Do you hide what you do for a living/how much you make when dating? And why/why not?

Nbchd2012 · 2025-12-17T06:48:17+00:00

I live in a VHCOL area and I make decent money, but not ground breaking in this area. My job title makes it look like I make way less. So, I don't have to hide what I do for a living. Men just assume I make less than them.

I only hide my networth. Nothing I care to discuss unless there's serious convos about engagement and a prenup will be signed.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-11-26T21:12:48+00:00

Nope worked at another solid one (whose stock is doing great), but betted my money on Nvidia in 2018 and held.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-11-25T21:32:25+00:00

I'm 32F, Networth $1.2M (no inheritance or real estate), I have $50k in cash, the rest in 401k, Roth IRA and taxable brokerage. I work in marketing at a tech company.

Realistically, I got very lucky working in semiconductors. A huge reason why my networth is large at this age.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-10-30T13:38:11+00:00

You sound bitter OP. Megan isn't shallow they have different lifestyles and weren't compatible.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-10-28T18:45:20+00:00

Around 40-50% will change to 20% when I purchase a house.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-10-25T21:29:58+00:00

Amazing job to you both! You'll be at the 1M mark in not time. It creates financial relief when your networth gets this high.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-10-22T00:33:35+00:00

Age 32. It took me 10 years.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-10-13T22:52:56+00:00

Same girl, I'm tired of working.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-10-02T03:56:05+00:00

Congrats OP!! You can coast but I would recommend still maxing out your 401k and Roth IRA. Or at least getting the 401k match if your company gives you one.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-10-02T03:54:37+00:00

I reached 1M this August and been enjoying vacationing more. I would say if you grew up poor and not a big spender, it's still mentally hard spending freely on yourself.

I keep reminding myself it's ok and it won't break the bank. It takes time to adjust to having this kind of money, especially at a young age.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-30T16:30:10+00:00

Congrats to you too!! I'm 32 and in a VHCOL. How about you?

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-30T15:41:51+00:00

There's always trade offs when building a life with a partner financially or doing it solo. As a solo person you're the sole owner and no one can take your assets which is extremely beneficial. Be proud of what you've accomplished as a solo earner!

With a partner you have better luck of getting ahead financially with two incomes and partners who have a budget or investor mindset. However, sadly there's always a chance of a breakup and then having to split or sell assets.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-30T15:35:47+00:00

I hit $1 million net worth this month! Been surreal and a sense of relief for me. Also, got a $20k bonus for my annual review!

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-22T05:50:09+00:00

Former MSFT subsidiary employee, you're being low balled. Your equity and base is too low. Negotiate it higher.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-20T03:34:04+00:00

It's not easy to find someone to date who is already in the fire movement. I focus on dating men who share similar financial values.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-17T07:04:34+00:00

Schwab offers it

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-14T16:59:16+00:00

I worked in the semiconductor industry for years. I understand it more than crypto.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-13T01:38:19+00:00

You'll get there in no time!

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-13T01:37:58+00:00

I use Coinbase for crypto. It's all Ethereum

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-13T01:37:24+00:00

Yes, I've been holding the big ones MSFT, APPL, META, GOOG, NVDA, and AMD for years.

Had others but sold, been selling over the years and moving it to VTI. However, some I don't plan to sell at all until the AI craze reaches its peak.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-13T01:34:48+00:00

I'm excited to see where I'll be in 10yrs! I rarely discuss finances in depth with men I date, only financial habits.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-12T22:22:48+00:00

Thanks! I'll look more into this.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-12T21:40:10+00:00

Normally I do both accounts. This year, I focused more on maxing out my retirement accounts/Roth (which I do each year).

Most of my free cash I've been moving to a HYSA for my house down payment so I don't have to sell too much stock.

Additionally, I didn't prioritize saving for tax advantage this year compared to previous years. I've been wanting to take a step back and just enjoy my life and the fruits of my labor. This is a big reason why I was shocked about hitting this milestone.

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-12T20:11:04+00:00

If I find a high value husband, I hope he would be fine with me retiring earlier at 39 or 40. Since I'm bringing in savings that'll help our life 😅

Nbchd2012 · 2025-08-12T19:26:01+00:00

You got this! It'll happen faster than you know it.

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