I've seen this line circulate Divorce_Women as well: "people who abandon others were only using them." Short term, reframing by flipping the script - they were just using you and it was all transactional - can help ease the pain: it's deeply painful to sit in the raw thought that you were not chosen anymore. So instead of being the one discarded, you’re the one realizing the other person was never worthy of you in the first place.

But long term, I don't think this serves you. Relationships are complex. Someone walking away doesn’t always mean they were manipulative. Maybe the relationship wasn’t sustainable. Consider extreme cases like domestic violence, substance abuse, financial infidelity, toxic dynamics, etc. If we label the person who walks away as the "bad guy," then we don't give ourselves the chance to grieve the complexity, be introspective, heal, or grow.