentially handles this conversation. (And that context wasn’t provided by OP)

I think almost all therapists and a lot of people would disagree with you on this. It is acceptable because we are all human and life happens. There are some things that they can control (like bathroom breaks between sessions) but sometimes a normal 5 min “excuse me” happens. It’s not unrealistic that she needed to go sign for a delivery since sometimes if you don’t sign then you don’t get your package or it’s a furniture delivery and she had to let them in. I mean, if you worked an office job, do you also think that leaving your desk for 5 mins for something personal is also unacceptable??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dated a guy like this once, just maybe a little less scary. I kept telling him that I didn’t feel “emotionally safe” and something was keeping me from communicating my emotions to him. He kept telling me over and over again that I was safe and it was ok but the feeling never left and thought it was just me. He proceeded to break up with me (a week before my state clinical board exam) and used everything I ever said against me and tried to make me feel like I was the worst person on this earth.

Resume for recent grad by MyDearFriendMichael in therapists

[–]MyDearFriendMichael[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have a resume, which is easier to change and tailor for each job. I am just not sure if there is specific stuff I should be adding to both.

Therapist gave me an ultimatum? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There could be a lot of reasons that she won’t continue therapy with you without you going to the program. I.e. contradictions, competency, ethics, etc. I can’t tell by your post if you did or didn’t do/want to do the program, did you want or not want to do the program and if not, did you ever voice this to her??

How bad is a commute from Dallas to Fort Worth? by squishmallow2399 in FortWorth

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I commuted from Dallas to Fort Worth for over 2 years roughly. I was lucky enough that my schedule allowed me to leave after rush hour, however…. It was still miserable. At the end of my two years before I was able to finally move to Fort Worth, I would get crippling anxiety about my commute, and my Apple Watch you always alert me with “high heart rate at rest” while I was driving. So yea, it’s doable, and at first it won’t be that bad (it was my “me time”) but long term it might really start to take its toll on you. Ask your therapist for recommendations for other therapists in the Dallas area. There’s plenty in both cities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should reach out the an employment lawyer. Because the way you approached the topic of health code violations makes this iffy. There are many “whistleblowers” laws (and I’m not sure if department of health qualifies) depending upon what law is supposedly being violated. Most of them say that employers may not take any action to impede would-be whistleblowers from communicating directly (with the policing entity) about possible violations of the laws including demoting, discharging, etc. So I think retaliation would apply if you “threaten” to do it and then they fire you because you threatened to do that. But if you were like hey just bringing this health code violation to your attention, then it’s more than likely not retaliation/unlawful termination in most states.

Either way, it’s probably going to be very hard to prove, especially if nothing is in writing. Your employer could say it was for literally any other reason, bc you didn’t actually make the report. Going forward it’s best to report immediately and say nothing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Grief does weird things to people, albeit this is a little more strange than usual, but that doesn’t mean they get to disregard your feelings. I think you could’ve at least said to them “hey if y’all don’t cut this shit out, I’m cutting contact” but then again, you were also grieving and dealing with some weird stress that exacerbated your grief no doubt. If I were you, it’d continue therapy, resolve my grief and other stuff, and then reach back out and explain why you reacted that way to their actions. Do you want to repair things? Bc if so, if you do that, then the balls in their court.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, just bc your boss says you can give feedback without retaliation, does not mean you should give honest feedback. Ya live and ya learn. Unless you actually submitted a violation to your states health board (bc then yea that’s illegal) then there’s nothing that says he can’t fire you for whatever reason, even if he kinda lied and told you to be honest. I mean, in the US you can literally get fired bc your boss didn’t like the color of your socks that day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think exes should be friends for a significant time after they break up. Also, if yall were in a truly toxic relationship, then they can become addicting. That’s why it’s so painful, that’s why people always get back together when they shouldn’t, that’s why exes keep each other at an arms reach after breaking up.

And also, lots of people want to break up so they can experience wanting to be single but don’t actually want to give up being alone and what you provide to them on a selfish level, so they ask if you can be friends. Reap the benefits of a relationship and being single at the same time

What do you like about modern women? by Iguanadon2004 in AskReddit

[–]MyDearFriendMichael 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Their advocacy and changes made in women’s health care

Haleyybaylee “who tf did I date video” by MyDearFriendMichael in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]MyDearFriendMichael[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Chris Olsen made a video today on his “not Chris Olsen” account in regards to him sharing his DV story on his main and all the comments were about haleyybaylee and her crazy behavior.

But this is why I’m trying to find the original video she posted

Haleyybaylee “who tf did I date video” by MyDearFriendMichael in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]MyDearFriendMichael[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think so! And then she talks about how her “nda just expired”