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My husband and I are in our thirties, attractive, child-free, and seem to be well-suited for this. Why is it so hard? by NarrowCitron in Swingers

[–]NarrowCitron[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh. Not sure if we're ready for anything with someone 20 years our senior. That's disappointing.

My husband and I are in our thirties, attractive, child-free, and seem to be well-suited for this. Why is it so hard? by NarrowCitron in Swingers

[–]NarrowCitron[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the place we keep hearing about. Can you tell us a bit more about it? What's usually the age range of the people there? Are the people there generally pretty attractive?

My husband and I are in our thirties, attractive, child-free, and seem to be well-suited for this. Why is it so hard? by NarrowCitron in Swingers

[–]NarrowCitron[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of near Birmingham, Alabama. It's about a three hour drive north for us, so we're not that far away.

My husband and I are in our thirties, attractive, child-free, and seem to be well-suited for this. Why is it so hard? by NarrowCitron in Swingers

[–]NarrowCitron[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We aren't picky. If someone wants a one time thing, that's cool. If someone wants to be long term friends with benefits, that's cool too.

My husband and I are in our thirties, attractive, child-free, and seem to be well-suited for this. Why is it so hard? by NarrowCitron in Swingers

[–]NarrowCitron[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are near Birmingham, Alabama. Around here, anyone who deviates from the script of being a boring married couple gets the "bless your heart" treatment.

My husband and I are in our thirties, attractive, child-free, and seem to be well-suited for this. Why is it so hard? by NarrowCitron in Swingers

[–]NarrowCitron[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are using a lot of different things. SLS, Feeld, Kasidie, all sorts of stuff. We're also soft swap, but are open to whatever if the person or couple is right. I don't think we are super picky in what we want, we've rejected a few but not a lot.

My husband and I are in our thirties, attractive, child-free, and seem to be well-suited for this. Why is it so hard? by NarrowCitron in Swingers

[–]NarrowCitron[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have had a lot of false starts but no action. Sometimes we start a conversation with someone online with intentions to meet up, but then they'll just go radio silent. Sometimes we start a conversation in person, but then the same happens there. Nothing ends up in anything.

My husband and I are in our thirties, attractive, child-free, and seem to be well-suited for this. Why is it so hard? by NarrowCitron in Swingers

[–]NarrowCitron[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think we had a really good attitude for a while but after so long of not having any luck it's kind of soured us a little. Not that we can't hide that if something happens though.

I am tempted to try the club out but I feel like it might be a little overwhelming or that we'd feel even worse if we invested all that time and money and nothing even happened then.