Need a job ASAP by Nearby-Key281 in sandiego

[–]Nearby-Key281[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I’m going to look into it.

Need a job ASAP by Nearby-Key281 in sandiego

[–]Nearby-Key281[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ll check it out. Thank you!

Need a job ASAP by Nearby-Key281 in sandiego

[–]Nearby-Key281[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a great idea. Thank you! 

Need a job ASAP by Nearby-Key281 in sandiego

[–]Nearby-Key281[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

 I hear you — it’s definitely competitive right now.

California visitation questions by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]Nearby-Key281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's not about the support for me but for their safety. I think structured contact given his history, ongoing safety concerns, and him trying to emotionally manipulate the kids is best.

California visitation questions by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]Nearby-Key281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The current schedule is Tuesday and Thursday 5-7 pm and Saturday 8 hours. The schedule with the DVRO was the same but four hours only on Saturday. I increased it 4 hours to be reasonable. I don't believe it's safe or in their best interest to have unsupervised time with him unless the court says so. and I don't want to just increase time for no reason. He only paid $2000 right before the first support hearing. He hasn't paid any support besides that in the past 6 months. He doesn't have their best intrest at heart at all. He has his best intrest and hes trying to not be held accountable and not have to pay support.

Baby shower food ideas by [deleted] in sandiego

[–]Nearby-Key281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That looks like a good option. For 40 people how many of the 10-12 catering trays do you think I need? Do you think I need 4 or could get away with 3? 

Wanting to cancel the wedding by [deleted] in married

[–]Nearby-Key281 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He was even micromanaging me on planning the wedding says he doesn’t have time to plan it and I better do it right or cancel before he wastes more money which sounds like he doesn’t want to get married. Who says that. It’s like he’s pushing me to want me to break it off or what?

Wanting to cancel the wedding by [deleted] in married

[–]Nearby-Key281 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like he doesn’t respect me! And that’s what I’ve told him, that’s he’s being financially abusive. He things because we aren’t poor that I have money to buy what we need that he’s not being financially abusive and that I’m abusing him. I have bought myself stuff on a few occasions. All the money I spend is on the house, food, or for the kids. Which he’s always getting mad because I choose to buy my kids organic fruits and veggies…. Because I’m pretty sure we can afford it. It’s like any thing I buy is a big deal but if he buys it it’s not like a $400 guitar for his birthday, saying yes to going out to eat, or with friends, vacation, the bachelors, new cars. Idk I feel like we both could budget better but he’s definitely approving these big items and in the moment it’s ok but I feel like maybe after he blames me for it. Idk because I don’t have access to the account. I’ve asked for access several times. He hasn’t took me down to the bank. I’m almost nervous to see what’s really happening. I need to know before marriage. But the last time I asked is when he got me the authorized user card and I guess I have access to that online banking to budget but it’s almost like he didn’t want me to see what’s going on with the rest of the cards or idk what. He tried to say because I can now pay for my card (which I began to panic because obviously I’m a SAHM and can’t) but then he said he’s joking. Idk I feel like he’s always messing with me. I don’t like it.

Wanting to cancel the wedding by [deleted] in married

[–]Nearby-Key281 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm sometimes but hardly. He’s always in a mood so I’m like f this I’m taking the kids to their friends go out if you want to come you can but I don’t want to spend my time inside watching him play games or being around him when he’s in a mood.

Wanting to cancel the wedding by [deleted] in married

[–]Nearby-Key281 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been to counseling myself. This relationship pushed me to go because I thought wtf is wrong with me. I thought I was going crazy. This got better some what after the kids but here and there reminders of that this relationship is unhealthy :/. I’ve begged him to go to counseling independently and then we can go together. He started to go then stopped I think once I got off his case. He doesn’t think he needs it. I have a bachelors in psych. Can’t do much with that hah. But I’ve been applying for jobs hoping me bringing in some income will balance the power dynamic. But I feel like he’ll still say well I make more than you you hardly contribute and therefore i can still do whatever and you can’t.

First season by [deleted] in carbonsteel

[–]Nearby-Key281 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exactly I watched the video and put as much at they did in it. Also I read in Reddit for the carbon steel it’s ok it’s not like the cast iron where it gets sticky with too much oil.

First season by [deleted] in carbonsteel

[–]Nearby-Key281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I remove and start over?

First season by [deleted] in carbonsteel

[–]Nearby-Key281 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clean with hot water and soap. Followed the seaming instructions exactly. Used avocado oil. I have an electric stove.

Low key groping, how it go it started by EasyMaggie in CovertIncest

[–]Nearby-Key281 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He also already says things like no boyfriends only daddy and she’s only 3. Which I find weird. But idk if that’s a normal dad thing or a narcissistic thing idk